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Courtney  asks... 4/19/2008 12:51:45 PM 
Dear Gabby: I'm going to high school in a few months, and im kinda worried about making the right friends... how can i find good christian people to hang out with?

Answer:
Dear courtney, You sound like a very sensible young lady who knows how important it is to surround yourself with people who are following Jesus and living their life for Him instead of trying to fit in with the world. If there are no Christian youth groups at your high school, this may be a great opportunity for you to start one. You can also come into the Oasis chatrooms and forums, where you can meet and fellowship with many other Christian teens and participate in awesome Christian Teen Programs that will help you grow in the Lord. Remember also, that even if someone isnt a Christian, it doesnt mean you shouldnt befriend them, as you can be a witness to them of Christ's love and truth and lead them to Jesus. The Bible tells us that we are in the world, not of it. Although we may be surrounded by worldly things and people, we do not belong to the world and should not become influenced and enticed by worldly things, but must remain firmly rooted in Jesus and shine our lights for those who are in the darkness. Represent Him to all you come in contact with. To find how you can Represent Jesus, please check out the My Brother's Keeper Program: http://www.christianityoasis.com/MyBrothersKeeper/Forum.htm Pray about this and always let the Holy Spirit guide your words and deeds.
Ginger  asks... 4/10/2008 11:28:56 AM 
Dear Gabby: How do I choose between being bisexual and being a christian?

Answer:
Dear Ginger, Thank you for writing in. Many teens, and adults alike will reach a point where they feel that they are being pulled in two different directions. One road leads to Jesus, and the other is so very tempting in that it offers them what they feel will make them happy here on earth. How do you choose? We must look at it thru our spiritual eyes instead of our worldly ones. Jesus is the only way for salvation and eternal life. Nothing or no one here on earth can gain us entry into heaven except Jesus Christ. He is THE WAY. For this very reason, we must be prepared to choose Him over all else, even tho the other paths may be so very appealing to us. Christians are in no way perfect human beings. We make mistakes, we sin, we have trials and tribulations in our lives, addictions and other problems that we struggle with. This does not mean that we do not love Jesus or are not worthy of following Him. He knows we fall short,that is why He gave His life for us.He accepts and loves us, in spite of our imperfections, and promises us that if we seek His will in our lives, He will help us to overcome those things that we are struggling with, and bring peace to our hearts. The choice is simple. Eternal life thru Jesus... or all the other paths that offer only temporal happiness and pleasures, which will fade away along with the rest of the things of the world. Please pray lots about this and check out the following study, which will help bring understanding on this matter: http://www.christianityoasis.com/Keyword/Homosexuality.htm
kelly  asks... 3/27/2008 5:51:41 PM 
Dear Gabby: dear Gabby thank you very much for your advice. I have another question i hope i dont anoy you but i have a firend and she is very humble she's everything i think a christian should be i have always been telling myself that i want to be like her (in character) but is it o.k. for me to ask God to make me to be like her, Because i have been Baptised for at least four years but i do not see where my christian life has improved since then, is it o.k. for me to say that i been a Christian since six years old but baptised when i was about 13

Answer:
Dear kelly, I appreciate you writing in and you would never annoy me :) It is wonderful to have Christian role models, whose words and deeds inspire us to live more righteously. It is fine for you to want to have similar qualities as your friend, but if you are going to ask God to make you more like anyone, then you should ask Him to help you become more like our Lord Jesus Christ, as He is the only example of a perfect, holy and sinless life. Though role models give us inspiration and encouragement, it is Him that we are to strive to emulate in every aspect of our lives.We become a Christian when we accept Jesus into our hearts and lives, as our Lord and Savior. Water baptism represents a physical symbol of washing away our sins. It matters little how long one has been water baptised, or even if they are water baptised, for accepting Jesus brings the true baptism, the baptism of the Holy Spirit. What matters is that you choose Jesus, and dedicate your life to following Him and doing the will of God. THAT is what makes you a Christian. As always, pray lots about this.
kelly  asks... 3/25/2008 11:51:13 PM 
Dear Gabby: dear gabby it's my first time talking 2 u, i notice that when i go to church on sundays i feel motivated and happy but during the week i am not so close to God anymore, i feel like a complete trash, what do u think is causing this? i am also worried about going to college i am afraid of not fitting in with everybody else because i am so small,help me sort this out please, thank you

Answer:
Dear Kelly, Thank you for writing in. A lot of Christians seem to think that just a few hours on a Sunday at church is enough spiritual nourishment for their souls, until the next Sunday rolls around. As you have found out, this is just not so. The Bible tells us that if we put God first, all the rest will fall into place: Matthew 6:33 ‘But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you’. When we don’t have a strong relationship with God, other aspects of our lives begin to suffer. Our relationship with God is far more important than any earthly relationship, but sadly, most times it is the one we spend the least amount of time on. The answer is simple: The more time you devote to God, by way of prayer, reading the Bible, communing with the Holy Spirit, Bible studies etc. the stronger your relationship with Him will be. So give more of your time to the Lord and watch the difference it makes in your life, as opposed to a couple hours one day a week. As far as not fitting in with everyone else at school, Why would you want to? Fitting in usually means following all the popular worldly trends that so many others become slaves to. You are unique. God made you different from everyone else and He made you in His image. What you look like on the outside does not change who you are on the inside, and if you have Jesus within you, all things are possible. So don’t be afraid to be YOU. Start a new trend... Don’t be concerned with what other people think of you, but seek to please God first and be proud of who He made you to be instead of trying to become what the world wants you to be. Pray more about this and check out this wonderful study that will help you to better understand who God wants you to be: http://www.christianityoasis.com/Keyword/WhoAmI.htm
Worried  asks... 3/25/2008 2:23:39 PM 
Dear Gabby: Hi Gabby my whole life I have wanted to be a professional athlete of some sort and I read the study called Follow Me a couple days ago and now I am wondering what I should do?

Answer:
Dear Worried, Man makes many plans, but it is the Will of God that will prevail. It may very well be that becoming a professional athlete is part of God’s plan for your life, but there is only one way to know for sure. Following Jesus means placing His Will above our own, so pray and ask Him to reveal to you what His Will is, and then you will find peace in your decision. Whether you continue to pursue becoming a professional athlete, or head out in a whole new direction, with God leading you, you have nothing to fear. If you want to find out if you are called to serve God and how you can go about doing so, please check out the My Brother’s Keeper Program: http://www.christianityoasis.com/MyBrothersKeeper/Forum.htm Pray lots about this and seek to find what God’s will is for your life.
Ycart  asks... 3/10/2008 2:42:14 PM 
Dear Gabby: Hey again.Ummmm are we allowed to write in the Bibles. like make notes and hightlight and write?

Answer:
Hi again dear friend. The Bible is the Word of God, given to us so that we can learn more about Him and His plans for us. Taking time to study the Bible, as opposed to just reading through it, is very important to order to understand the depths of the words within it. If you wish to jot down little notes that help explain certain words or scriptures, and highlight certain parts of it that stand out to you, there is nothing wrong with doing so, as it is an effective way of learning, understanding and remembering what has been read. Look at it this way ... Righteous works for God can not contend with God. As always, be sure to pray about this.
Ycart  asks... 2/25/2008 9:08:02 PM 
Dear Gabby: hey its me again after some time huh? yea. well today was an okay day i guess. umm i mean no offence by this question it just came to me. when like we do something wrong and we know it and then something wrong happens in our lifes like we get sick or just everything goes wrong is it a fact to say its God punishing us? or not? what i mean is does God punish us? oh i remember another question: should we fear God? umm also i was wondering if God still prays for us? or is it like my friend says "Who does he pray to if He's God?" right ? maybe that question isn't good.is there a paradise and a heaven? umm okay this is teen stuff i guess. i should concentrate in school right and not let boys get to me? cuz ther's these boys who are saying things about me that are lies and at first it made me mad. then i thought that that just fills my heart with unneccesary hate and anger so i should just disregard it right? okay so another story. umm i've never ever had a boyfriend. but before i was good i used to make it seem like i did by like acting suspicious and stuff. but i was just messing around. so my Christian grandma says that i shouldn't have a boyfriend cuz its bad and wrong and she doesn't believe me when i tell her that i don't. i kindda deserve not being believed right? well i'm being honest. i even told her God knows i'm not lying but she said i shouldn't involve Him in my lying. so she doesn't believe me. what should i do? do i just keep it as is knowing that God and I know its true and thats the most important? wow that sounds right. its the second time i type this cuz i accidently cleared it the first time so that answered myself huh. still tell me. ummm can you also pray for me cuz i've been having bad thoughts about when i grow up and leaving my family behind me and starting somewhere else. i don't want that. i want to save my family and be with them. I think Dear Gabby is a blessing . thank you

Answer:
Dear Ycart, You have many awesome questions that show your enthusiasm and passion to learn more about God. I want to send you to a place where you can not only get the answers to the questions you have now, but you will also learn many more interesting and wonderful Truths about God that you may not have known before. Check out our Christian Walk Studies page: http://www.christianityoasis.com/Keyword/CoolChristianStudies.htm It’s tough when people say things about us that aren’t true, and it hurts us, but Jesus asks us to forgive them, as He has forgiven us of our wrong doings, and to not harbour hatred against them, but to love them and do good unto them instead. Luke 6:27-28 ‘But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you.’By your choosing to forgive and forget and not retaliate in anger, you are truly reflecting the Love of Christ to others. If you are being honest about something, and others do not believe you, then leave it in God’s hands. Trust that He knows the heart of all matters, and will reveal the Truth in His time, and don’t let this distract you from your calling to serve God. Keep your eyes, and your thoughts on Jesus, and ask the Holy Spirit to lead you into God’s will in all matters. Pray more about this and know that I am praying for you too. GBU.
Rebekah  asks... 2/18/2008 11:06:27 PM 
Dear Gabby: hi I wnat to get babtized but am afraid my mom will expect more from me. what should I do?

