Almost everyone has heard of, or knows of, someone who has been verbally
Abused. Perhaps you are involved in a verbally abusive relationship. It is also
Possible that no one even knows your circumstances. Verbal abuse is a kind
Of battering which doesn't leave evidence comparable to the bruises of
Physical battering. You may be suffering in silence and isolation.
Verbal abuse is often more difficult to see since there are rarely any visible scars
Unless physical abuse has taken place. But it is often less visible simply because
The abuse may always take place in private. The victim of verbal abuse lives in a
Gradually more confusing realm. In public, the victim is with one person. While in
Private, the abuser may become a completely different person. Frequently, the perpetrator of verbal abuse is male and the victim is female, but
Not always. There are many examples of women who are quite verbally abusive.
A victim is often the target of angry outbursts, sarcasm, or cool indifference. The
Abuser's' reaction to these actions is frequently cloaked in a "What's wrong with
You?" attitude. She is accused of "making a mountain out of a molehill." Over time she loses her balance and equilibrium and begins to wonder if she is the one who is crazy. The key to healing is to recognize verbal abuse for what it is and to begin to take
Deliberate steps to stop it and bring healing. Since the abuser is usually in denial, the responsibility for recognizing verbal abuse often rests with the partner.