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So I am single, and I am trying to figure out if the person (my ex technically) is the one that god made for me. He is talking about us having a chance of getting back together, and possibly moving in together ... and I am trying to figure out if God really wants us together or not...


So, how would I know?
And for the ones that have been married for awhile, how did you know that your spouse was the one God made for you?

Hello Abbrachelle

God bless you this day.

As we grow in our relationship with God: God The Father, God The Son and God The Holy Spirit, and get to know God intimately, we grow more sensitive to His guidance and what His will is for us. I would suggest that you take this precious time to get to know The Lord, and His Word. He loves you so very much.

You have spoken of past hurtful relationships, and since you are still so young, I would suggest that you concentrate more on growing your relationship with God, and then on building friendships with others (men and women), more than placing so much focus on a romantic relationship, right now. The very best marriages that I know of have a strong foundation on God and on friendship.

I've been married for 40+ years. My husband and I were really good friends for a couple years before we started dating. Through the thick and thin of marriage -- through all the struggles and challenges, it was our faith in God and our strong friendship that carried us through the tough times.

There are many wonderful studies on this site that can help you in growing in the knowledge of God. May I suggest that you begin with the 14 Day Counseling Study (CCCC). Here is the link: http://www.christianityoasis.com/CCCC/Forum.htm

Abbrachelle, it is difficult to understand what it is that we really want, much less what God wants, IF we do not develop our relationship with The Lord. He loves you so very much, and He knows you better than anyone else ever can -- so why not get to know The One that knows you best?

Prayers are rising to our Lord in the name of Jesus on your behalf. May God's blessed will be done.

God bless and keep you.
In Christ Jesus' love,
Sister Mack

Wonderful advice, Mack.

What my husband and I did was went to counseling with our pastor as we started courting and as it flourished into an engagement and marriage. I highly recommend that you ask someone who is spiritually mature but is a third party. It may seem that he's the one, but you truly need to test it out first before you make any decision that you may end up regretting in the future.