Answer:
Dear Rebekah, What about what Jesus expects from you? Are you doing what He asks of you? Being baptized is a physical symbol of washing away one's sins, but when you accept Jesus into your heart as your Lord and Saviour and become a Christian, you are now a follower of Christ, and there are things that God expects from you. John 12:25-26 He that loveth his life shall lose it; and he that hateth his life in this world shall keep it unto life eternal.If any man serve me, let him follow me; and where I am, there shall also my servant be: if any man serve me, him will my Father honour. Jesus asks us to pick up our crosses and follow Him. Mark 8:34 And when he had called the people unto him with his disciples also, he said unto them, Whosoever will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me. Find out what Jesus expects of you by getting to know Him through reading the Bible and prayer. Get to know Jesus and what He has done and continues to do for you, and you will find yourself wanting to do what He asks of you out of Love for Him. John 14:23-24 Jesus answered and said unto him, If a man love me, he will keep my words: and my Father will love him, and we will come unto him, and make our abode with him.He that loveth me not keepeth not my sayings: and the word which ye hear is not mine, but the Father's which sent me.Pray more about this and check out this study that will help you better understand what it means to be a follower of Jesus: http://www.christianityoasis.com/Keyword/FollowMe.htm
silver2001  asks... 2/15/2008 9:10:28 AM 
Dear Gabby: I just became christian 2 months ago, and i'm scared if i hop religions again like in the past. i move religions cuz' something in one religion gets boring and i don't want to hear it at the time, what should i do to stop this cycle?

Answer:
Dear silver, thank you for your letter. You need to ask yourself if you are ready to find the Truth. There are many religions out there, but Jesus tells us that there is only one path to God, and that is through Him. John 14:6 'Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me'. The reason why you may have gone from religion to religion in the past, was perhaps not cuz they were boring, but maybe cuz you did not feel Truth within their beliefs and teachings. God has brought you to this point. He has led you to Christianity and to Jesus, and this is your chance to find out for yourself if this is the Truth. And when you find the Truth, it shall set you free, and you will no longer feel the need to keep searching. Seek to find Truth. Where your soul will spend Eternity is at stake. Pray lots about this.
Ycart  asks... 2/14/2008 10:31:18 PM 
Dear Gabby: Thank you again Gabby for ur advice. Well its valentines day today and i wrote a card to some of my teachers. Is it not appropiate to tell them to trust in God in the card? I like wrote that they were great teachers but one of my teachers shared a personal problem with us a while back and i could tell he was letting it bring him down and he was ashamed cuz well now he has to use a hearing aid. so i wrote that he shouldn't let that bring him down cuz God is always with him and with him all things are possible. but then on the card i also put hat i was sorry if what i wrote sounded dumb but then i regreted that cuz it was like doubting myself on my belief of God. But its not wrong is it? to tell him to trust in God. I mean he has admitted that there's a God out there .

Answer:
Hello again dear friend. Do not worry about what others consider to be appropriate, but instead follow your heart and seize every opportunity you find to share God with others. Jesus tells us that if we confess Him before men, He will confess us before His Father: Matthew 10: 32-33 Whosoever therefore shall confess me before men, him will I confess also before my Father which is in heaven. But whosoever shall deny me before men, him will I also deny before my Father which is in heaven. Which is more important? What God thinks? Or what other people consider appropriate? Dont let fear of what others will say or think silence what you know to be Truth. Stand up tall and proud and Represent Jesus in all you do and say, and in so doing, be a light that will lead those who are lost and in the dark, back home to God.We have an awesome program for teens who feel they are Called by God to serve Him, which will help you find out what your spiritual gifts are and show you how to use these gifts to Represent Jesus and glorify God. Have you checked out the My Brothers Keeper Program yet: http://www.christianityoasis.com/MyBrothersKeeper/Forum.htm
Ycart  asks... 2/10/2008 10:59:50 PM 
Dear Gabby: Dear Gabby, thank you for your past answer. I just read your reply today. My very good Christian friend is coming over to my house more often and a couple of days ago when she left my house my mom asked me something. She well stated that I was getting realy close to my friends religion and i said i was.She then asked why. At first, i truly panicked. It was the chance to tell them what it was all like. I told her it was nothing alike the church we went to. I told her that you feel so much more joy and peace and closer to God. She didn't really say anything back and I don't think i said the right things. At school I'm joining a youth alive club. Should i feel ashamed because i don't know certain things? I mean today i went to church with my Christian friend and I had to ask her what the difference was between the old testiment and the new testiment. Then i asked her when can we say God Bless You. And then i asked if God and Jesus was the same person. And i don't know how to well look for passages in the Bible. It takes me a while to breath and actually ask the question. I know it's the only way i'll learn but should i care of what others think?Of how much i'm totally late in knowing?

Answer:
Dear Ycart, Good to hear from you again. It is awesome that you are getting involved in activities that will help you learn and grow in the Lord. Never feel ashamed about seeking to find the answer to things that you are unsure about. Jesus Himself told us to Ask, Seek and Knock: Matthew 7:7-8 Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you: For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened. Don’t let worry and fear about what others will think or say, keep you from seeking to find the answers to your questions, as the Truths that you discover, will not only bring peace to your heart, but will also help enlighten others who do not know about God, as you are doing now with your mom. Do you know that by simply sharing how you felt with your mom, you have actually planted seeds within her, that may someday grow and blossom? Be patient and don’t get discouraged, but continue to plant those seeds of Truth by way of your words and deeds. That is what we are called to do, and it is God who will make them grow: 1 Cor 3:6-7 I have planted, Apollos watered; but God gave the increase. So then neither is he that planteth any thing, neither he that watereth; but God that giveth the increase. Check out this awesome study, that will help you to understand more about Jesus: Gospel of Jesus Christ http://www.christianityoasis.com/TellMeTheStoryOfJesus/Forum.htm
kearstin   asks... 2/7/2008 7:15:00 PM 
Dear Gabby: HELP!!i have a friend who needs help bigtime. her dad beats her and her mom yells at her all the time. she is going to run away to my house. if she can't she'll kill herself. i don't know what to do. shes tried calling the people who are suppost to help, but her parents won't go to the door and she will surely kill herself if she is living with people she doesn't know. please help me, this is very urgent, she runs away tomarrow.

Answer:
Dear Kearstin ... We are unable to give much advice on this, other than to say that it is best for her to contact the authorities or for you to do so for her as to discover what can be done to resolve this issue. Pray about this and may God's will be done.
Ycart  asks... 1/30/2008 10:54:57 PM 
Dear Gabby: Well, i was baptized two summers ago along with my sisters in another state. We had gone to spend the summer with my Christian family memebers there and my sisters and I, so I thought loved it. I loved going to church and feeling a part of joy and love and feeling close to God more u know? Our aunt told us it would be very hard when we came back because our parents weren't Christians. I can't complain cuz we were warned. My sisters fell back into the worldly ways not even a week from our return. It was very hard for me to keep going when I felt so alone. Now the present I haven't gone to church in a while. One of my friends invites me to hers once in a while and i'm thankful for that because it gives me an excuse to tell my parents if i can go to church. I recently started praying again. The good praying that makes me feel good i guess. My mom got sick a couple of weeks ago and she asked my sister and me to pray for her something she never does. I feel that she truly believes in God's power but other times it seems she just has no hope. I want to talk to her more about what God can do and what prayer can do when you yourself pray, but i don't know how to bring out the subject. I don't know where to start. I feel like if i tell them they'll think i'm just not adult enough to know what i'm talking about and not take me seriously. How should I tell them? Should I tell them at all?

