is this abuse?

[mumnpops]

im married to a non christian, been married for 12 years. for 10 of these years my husband has shouted, yelled, screamed, put me down. i have no self worth at all. i have no friends in this area. he does not love me or want me anymore. not sure what to do?

thank you.

God bless you.

[EllaMay]

Dear mumnpops,
You are so beautiful to the Lord. He loves you and delights in you everyday! That is crazy to consider!!! Everyday when you wake up He is there and happy to call you His! He wants to know you and craves a close relationship with you. He wants to show you your worth!

In answer to your question yes it is. What you are experiencing is emotional abuse. When I was in a controlling relationship he never hit me but he tore me down and didn't let me do anything. My spirit was shattered. I was like an empty shell of myself. Even when I tried to be myself there was something missing and people close to me saw through it.

It breaks you from the inside. The good news is there is hope for you! God wants to show you how much He loves you and how much you mean to Him. If you have time I would really recommend the healing path counseling program. It's really helpful and healing for your soul and your emotions.

Here's the direct link: http://www.christianityoasis.com/CCCC/Forum.htm

You are in my prayers dear sweet sister. If there is anything I can do for you let me know!

Ella

[JulieAnn]

Yes, it is abuse. And your self-worth is not defined by anyone's criticism of you. If he wants to leave, let him leave. If you have not done so, begin to study "who you are in Christ". He is your Savior.

Love, Julieann

[mumnpops]

thank you both so much for replying.
i will look into the information that you both gave me.
thank you

God bless you both xxx