lyl1114 wrote:Hi quietgal~!!!
I am sorry that you are going through that pain. I hope you can see that it is a good thing you broke it off with your ex. It seems like you know he wasn't good for you. And you know you deserve more. As for resentment, I pray that it will go away. It isn't good for you.
Matthew 7:2 For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.
Weird, that forgiveness is what I was reading on the cccc study this week...and the one that gave me peace. I hope you check it out too. http://www.christianityoasis.com/cccc/Forum.htm
God bless you and give you peace!
Christnundrconstruxn wrote:Hello Quietgal,
And welcome to the Oasis, as for how you were treated this is so common from both sexes, they think the grass in greener on the other side so to speak and then you have those who cannot be happy with one they have to juggle 2-3
not realizing they are playing with peoples hearts.
As for you being mean because of your feelings...no but as the scripture says that Lyl posted do not allow yourself to judge, give that to God He will take care of the judging and the forgiveness...this you desperately need, it is not for him but you.
It will destroy you to hold on to this, I along with so many others here have delt with the same issues but I will say I try to remind myself daily to forgive the anger or "dislike" for use of a better word towards those who done this very thing to me.
Do not allow the pain of the past destroy the happiness of your future
You spoke of promises, I was married for 14 years....till death do us part? for better OR worse??
and yes I know there are promises I broke as well, she has since moved on just as your boyfriend and I still talk to her and want her to be happy.....is it for her.....nope! it's for me, do you think I want my wife to be happy with another man?
but I know God wants me to forgive and show love, so I wish her the best with her new boyfriend and know God has a new plan for me (I just have issues with waiting on His timing ).
What I'm saying is yes I know you are hurting and angry BUT those are not doing ANYTHING but hurting you more, it does not change the outcome nor does it make any difference to your ex and his new girl...all it's doing is making your life worse, don't forgive him for him.....forgive him and his actions for YOU, there is a time for you to be happy and it is to start when you realize your ex and his actions do not define who you are, brush him off KICK his memory and what he done to the curb and move on with a smile knowing God has a plan.
On a side note yes this action irritates the heck out of me, cause there are so many lonely people who want and need a love and then you have those who disrespect and throw it away like it means nothing.
God bless and please forgive....you will not forget but you must forgive for YOU.
hope to hear more from you soon
dema wrote:Expectations can make you miserable. People are what they are. Whether or not it is fair or right for you to have expectations is irrelevant. The other people can choose what they want to do - and they don't have to meet anybody's expectations.
Unforgiveness doesn't hurt them, it only hurts you.
The other advice was very good. Just wanted to add on a little cold pure logic. If he wants to be a jackass, he can be. And you really can't get closure from a mule.
James.chevallier wrote:I'm facing the exact same thing right now. I know exactly how you feel. Keep walking with Jesus and believe in him. It really gets better every day.
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