Answer:
Dear Ycart, What if you are the one that God has chosen to lead your parents to Jesus? Don’t let fear about what they would think and whether or not they would take you seriously, keep you from having what may be THE most important conversation you may ever have with your parents. This is about where their souls will spend eternity. This is definitely a conversation worth having, and could change your parents’ life forever. Even if they do not immediately choose to become Christians, you would have planted seeds of Truth within them, that over time could grow and blossom. God has placed it on your heart to share the love of Jesus with them and He will not forsake you. Pray and ask the Holy Spirit to give you the words to reach your parents, and then follow His guidance. Let Him speak through you. Luke 12:11-12 ‘And when they bring you unto the synagogues, and unto magistrates, and powers, take ye no thought how or what thing ye shall answer, or what ye shall say:For the Holy Ghost shall teach you in the same hour what ye ought to say.’ Do not let fears that you are too young, keep you from sharing God’s word with others. The prophet Jeremiah was but a child when he was called by God to be a prophet to the nations. Jeremiah had the same concerns and said to God: ‘Ah, Lord GOD! behold, I cannot speak: for I am a child’. And God said to Jeremiah: ‘Say not, I am a child: for thou shalt go to all that I shall send thee, and whatsoever I command thee thou shalt speak. Be not afraid of their faces: for I am with thee to deliver thee, saith the LORD.’ And then God put out His hand and touched Jeremiah’s mouth and said to him: ‘Behold, I have put my words in thy mouth.’ In the same way, the Holy Spirit of God will give you the words to reach those that God has called you to witness too. Pray lots about this, and check out this awesome study that will help bring understanding and peace to your mind and heart: http://www.christianityoasis.com/Keyword/YoungAtHeart.htm
Joleen McCormack  asks... 1/30/2008 5:25:13 PM 
Dear Gabby: What should I do when I like somebody, then see something I didn't want to see, (as in a video) and they accuse me of waisting their time, when I am about to tell them. (The person that was in the video). What do I do when I want to tell the guy what happened, and that I like him?? Help! I'm scared!

Answer:
Dear Joleen, No matter what the situation, honesty is always the best choice. Let this person know that you are seeking his best interest by letting him know the truth and not trying to hurt him or waste his time. If he is truly your friend, he will understand and appreciate your being upfront and honest about the situation. If you know of something that is potentially harmful to yourself, your friend, or someone else, make sure you let your parents or guardian know, so that they can take steps to ensure that no one gets hurt. Pray more about this and ask the Holy Spirit to guide your words and deeds.
Madisen  asks... 1/30/2008 5:22:12 PM 
Dear Gabby: What should i do when everyone else at school is doing the wrong thing and influencing me to do the wrong thing as well?

Answer:
Dear Madisen, When people encourage you to do the wrong things, they can make it seem quite exciting and try to convince you that it's the "cool" thing to do. But what they will never tell you are the consequences of these actions. Just look around and you will see the results of the choices to do wrong. From broken hearts to suicide. We all have a choice to do the right thing, or the wrong thing, and if we choose to do what we know in our heart is not right, not only will we be held accountable for our actions here on earth, but with our heavenly Father as well. James 4:4 Therefore to him that knoweth how to do good and doeth it not, to him it is sin. We will encounter many people in our lives who will try to get us to follow down the path that they are on,but only one path leads to Jesus and eternal life. Make sure that this is the one you stay on by making the choice to do what our Lord Jesus would want you to do. It is better to be considered uncool by others than to risk being led astray and away from Jesus. Always ask yourself WWJD - What would Jesus do? and then let the Holy Spirit help you to make the right decisions for Jesus. Real friends will respect your choice to do the right thing as they will truly care for your safety and well being, and you may even start a new trend and inspire others to make righteous choices as well. Pray more about this and check out this awesome program for those who want to follow Jesus instead of the world: http://www.christianityoasis.com/ChildOfGod/Forum.htm
Rebekah  asks... 1/28/2008 4:26:04 PM 
Dear Gabby: There is this boy i like at worship. I do not know if he likes he. How would I approach him. Also how would I go about getting a boyfriend

Answer:
Dear Rebekah, Thank you for your letter. Now, you can go out and get a boyfriend, like most others choose to do because they are feeling lonely or because they want to fit in with those around them, OR, you can choose wait for your soul mate. Remember you don’t just want ANY person to share your life with, you want The One. Your soul mate that God has picked out for you, and when God feels like you are ready, He will bring you two together at just the right time. Don’t jeopardize your relationship with the one God has chosen for you, by rushing into a relationship just to be in a relationship. It will only bring you heartache and pain in the long run, as anything that is not God’s Will usually does. The foundation of any strong relationship is built on friendship and trust, and of course, God. So get to know others as friends first, and if it is God’s will for a friendship to grow into something more later on, it will happen. But don’t be impatient, take your time, and wait for God to reveal your soul mate to you. Put God first, and all the rest will fall into place: Psalms 37: 4-5 Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass. So don’t allow anyone or anything to distract you from your First Love, Jesus. Use the time that you have now to build a strong relationship with God, and find out His will for your life. Pray more about this and check out the My Brother’s Keeper Program for teens, which will help you find out how you can use your spiritual gifts and talents to serve and bring glory to God : http://www.christianityoasis.com/MyBrothersKeeper/Forum.htm
Jordan Stoakes  asks... 1/26/2008 2:22:52 PM 
Dear Gabby: Dear Gabby, My parents and my brother aren't into God the way i am and i am afraid that they will not be saved when their time comes. What should i do?

Answer:
Dear Jordan, Jesus told us this parable: Matt 5:14-16 ‘You are the light of the world. A city built on a hilltop cannot be hidden. No one lights a lamp to put it under a tub; they put it on a lamp-stand where it shines for everyone in the house. In the same way your light must shine in the sight of men, so that seeing your good works, they may give praise to your Father in heaven.' Now we cannot force anyone to accept and follow Jesus, as we all have to make that choice for ourselves. But we who know Him, can go out and shine His light so that those in the dark will see and be led to Him. Have you tried talking to your family about how you feel and your fears that they will not be saved? I know that sharing Jesus with our loved ones isn’t always easy, but you can try bringing Jesus into your home in different ways that include your family. For example, you can try suggesting a Bible Board Game or Trivia Game, or perhaps renting a great Christian movie and having a movie night, doing a Bible study, or even sharing your favorite Christian music with them. These activities can open up discussions and give you the opportunity to talk to your family about how you feel. There are many ways to share Jesus with others, however, you must not get discouraged if those around you don’t immediately want to change their ways and come to Christ. Just continue to plant seeds of truth by way of your words and deeds. Let your life be an example of Jesus’ love so that those around you will want to have that peace and joy that they see in you. Don’t give up, cuz we know that the time is short, and those of us who are in the light must do all we can to bring God’s lost children back to Him. Look at the examples of perseverance and dedication set by the apostles and those saints who went before us, and remember that we must keep trying to spread the truth of Jesus with as many as we can. I have an awesome program for you, which will teach you how to use the spiritual gifts and talents that God gave you, to go out into the world and become what Jesus has called us to be… Fishers of Men. Check out the My Brother’s Keeper Program: http://www.christianityoasis.com/MyBrothersKeeper/Forum.htm Pray more about this and keep shining that light for Jesus .
Chelsea  asks... 12/20/2007 1:16:54 PM 
Dear Gabby: I don't know what to do...My parents are very good christians and they are pastors too. but they get on my case about my weight. I am 125 and my mom freaked out. I have now become anorexic and I dunno...

Answer:
Dear Chelsea, Thank you for your letter. Too many people these days are concerned with what is on the outside, instead of looking within. Cuz that is who we truly are you know. The body is just a shell that houses our soul and spirit, and it is susceptible to age, diseases and other factors that will cause it to deteriorate over time. It is not eternal,but our souls are. Most people give thought and time to make sure their bodies look good, while totally disregarding the condition of their soul, when the soul is what will live on when the body dies.. God makes it clear what He looks at and what matters to Him. 1Sam 16:7 ' for the LORD seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart.' Do not let anyone make you feel as if you are less of a person because you do not look like the emaciated models on the covers of many magazines these days. Your body is your temple, and yes, you should take care of it so that it will serve you well while u serve the Lord here on earth. But God has made you unique. There is only one Chelsea. He does not want you to try to live up to any man made standards to look like someone else. What other people say and think about us, does not define who we are, as most will judge what is on the exterior. Look within and know that you are a Child of God.You are made in His image and He wants you to be who He created you to be.Not try to conform to who the world wants you to be. Pray more about this.
nikki  asks... 11/30/2007 10:35:58 AM 
Dear Gabby: dear gabby, i've been going through alot of hard times since my loved ones died. My mom and brother died in a car wreck in 2003 and my grandfather died when i was one that was in 1991. I miss them and im still going through the grieving stages i thought i would be done going through them but i'm stuck in the grieving stages. please give me some advice on how to move on.

Answer:
Dear Nikki ... Most will say during these times that they know just how you feel, when they truly have no clue unless they have experienced such loss. However, I have been there and DO know what you are feeling as I lost those most dear to me as well. I was finally able to conquer the lonely, cold, empty feeling within by asking myself a simple question and I would like to ask it of you ... IF you could hear what your loved ones were saying to you right now, what do you imagine it would be that they would say? Would they say "yes, that's right girl .... Waste your life mourning for us." Or would they say "We love you and we want you to be happy and carry on" ... See, we both know our loved ones would not want us to be holding these horrible feelings but rather out there living for something. Another thing that made me see TRUTH and gave me the ability to find that peace within was knowing ... Where my loved ones were. Check out the following studies to understand more about what happens when someone dies ... http://www.christianityoasis.com/EndTimes/FearOfDeath.htm http://www.christianityoasis.com/Keyword/AbrahamsBosom.htm Your lost loved ones are not DEAD in the sense of being gone forever. They have just passed from this realm to the next. So put away the sadness and do as your loved ones would want ... It is your time to REPRESENT ... It is your time to fight the good fight of Faith. It is your time to live and love. Pray lots about this and ask God to bring to mind and heart the TRUTH of this matter as to find PEACE. If you need to talk more, contact me at WebServant@ChristianityOasis.com
Mia  asks... 11/18/2007 7:06:10 PM 
Dear Gabby: I really want my friends to come to Christ. I want to take them to a conference but i cant find one. Can you help me? I live in Chicago.

Answer:
Dear Mia, That is a GREAT idea. Try going on Google and searching for Christian conferences in your area. You could also get all your friends to become members for free at www.ChristianityOasis.com and then meet in our Christian forums and Chat room and get your own youth group going ... It's free and we have cool stuff they would like like Christian CD player, shout box, games, studies, neat programs, contests with Christian prizes and even a My C-O-O-L Space where they can make their own web site. Pray about this and God's will be done.
Stefani Torres  asks... 10/23/2007 9:01:53 PM 
Dear Gabby: Hi! Two sundays ago i was in a member class at church. I have only been saved for about 4 months. While one of the leaders of my church was speaking he turned to me and asked me, " are you a sophomore?" i said "yes". He said, "the holy spirit told me that". Then he said, "you have the power to save your high school". Now that came to me as shocking. I was like wow. I know i should pray about it but i dont exactly know what to pray about it. Also is there any people in the bible who had a somewhat simliar experience to mine? and is this considered a calling?

Answer:
Dear Stefani ... That is AWESOME news. We have a program called "Child of God" ( http://www.christianityoasis.com/ChildOfGod/Forum.htm )that you should consider checking out. It is designed to help young people who feel they have been called by God to serve Him and gives ideas on how to do so. Like you said ... Pray about this and ask for God's will to be done.
caitlyn  asks... 9/27/2007 11:55:06 PM 
Dear Gabby: i dont understand god at all.i dont no if god is just figure of speach or real.i want god to real so bad.how will i no.i dont fill liked or even loved by him.

Answer:
Dear caitlyn, You are not alone. many have been at a point where they wanted to know whether God truly existed or not. God knew that we would have these questions, and He gives us the solution in His Word: Jeremiah 29:13 'And ye shall seek me and find me when ye shall search for me with all your heart.' How would you determine if anything is real or not? You would get all the information you can about it and then diligently go through it to determine whether you felt in your heart that this was the truth or not. The same thing applies to God. He doesnt want to force us into believing in Him. He wants us to choose to do so. And the only way we can decide if we believe He is real or not, is to learn more about Him. He has given us the Bible, which is His Word, so that we can learn about Him and then choose what we believe. This desire that you feel to know whether God is real or not is Him nudging you, tugging at your heart and inviting you to get to know Him.The best place to start is by reading the Gospel of Jesus Christ, who God sent to die on the cross for our sins because He loved us so much. The bible tells us no one can come to the Father except through Jesus Christ: John 14:6 - 'Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.' So this is an great place to start. Ask God to grant you understanding of His Word as you begin this amazing journey. Then open up your heart and mind and seek Truth. He will reveal Himself to those who are seek Him with all their heart :) Check out this awesome study on the Gospel of Jesus Christ : http://www.christianityoasis.com/TellMeTheStoryOfJesus/Forum.htm .
Supposedly "Saved"  asks... 8/12/2007 3:06:34 AM 
Dear Gabby: I have this Christian friends, and they think they are better than me because they have been "saved" and it doesn't make sense, I mean I do somewhat believe in God, and I do pray. But, I don't get why they think I should be "saved" when they liked me BEFORE they knew I didn't go to church. I don't really know if they are my true friends. Are they? What should I do? Please help me!!!

Answer:
Dear Supposedly "Saved" Thank you for your letter. Being 'saved' is a term used by those who have accepted Jesus into their hearts and lives, and are now following Him instead of the world. Jesus is referred to as our Savior, because through His dying for our sins, all mankind was given a second chance at eternal life, as He became the sacrifice for our sins. When someone accepts Jesus as their Lord and Savior, they are saved from the punishment of an eternity in hell for the sins they committed. If you have accepted Jesus as your Lord and Savior, and you are seeking a personal relationship with Him, then you are 'saved'. You stated that your friends think that you should be saved like they are. Perhaps they want for you what they have, which is a personal relationship with Jesus and the chance at eternal life. They may be so enthusiastic about wanting you to know Jesus, that they may not realize that the way by which they are doing so, is hurting your feelings and making you believe that they do not like you anymore. A good question to ask yourself is: If they didn’t care about me, would they want me to receive the gift of Salvation like they did? Honesty and communication are important ingredients in any friendship, so talk with your friends in an open, honest and loving manner, and let them know how you feel about this. Accepting Jesus and becoming 'saved' is a personal decision and commitment which can only be made by the individual themselves, and not forced upon them. Jesus wants us to come to Him willingly and He waits patiently for us to do so. Although your friends may want this for you, the decision is yours to make. Pray more about this.
Foolish And Confused  asks... 8/12/2007 3:01:42 AM 
Dear Gabby: Well, I am starting to think I should not believe in God anymore. I mean, I have been praying for my mother, who has been leading her life into nothing but havoc, and who is also an alcoholic. I have been praying that she will come to her senses, and face all the damage that has been dome. I have prayed so much for her, and I still haven't heard from her since she last emailed me, which has been about a month. I am just starting to believe that He isn't listening to me. What should I do? I have been praying for my mom ever since I was 5 and I am 13! That is 8 years! Pleasee! Help!!!

Answer:
Dear Foolish And Confused I understand how badly you want for your mom to start making better choices and decisions for her life, and this is evident from how much you have been praying for her to be able to do that. And I also understand why you are becoming discouraged, as you feel like what you have been praying for, for so long now, just isn’t happening. But this does not mean that God isn’t listening to your prayers, or that He doesn’t care about you and your mom. It can however, mean that what you have been praying for may not be God's will at this point in time. It is important to remember that when we pray and ask God for something, no matter how badly we may want it, we should always ask for His Will to be done, above ours. Jesus gave us an example of how we should pray, by asking for God's will to be done: Matt 6:8-10: for your Father knoweth what things ye have need of, before ye ask him. After this manner therefore pray ye: Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven. God sees the beginning and the end, we only see a small part of what is in between.He knows why He allows certain things to happen, even if we may not understand why.He has the best possible plan and purpose for each of us, and His timing is better than ours. When Jesus was in the garden of Gethsemane, he was distressed and saddened, knowing that He was going to be tortured and killed. But Jesus prayed for the will of the Father to be done: Matt 26:39: And he went a little further, and fell on his face, and prayed, saying, O my Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me: nevertheless not as I will, but as thou wilt. Matt 26:42: He went away again the second time, and prayed, saying, O my Father, if this cup may not pass away from me, except I drink it, thy will be done. Even knowing the pain and suffering that was to come, Jesus prayed that the Father's will be done. God had an amazing plan,that would bring salvation to mankind, but in order for us to receive it, Jesus would have to die. Because our prayers are not answered in the way we want them, doesn’t mean that God doesn’t love us or is punishing us. Because He loves us so much and wants the best for us, He may hold back from giving us what we want now, in order for us to receive something even more awesome later on. Continue to pray for your mom, and let God know that you are trusting in Him by praying for His Will to be done, above all else, in both your mom's life and in your's. For more on effective prayer, check out this study: http://www.christianityoasis.com/Keyword/EffectiveChristianPrayer.htm
cunfusseled  asks... 8/8/2007 10:01:39 PM 
Dear Gabby: I HAVE BEEN A CHRISTIAN SINCE I WAS 8 AND I NEVER QUESTIONED GOD UNTIL A COUPLE OF MOUNTHS AGO. I WAS SAYIN MY NORMAL PRAYERS AND THEN I STARTED WONDERING IF GOD EVEN EXIST AND AT THAT MOMENT I COULDNT FEEL HIM LIKE BEFORE I'V WENT THROUGH FOUR MONTHES OF PAINFULL DOUBTS AND FEAR AND IM SCARED WHAT IF THERE ISN'T A GOD AND HOW WILL I COMPLETELY GET BETTER AND THE REALLY SAD THING IS IV ASKED FOR SIGHN AND GOT THEM BUT I STILL WONDER AND DONT FEEL GOD LIKE I DID BEFORE SO COULD YOU PLEASE HELP ME THANXS

Answer:
First of all, let’s look at what you wrote in your letter: I WAS SAYIN MY NORMAL PRAYERS AND THEN I STARTED WONDERING IF GOD EVEN EXIST AND AT THAT MOMENT I COULDNT FEEL HIM LIKE BEFORE. You grew up believing in God and praying to Him and you were able to feel Him because of your faith in Him. But, when you began to doubt that He existed, at that moment you couldn't feel Him anymore. It is not because He doesn't exist that you don’t feel Him anymore. It is because your doubts and fears are blocking you from feeling Him. There is a great story in the Bible that shows us what happens when we allow doubts and fears to affect our faith. Matt 14:22-31 "And straightway Jesus constrained his disciples to get into a ship, and to go before him unto the other side, while he sent the multitudes away. And when he had sent the multitudes away, he went up into a mountain apart to pray: and when the evening was come, he was there alone. But the ship was now in the midst of the sea, tossed with waves: for the wind was contrary. And in the fourth watch of the night Jesus went unto them, walking on the sea. And when the disciples saw him walking on the sea, they were troubled, saying, It is a spirit; and they cried out for fear. But straightway Jesus spake unto them, saying, Be of good cheer; it is I; be not afraid. And Peter answered him and said, Lord, if it be thou, bid me come unto thee on the water. And he said, Come. And when Peter was come down out of the ship, he walked on the water, to go to Jesus. But when he saw the wind boisterous, he was afraid; and beginning to sink, he cried, saying, Lord, save me. And immediately Jesus stretched forth his hand, and caught him, and said unto him, O thou of little faith, wherefore didst thou doubt?" See Peter was already walking on the water, going towards Jesus, when he allowed what was happening around him, the stormy winds, to cause doubt and fear, and when that happened began to sink. Just like Peter, you are experiencing doubts and fears and this is what is keeping you from feeling His presence. There can be a lot of different reasons why you experiencing these doubts. Perhaps it is what others around you are saying, or what you have read in book or magazines, or seen on TV or movies, or even satan, who may be tempting you with these doubts and causing you to question whether God exists. Whatever the reason, there is one cure. Faith. God is always there, you KNOW He is real because you have felt Him before, and as you stated, you have asked for and gotten signs from Him. As you grow older, you may have questions about God, but this is not a bad thing. Allowing others to influence or decide what you believe is. God tells us to search for Him with all our hearts and He will reveal Himself to us. Among the many ways God reveals Himself to us is through His Word, and through the Holy Spirit. Open your heart and mind and spend more time with Him in prayer and with the Holy Spirit, and reading your Bible and studies. This will strengthen your Faith and once you allow faith to replace your fears, you will be able to feel Him again. Pray more about this :) GBU always.
hannah tucker  asks... 6/25/2007 9:48:43 AM 
Dear Gabby: i am a shy girl who has a crush on a boy in church, a BIG crush. problem is i dont think he likes me, i think he likes another girl. shes skinny and im chubby. ive tried to loose weight, but its so hard. what can i do to make him notice me? im too shy to even talk to him....

Answer:
Dear Hannah, Thanks for writing in. It can be hard to make new friends especially when we are self conscious about the way we look or how different we are from others. But we need to remember that God made us all different from each other. He gave us all different gifts and talents. There is no one out there that is the exact replica of someone else. He meant for us to be Unique. If He wanted us to all look the same, He would have created us that way. Most people will tell you that there is at least one thing about themselves that they wished they could change, and more often than not, it is related to physical appearance. This is cuz the world has set a specific standard of beauty that is dependant on external appearance only, and constantly bombards us with this thru images in magazines, tv, movies, etc. People think that if they do not look like those on the magazine covers or on tv, that they are not good enough. Most are not aware of the many tricks used in promoting this idea of worldly beauty. Models starve themselves to be skinny, despite risks to their health. Photographs are airbrushed to perfection. Plastic surgery is used to permanently change what one deems imperfect. And then it is marketed to us to try and encourage us to look the way these people do. But is this what God wants for us ? He created us all as Individuals. Unique and special in our own ways, and each of us equal and loved in His eyes. If someone likes you only for the way you look, then that is gonna be a big problem at some point, if not now, then later on down the road. Because our external appearance does not stay the same. The body ages and is affected by disease and lifestyle, and what was once considered handsome or beautiful, is now considered yesterday's news. One has only to look at those same models and movie stars that everyone wants to be like. They are in the spotlight for a short time and then forgotten about and replaced with someone else. The world judges us by how look and what we have, but God looks within, at our hearts. Whose opinion counts more? His or other people's ? Maybe one of the reasons why you feel shy to talk to this boy, is cuz God wants you to focus your attention on other things right now, like serving Him and seeking His will in your life. And when the time is right, when God wills it, you will meet that special person and He will give you the courage you need to go up and talk to them and begin building a friendship. Put God first,and all the rest will fall into place. Matt 6:33: But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. In the meantime, stay true to the person God created you to be. Be the unique Hannah that He loves and cherishes. Stand proud and REPRESENT Jesus and set an example for those around you who may be in danger of falling prey to the lies of the world. Let them know that true beauty comes from within. Pray more about this.
A little un comfortable  asks... 5/30/2007 11:31:15 PM 
Dear Gabby: Hi,my problem is, when i hang around my friends I try to get them involved with God when the subject comes up, but none of them relly believe and I kind of feel like i'm pushing but i want them to be saved, they respect that i have my beliefs, am i respecting their space if i keep trying to convert them? What should i do?

Answer:
Dear A little un comfortable, What a loving child of God you are to care enough about your friends to want them to be able to have the gift of Grace and Forgiveness and Eternal Life that you have received. However, you need to be careful that your intense desire to convert them to Christianity doesnt actually do the opposite of what you are trying to accomplish. You stated that you kind of feel like you are pushing, and if you feel that way, chances are that this is what is happening. As it is now, your friends respect your beliefs, and you are able to share with them about God, but if you continue to push, this may change. Many Christians, in their passion and enthusiasm to share the love of God and the truth of Jesus with others, sometimes appear overbearing to those who they are trying to reach. This can discourage potential Christians, as they may become overwhelmed. This in no way means that you are to give up trying to lead your friends to Christ, but if you find that one way isnt quite working out the way you want it, you may consider doing this in other ways. One of the best ways to share the love of Jesus with those around you, is to let your fruits reflect Him. That is, let your words and deeds represent God. The way you speak, act and react, dress, the music you listen to, the movies you look at, your values and morals, all of your characteristics, can be a powerful testimony of what God can do in a person's life. Continue to set the example and let your light shine, and those who are in the dark, will see your light and desire to have that too. Remember, we are called upon to share the truth of Jesus with those who do not know of Him, but we cannot force someone to become a Christian, no matter how much we care about them and want them to be saved. They are the ones who must choose to believe in Him. We can only plant the seeds, and God does the increase. Pray more about this.
need some advice  asks... 5/25/2007 11:41:10 PM 
Dear Gabby: i like this guy and he says he loves me so much that he doesnt want to hurt me is that a good thing or a bab thing?

Answer:
Dear need some advice, I think it is definitely a good thing when someone cares enough about you to be honest and upfront with you, instead of leading you on and deceiving you. You should be glad that your friend chose to be truthful, as it will allow both of you the opportunity to continue to grow as friends, instead of him encouraging another type of relationship that may end in tears and heartbreak, because one party is not ready or as commited as the other.Many times, what we want or think is best for us, may not be God's Will for us. God has the best possible plan for each of His children, and we need to trust in Him and His timing. He sees ALL, whereas our vision is limited. What may appear to be negative or hurtful, can actually turn out to be a blessing in disguise, as it may save us from further hurt and pain later on in our lives. Pray about this and seek God's Will in your life.
confused love  asks... 5/23/2007 8:08:26 PM 
Dear Gabby: Dear GABBY, I'M scared that i start liking people in church and have less time with God. idk if i'm starting to like someone but I just don't want to fall for the traps. I want to keep going the way i am and also don't want to get hurt by the crushes.Already had in school.

Answer:
Dear confused, Sounds to me like you are less confused and more on the right path than you think. You seem to have a pretty solid head on your shoulders, and already know what you want your first priority to be, and that is GOD. This is the way it should be. Him first and all the rest will fall into place.Matt 6:33: But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. Use the lessons learned from your past experiences to help you identify and steer clear of the traps of temptation that so many young people fall prey to, because they seek other humans or material things to bring love and happiness to their lives. You already know the truth, that God is the source of Love and Joy, and keeping this truth close to your heart, will help you to make the right decisions when it comes to relationships. Always remember, it is best to wait for the right one, that person that God has chosen for you, than to settle for just anyone. When God sends your soul mate to you, you will be ready and will not fear, as His timing is perfect. In the meantime, continue to do all you can to glorify God.Psalms 37:4: Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.Re-affirm your commitment to Him by becoming involved in activities where you help others and do His Will. Surround yourself with other Christian teens who are striving to put God first in their lives,who share the same beliefs as you do, and will be able to encourage and support you in your Christian walk. Worry not about what might happen, but trust in the Lord and allow Him to lead you. Pray more about this. Here is a great program that will show you how you can use your spiritual gifts to glorify God http://www.christianityoasis.com/MyBrothersKeeper/Forum.htm
lj  asks... 5/22/2007 3:18:43 PM 
Dear Gabby: hey.. its me again.. lj.. thx for the advice.. and i try to stay away and i never go around him any more but its difficult cuz our familys are close and h ang out lots but i now never go around him ...at all... anymore... and i told ona my close friends about it and she was like.. you need a tell an adult cuz he isnt gonna stop... and what he is doing is not right and you dont deserve that.. im just scared to tell anyone. he said not to and .. yeah. idk. what do i do

Answer:
Dear lj, Thank you for sharing more about this problem. I understand that you are scared to tell an adult about what has been going on, especially as your family and his are close. But you have two choices here: either you tell an adult and put a stop to what he has been doing or you stay quiet about it, and it continues on as it has been. By letting someone know, your ex will be able to be held accountable for his actions, and will have the opportunity to get the help he needs to overcome this type of behaviour. If you choose to say nothing then his actions may escalate and become more aggressive, and you may find yourself in an even worse situation than the previous times. I am in agreement with your friend on this matter, especially as you are not able to stay away from him, as both families have a close relationship and spend time together. I advise you to stand up for yourself and not allow him to scare you into being quiet. Do not believe that by telling the truth you are acting in an unloving way toward your ex, because it is just the opposite. When you care about someone, you do all you can to lead them back on the right path when they stray from it. By telling an adult about what has been happening, you are not only protecting yourself, and allowing your ex to get the help he needs, but you may be protecting other girls who are, or may someday be affected by this guy's behaviour. Always be honest, the truth will set you, and him, free. Trust in the Lord and allow Him to lead you. Pray more about this.
lj  asks... 5/21/2007 6:38:45 PM 
Dear Gabby: hey just need some advice. not sure what to do. im not explain it all but pretty much... yesterday i went over to my exs house to drop off some of his sisters things that she had left at my house and only he and his younger bro was home so i thought he wouldn't try nothin so i went to get something in a different room and he dollowed me.. both of them but then he... my ex told his bro to leave and he did... then i was like...i need to go and so i went to leave and he came behind me and put his arms around me and then pulled me down on top of him on the bed and tried **** and i was like dude... i need to go and he kept asking why and i was like cuz i need to and i dont want you to do that to me... and then he finally let go and then he chased after my and was you want this book...cuz i had asked to borrow a book for class and he said well come get the book and he was on the bed so i was like no can u just hand me the book and so that was when i was like im leaving cuz i knew what he was thinking... hes done it before and tried lots of ways to get something outta me.. and so i was leaving and he chased after me and was like oh come on ____ you got a while... you dont need a go home yet... come and get the book ... and yeah.. so.. idk what to do cuz hes tried **** like that before and i try to stay away from even putting myself into any situation like that and i thought he was changing cuz his parents were like ..yeah hes been reading his bible alot and he hasnt tryed anything lately.. but then i havent been around him where its only us and/or someof his little siblings... he nver does it when parents or adults are around... so... idk. im just confused about what to do... how to approach this... any Godly advice...?

Answer:
Dear lj, From what you wrote, it is obvious that your ex-bf has been, and is still intent on pressuring you to give in to his demands for a physical relationship. As sad as it is, this happens to many others, and a lot of people give in to the pressure and what follows is usually heartbreak and regret. We may not be able to control what other people do, but we can control what WE do and think and how we respond to situations. If you know that this guy tries to coerce you into doing things that you know are wrong and do not want to do, then do not allow yourself to be alone with him. Stay away from situations where you and him will be alone together, as you were doing before. You have to make the decision to not place yourself in a situation where you may be tempted, or, where you can get hurt. Choose wisely. There is one person out there for you, your soul mate, who is chosen by God just for you, and he will come along when God deems it the perfect time for you two to be together. In the meantime, do all you can to glorify God and seek His will in your life.Hang out with other Christians teens who will encourage and uplift you and help you stay on the right path. Do not compromise your beliefs and morals for those who do not care enough about you to respect and treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Like a precious child of God. Pray for God's guidance.
Tiffany  asks... 5/14/2007 10:58:02 PM 
Dear Gabby: My friend is a jehovah witness and she told me I shouldn't eat like pork or any seafood besides fish. She also told me to read leviticus 11 and now i dont know what to do because the bible is truth and it did say not to eat pig and stuff. what am i suppose to do i was raised eating it and i never heard my church talk about it. is it because we're baptist?

Answer:
Dear Tiffany ... What an excellent topic you have brought up. Your concerns will vanish if you will check out what the Bible REALLY says and let TRUTH flood your mind and spirit. To begin with, the person who told you this is quoting Old Testament laws given to the Israelites. God gave the Israelites these laws and it was kinda like a blood pact or a deal between God and the Israelites known as the Old Covenant. Mankind broke the deal because they could not hold up their part of the bargain so God knew He would have to make a NEW Covenant and even foretold this: Jeremiah 31:31-34 ... Behold, the days come, saith the LORD, that I will make a New Covenant with the house of Israel, and with the house of Judah: Not according to the Covenant that I made with their fathers in the day that I took them by the hand to bring them out of the land of Egypt; which my Covenant they brake, although I was an husband unto them, saith the LORD: But this shall be the Covenant that I will make with the house of Israel; After those days, saith the LORD, I will put my law in their inward parts, and write it in their hearts; and will be their God, and they shall be my people. And they shall teach no more every man his neighbour, and every man his brother, saying, Know the LORD: for they shall all know me, from the least of them unto the greatest of them, saith the LORD: for I will forgive their iniquity, and I will remember their sin no more. ... Mankind had broke the law so many times that all the sacrifices in the world would not remove the sin. So God, who loved them so dearly sacrificed His Son to get His children into Heaven. The blood of Jesus cleanses away that sin and brings in the New Covenant. Hebrews 8:6-8 ... But now hath He (Jesus) obtained a more excellent ministry, by how much also He (Jesus) is the mediator of a better covenant, which was established upon better promises. For if that first covenant had been faultless, then should no place have been sought for the second. For finding fault with them, He saith, Behold, the days come, saith the Lord, when I will make a NEW COVENANT with the house of Israel and with the house of Judah. ... Jesus echoed this TRUTH when He said Matthew 26:28 ... For this is my blood of the NEW TESTAMENT, which is shed for many for the remission of sins. ... Now this New Covenant does NOT only apply to the Israelites but also the "Gentiles" which is anyone who is not Jewish. NOW ... When the Jesus had died for our sins, resurrected and 40 days later ascended to Heaven, the Apostles began to spread the Gospel of Jesus. Paul was chosen to be the main preacher to the "Gentiles" ... The Apostles had a disagreement over the rules the gentiles should live by. Some thought the Gentiles were to obey the old Jewish laws and customs but The HOLY SPIRIT told them what should be and this is it: Acts 15:28-29 It seemed good to the Holy Ghost, and to us, to require no more burden than these necessary things, that you abstain from meats offered to idols, and from blood, and from things strangled, and from fornication: from which if you keep yourselves, you’ll do well. ... In short if you are not Jewish ... YOU are a GENTILE. You are not BOUND to JEWISH customs of the Old Covenant. As Christians, we are bound under the NEW COVENANT (New Testament) not the Old Covenant just as our Father said He has broken the Old Covenant. My friend, our Lord Jesus said it best when He said: Mark 7:18-20 ... Are ye so without understanding also? Do ye not perceive, that whatsoever thing from without entereth into the man, it cannot defile him; Because it entereth not into his heart, but into the belly, and goeth out into the draught, purging all MEATS? And he said, That which cometh out of the man, that defileth the man. In other words ... It is NOT the meat that goes into us but the words and deeds that come out of us that will be judged. I will close with something Paul said: 1Timothy 4:1-4 ... Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils; Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron; Forbidding to marry, and COMMANDING TO ABSTAIN FROM MEATS, which God hath created to be received with thanksgiving of them which believe and know the truth. For EVERY CREATURE OF GOD IS GOOD, and NOTHING TO BE REFUSED, if it BE RECEIVED WITH THANKSGIVING: Sooooooo, your friend is just quoting customs of the Israelites BEFORE the New Covenant. The REAL commands are to Love God with all your heart, soul and mind and to love one another. This is the foundation of the law and if you do this everything else will fall into place. So do NOT go and say "neh nee neh nee boo boo" to your friend, but rather share TRUTH with LOVE and be at peace within YOU. Check out the New Covenant study and the Grace study to get more insight. These can be found in our C-O-O-L Christian studies section. Pray for the Holy Spirit to give you discernment and understanding in all matters. Luv ya
Desiree'  asks... 5/10/2007 9:58:00 PM 
Dear Gabby: What happens when someone acts like your friend when theres not alot of people around. But when there is alot of people around they act like you dont exist> What should I do?

Answer:
Dear Desiree, The foundation of a solid friendship is based on truth and trust. I would suggest that you try speaking with your friend, from your heart, and letting her know exactly how you feel when this happens. If you say nothing, it may continue on the same way and because you are hurt and confused by her actions, the friendship will suffer. By being honest and upfront about it, you will have the opportunity to save your friendship with this person. Keep in mind also, that sometimes people are not always aware of how their actions affect others, and letting them know in an honest and loving manner can bring forth change. Pray about it and ask the Holy Spirit to guide your words and deeds.
Jezzy  asks... 4/23/2007 10:37:32 PM 
Dear Gabby: Dear Gabby, thanx for answering my other letters. I have another question, my life seems to be going in the wrong direction.... way wrong direction. My friends here keep telling me Jesus is the only one who can solve your problems, not anything else that you do. I know that's true... but how can you get him to hear you, when you need him?

Answer:
Dear Jezzy, When you realize that you are heading in the wrong direction, you have two choices. Keep going in the direction that you are heading in, and go further and further down the wrong path, OR stop right where you are, turn around and head in a different direction. One that will lead you closer to where you want to be. Recognizing that the path you are on is the wrong one should give you that desire to jump off ur current path and onto the right path by making wise choices and decisions. Jesus promised us that He would never forsake us. He is always ready to carry our burdens IF we call on Him. Jesus is always there. He always hears us, so the real question is, do WE hear HIM. For many it is hearing His voice and discovering His will in our lives that is difficult. This is because of the many external influences that we choose to follow and listen to, instead of praying, asking and waiting on Him to speak to our hearts and minds. When Jesus ascended to Heaven, He did not leave us alone, but left us the gift of the Holy Spirit, the Comforter, that lives within us. The Holy Spirit warns you when you are doing something that isnt pleasing to God. So your recognizing that you are moving in the wrong direction is actually discernment, from the Holy Spirit, nudging you away from what is a potentially dangerous path, that will lead you away from God. So without you even realizing it, He is answering you and you are hearing Him. It is up to you to listen and choose to do what He wants you to do.Let His voice be the one you listen to. Do not allow the voices of the enemy and the world to become the voices that lead you. Continue to pray and seek God's will in your life, and then be patient and listen for the answers. Learn more about your friend, the Holy Spirit, and how you can build a relationship with Him in this awesome study http://www.christianityoasis.com/TempleHolySpirit/default.htm
hAnNaHrOxXD  asks... 4/7/2007 10:37:08 PM 
Dear Gabby: i just got saved last wednesday. only one of my friends know about it. she was raped. alot of bad things happened to her. but i know exactly how she feels. been there, done that. i told her how better it was to have jesus and god. u can talk to them about anything. i want her to go to heaven. but it just seems that she is not interested in the hole god thing. what should i do?

Answer:
Dear Hannah, Let me start off by saying how happy I am that you made the decision to accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour.When we come to know the Truth about Jesus,we find ourselves wanting to share that Truth with those around us, so that they too may become saved and have eternal life through Jesus.However, even though we may be anxious to tell others about Him, some may not be ready to HEAR it, as you are discovering with your friend. Do not be discouraged.If your friend doesnt wish to listen when you try to talk with her about God, then try another approach. Teach her by example, that is, continue to grow in your faith and relationship with God, and let this show through your words and deeds. In other words, REPRESENT Christ. Those around you will notice the changes in you and this may be the way you can reach your friend. Let her and others know about what the love of Christ has done for you, by becoming more like Him. Perhaps someday, your friend may come to you and ask what brought about all these amazing changes in your life.Then you can tell her all about Jesus.Please pray more about this, and also, check out this awesome program for teens, which will help you discover how you can use your spiritual gifts to REPRESENT Jesus.http://www.christianityoasis.com/MyBrothersKeeper/Forum.htm
gale  asks... 3/25/2007 5:25:59 AM 
Dear Gabby: Dear Gabby, Can you tell me where in the bible does it say Satan is or can come as a angel of light? Thank you!

Answer:
Dear Gale ... Keep in mind that it does not actually say that satan IS an angel of light but rather that he can APPEAR to be one. ALWAYS look at the entire context of what is being shared in the Bible. When one looks at the entire context of this verse we find that Paul was was warning against false teachers. Here is the Scripture ... (2 Corinthians 11:13-15 - For such are false apostles, deceitful workers, transforming themselves into the apostles of Christ. And no marvel; for Satan himself is transformed into an angel of light Therefore it is no great thing if his ministers also be transformed as the ministers of righteousness; whose end shall be according to their works) So you see, we are being warned against false teachings being taught as though they were righteous teachings. The verse you are asking about is really saying: SATAN CAN PRETEND TO BE AN ANGEL OF LIGHT ... Pray for God to give you the gift of DISCERNMENT from the Holy Spirit when you read His Word and ALWAYS confirm what you are being taught, no matter how pretty the words may be or how comfy they make yuou feel. Take care and have a SON-sational day.
Godluvr4life  asks... 2/27/2007 1:09:34 PM 
Dear Gabby: I would like that I guess, but I don't have the faintest clue of what I would write about. I guess I'm willing to give it a try, but I will need a few starting ideas.

Answer:
Dear Godluvr4life ... I am so pleased that you have decided to think about sharing your talent with others. I was thinking that you should share your story. Tell others what it is like in your world. How being Christian affects that world. Share the good and the bad. The trials and tribualtion. Sooooooo many others are on the same path and yet they live in darkness cuz they do not have the candle of TRUTH that you do which helps ya thru some of the hard times. Share the light ... Know what I mean jelly bean? IF you decide to do this, we will create a website for you to place your words on. Pray about this ...
Godluvr4life  asks... 2/27/2007 8:49:37 AM 
Dear Gabby: Sorry about the accusation. Please forgive me. I didn't look that far back because I thought that it would be posted on the 22 when you replied. Please forgive me of the accusation.

Answer:
Dear Godluvr4life ... How sweet of you to care enough to write back. What a precious child of God you are. I knew how important it was for you to get the message to your friends and that you didn't see that it had been posted and felt betrayed. We are all one Christian family and understanding is a key ingredient in family. So, please don't worry any more about it. I DO understand. One more thing ... Passion is a key quality of a writer. You definitely possess passion in your words. You should share your thoughts more by writing. You would make a great writer for God. Just gotta get rid of Mr. fear and Mr. doubt. THEY are the ones that can hinder a writer ... Ponder and Pray about this. If you decide to do so, let me know and we can make a website for ya to share your thoughts with others where thousands will read what you have to share. But remember ... Gotta have FAITH. Have a SON-derful day.
Godluvr4life  asks... 2/26/2007 8:39:17 PM 
Dear Gabby: Why did you say that you put up a message on the message board about me when it isn't there?

Answer:
Dear Godluvr4life ... The message WAS placed on the Oasis Message Board just as you asked me to do. It was placed on there on 2/18/2007 8:11:53 PM ... It is still there and after others have added messages since, it is now on page 3 and it says: I am at my grandmothers because my parents are on a cruise, and the internet doesn't work at my house, so I won't be able to get on for a week or so ........... Take care.
godluvr4life  asks... 2/22/2007 8:51:20 AM 
Dear Gabby: Can you please tell the other people at christianity oasis that i am unable to come here until atleast saturday and that my e-mail isn't working nad that I don't know when it will? Thank you! I'm trying to stay in contact with the people here, but internet and e-mail aren't working. I'm typing this on a school computer before school starts. Thank you so much! Godluvr4life

Answer:
Dear Godluvr4life ... We have left a Message on the Christianity Oasis Message Board for you when you sent the request a few days ago. We miss you. Hurry back ...
JESUSFREAK_737  asks... 2/18/2007 10:08:57 PM 
Dear Gabby: WHEN YOU ARE ALONE AND YOU ARE PRAYING TO GOD DO YOU TALK OR DO YOU JUST THINK IT OR DOSE IT MAKE A DIFFERENCE

Answer:
Dear JesusFreak_737 ... It makes no difference if you pray out loud or if you pray silently. All that matters is that you are sincere in your communication with God. Everyone prays differently and you should choose the manner that feels most comfortable to you. As long as it comes from your heart, the method of communication doesnt matter. One note though ... The devil cannot read minds but he can sure hear you when you pray aloud which makes me pray silently cuz I don't like him listening in on my words to my Father. For more on effective christian prayer, check out the following study Effective Christian Prayer ... Pray about this. :)
lynn  asks... 2/1/2007 1:07:18 AM 
Dear Gabby: why is it so hard to confess our problems with friend than with our selfs

Answer:
Dear Lynn, It can be hard to admit our problems to our friends because sometimes we hold fears of negative responses such as criticism, judgment and rejection from the ones we love. Most of the time, the reason we fear confessing our problems to a friend is because we think that they will be as unforgiving to us as we are to ourselves. You must remember that none of us are perfect, we all make mistakes, we all sin, but when we confess our sins and ask forgiveness from our FATHER we are washed clean by the blood of Christ. Ask yourself which matters more, that your friends accept you or that God does. Do not allow yourself to be tied down to feelings of guilt and shame from past experiences, break free of the chains. Pray more about this and see the Forgiveness study at www.christianityoasis.com/Keyword/Forgiveness.htm
Worries are gone :)  asks... 1/31/2007 4:56:10 AM 
Dear Gabby: Dear Gabby, Thank you so much your words are so inspirational. I wish all were like you. :) I have a question though, I have this friend. Its a real friend, not me :) He is too scared to tell his dad that he is going out with a 17 year old. He is over 18 though. Like he really likes this girl. Like a lot. he is just to scared to tell his dad, because his dad might not understand. What do you think he should do? The truth shall set you free. I know what he should do. When I tell him that, he says I know but its harder than you think. Like he really likes this girl and he says that he thinks his dad wont understand, he said he has known this girl for like a year and just started dating her. What should he do? Well thank you for helping me..again! :) I love you! Talk to you soon

Answer:
Dear worries are gone ... You have already found the answer to your question. John 8:32 And ye shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free. Telling the truth shall indeed set him free of the fear that he is feeling, but your friend has to choose to do so. Doing what we know to be the right thing is not always easy, but by not being honest with his dad, the consequences he is scared of may indeed become reality, as what is in the dark is always brought to light. Your friend has to make this decision. Pray about this and continue to tell your friend the truth, as we are called to do so, for although it may hurt and isnt always what people want to hear, it is the foundation of true friendship.
jezzy  asks... 12/15/2006 12:37:05 AM 
Dear Gabby: sry to write again so soon but I have another question to run by you. everyone is always saying they can hear God's voice but why can't I I've never heard him before not when I've been crying or praying or anything does this mean I'm not a christian?

Answer:
Dear Jezzy ... Let's do a lil math together shall we? If your friends told you there was this AWESOME radio station that played the absolute coolest music and you went to your stereo and turned it on and the music they told ya about didn't just start playing. Does this mean the Radio station does not exist or that you are some sort of freak? No wayyyyyyy. It means ya did not TUNE IN. Think about it for a sec. There is this radio station tower hundreds of miles away and SOMEHOW the music travels through INVISIBLE wavs in the air and comes to your stereo. You just BELIEVE this is true and it is. It doesnt seem to matter to anyone that it is invisible voices traveling through the air. They just KNOW that it works. In like manner WE are the stereo and God's Word travels to us but we must TUNE IN to hear it. I KNOW you can hear ME. Pray about this more and SEEK His voice. Hebrews 3:7 ...
jezzy  asks... 12/14/2006 11:44:27 PM 
Dear Gabby: hey thanks gabby that helped allot I have one more question i have a friend who keeps telling me we should be doing suicide together I don't want to but my friend won't stop bugging me and sometimes suicide sounds really good I don't know what to do. she also says life isn't worth living and sometimes I believe her what should I do?

Answer:
Dear jezzy ... My precious friend. If you cannot find why Life is worth living, you are looking in the wrong places. If you have friends that are asking you to commit suicide with you, maybe God is calling you to help share TRUTH with a world that so dearly needs those who will stand up and REPRESENT Jesus. Check out this program ... www.ChristianityOasis.com/MyBrotherskeeper/forum.htm
Tara  asks... 11/28/2006 1:33:32 PM 
Dear Gabby: I got sick with food allergies and am allergic to everything I eat. while I was in college I quit because of the sickness I am experencing and I do not work a job. I am going through emotions of sadness and getting mad and getting terrible food reactions. I wished I could be the goofy person and nice person I was but the foods I eat take me through emotions too. My mom started working all the time and does not have too much time for me I never know when she is going to work or not work. My question is there any bible verses or stories you can tell me to help me get through my food allergies?

Answer:
Dear Tara ... Have I got a surprise for you. There is a program on the Oasis that will help you sooooooo much. It is the Christian Counseling program on the Oasis. Just go to the main page at www.ChristianityOasis.com and right above the CD player you will see Christian Counseling link. It is AWESOME and will help you overcome this. Make sure you follow the path as indicated. Make sure you are ready to BELIEVE ... Pray about this.
Jezzy  asks... 11/19/2006 11:12:51 PM 
Dear Gabby: Dear Gabby everyone always says that there's nothing you can do for God to stop loving you but my friends say otherwise what's the truth?

Answer:
Dear Jezzy ... What an awesome question. The answer is simple and yet complex at the same time. We are all God's Children and He loves us more than any parent could love their child. Let me tell you a lil story to help explain to you what TRUTH is. There was this Father who had a precious lil girl. They did everything together when she was a child. They would walk and talk and play all day long. They had an awesome relationship. When this lil girl had a problem, she would run to her Father. They did EVERYTHING together. Well, as this lil girl grew older and she went to school, she met other kids that were really worldly and she began to get into the stuff that these kids were into. She started hanging out less and less with her Father. Her Father loved her but wanted her to choose to share time with Him. She chose, but she did not choose Him. This lil girl started getting involved in all kinds of stuff from sex to drugs to worse. All the while her Father was trying to talk with her but soon she couldn't even hear Him anymore. The girl was used and abused by the world. One day ... The girl, now a young adult, wised up and said this life I am living is sooooooo wrong. My life is filled with misery and pain. She remembered when she used to be so young and happy. She remembered her Father and the relationship that they had. So the lil girl went back home and when her Father saw her coming, He ran to her and hugged her and kissed her. They started hanging out again and walked and talked and played. EVERYTHING she did she did with HIM. From watching TV to when she was at work to when she was eating to when she was going out with friends. She always talked with her Father on the cell phone he gave her while she was away. Their relationship grew stronger day by day. Now ... One day this girl met a guy. This fella promised her the moon. She started to hang out with this guy and spend less and less time with her Father. The Father knew the young man was not right for her and gave her lil nudges trying to reach her but nooooooo ... She was infatuated with this guy. They dated for a few months and got married. Soon after this they had a child. Well the young lady was now a Mom. Her and her husband started arguing all the time. She suspected him of cheating on her and one day found it to be true. The continual verbal abuse and cheating was too much to bear. She remembered the days when she and her Father used to hang out, walk and talk and play. She loaded up her child and headed home. Her Father ran as quick as he could out to her and hugged and kissed her. She was so glad to be home where she felt loved and safe. They hung out and walked and talked together. They spent lots of time together. The lil girl, now a grown woman and Mom was responsible for a child and had to get two jobs to provide. This kept her from sharing time with her Father. I mean with her two jobs and raising a child she had no time for Him. As time passed and her child grew the child rebelled as most children that do not get to spend enough time with their parents do. Her daughter got into sex and drugs and worse. She tried to talk with her daughter but they just argued. One day, her daughter hit her and she was so hurt and scared. She remembered her Father and how she knew such Peace with Him. She went home and the Father, now getting along in years walked as quickly as he could out to her. He hugged and kissed His precious lil girl who was now a grown woman. She told Her Father of the problems in her life and He helpeed her get it right. Her daughter started doing better and was now in college. Now that her responsibilities of raising a child were over, the woman started to get bored and many of her friends said, "come on girl, it's your turn to live now." They went to bars to meet men and would get drunk and do stupid things. This went on for years and all the while she never spent ANY time with her Father. After quite some time this woman woke up one morning with her usual hangover. She stumbled to the bathroom and looked in the mirror and saw her 53 year old face in the mirror. She couldn't believe that she was that ugly inside and out. She remembered her Father. It had been many years since she had spoken with Him. She drove to the house and saw a for sale sign in the yard. She ran to the neighbors house and asked where her Father was. The neighbor said ... Your Father passed away a month ago but left you this letter. The letter read ... I have always loved you. I always will. But if you are reading this letter. It is too late for us to walk and talk any more. You are on your own ....... You see my friend, the Bible is clear that God loves us so much that He sacrificed His Son to get us Grace. But we must CHOOSE not ABUSE that Grace. Many called few chosen cuz few choose. So my advice to you is ... CHOOSE HIM. See the Once saved always saved study at www.Chri