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Over the years I have met many who struggle with sexual sins. Sadly, it is probably one of the top reasons marriages today end in divorce. Most people try to hide the struggles they are going through when it comes to sexual sins. They are often ashamed or afraid to discuss it, as "society" often shuns those who do bring up their fight against sexual sins. Well, I want you to know that you are safe to share here at the Oasis. You are not alone, there are many who struggle with this. Christians are not immune to the struggle of sexual sins. Satan's temptations know no boundaries. If he can find his way in, he will. Please don't let Satan keep you from winning this fight. There are many here who will support you, if you do choose to share. Sometimes we just need a way out and a friend to listen.

Take care

Well I have once again stumbled in this area after being free for over 2 years.
I would like to discuss this problem but as there has been no visible replies since august I am not wanting to put myself out there as I have been hurt in this way in the past. This is the reason I sought this site but somehow I don't see any recent posts. Hez

Hello Hezekiah2:2

Welcome to Christianity Oasis. I am glad the Lord has led you here. I want you to know that you will not be judged here. You will only find love and support.

You mentioned that you are in the midst of a battle at this time. That you are struggling with sexual sin. You are not alone. There are many who go through this same battle, yet the are afraid to talk about it. This is one of Satan's weapons....making a person feel so ashamed they hide their sin and don't seek help because of fear of judgment.

I encourage you to bring your battle to the light. I am sure that someone besides you may be struggling and your posting just may help them also.

God bless you. Take care

Hello Hezekiah2:2

God bless you, and welcome to Christianity Oasis.

A two year reprieve, is impressive. God is Good! Satan, however, is not good, and as God's Word tells us, he comes to steal, kill and destroy.

A couple hours after I read your post and prayed for you, I found my mind thinking about affliction, and then I remembered a verse that a friend of mine shared with me last night in the book of James asking "Is any among you afflicted, let him pray...", and then I was lead to look up other scriptures on affliction, which brought me to Chapter 2 of II Timothy. Then I was lead to read Matthew Henry's commentary on II Timothy, chapter 2.

I find that when The Holy Spirit takes me on these awesome little road trips that blessings abound.

Hezekiah2:2, I think you'll be blessed by reading that commentary. So, if you are willing, I would love to hear what your thoughts are about it, and if it spoke to your heart concerning your present trials.

By the way, I'm curious why you chose your member name. Care to share?

God bless and keep you,
Sister Mack

Hezekiah2:2

We have all had our sexual sins whether we know of them or admit them or not. I have had adulteress thoughts and have lusted after dead spirits.

It is good to admit your sins before people.

James 5:16. Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.

1 John 1:9. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.

Please pray that my past sexual sins be forgiven. They include adulterous thoughts, partial adultery, lust for dead spirits and experimental homosexuality. Thank you.

My prayers for your deliverance and forgiveness.

I have already been delivered. But thank you for prayers of forgiveness.

My prayers rise as incense before our Lord, in this matter.

May God's will be done.

Luv ya all

Sexual sins is not an easy thing to get liberated from for the average healthy person. But a certain psychiatric condition, borderline personality disorder, has as one of it's symptoms, the engagement in dangerous behaviors. Sexuality with anybody,is a risky activity. AIDS is a concequence along with other possible STDs. Women are at risk of an unwanted pregnancy. And if the feotus is aborted, then the annual period of depression kicks in when they find out they terminated the death of a child.
But youth brings on all kinds of sexual desires ,unless they were unnaturally squelched by an abusive statement and/or act(s). Then like me you reach my age and lose an abundunce of testosterone, if a guy And then things finally make sense. And sex without love becomes somewhat meaningless. But I found that awfully hard to understand as a youger guy unless I was in a relationship with somebody at which time I did not act out the same way. After all a lady wants emotional gratification during sexual bonding from a guy who is sexually faithful. So many doors close to temptation, in my case anyway. Yes there are ladies who struggle with sexuality. Maybe because a lot of guys get put off by the amount of foreplay many women need.....happily for me. A woman who doesn't want foreplay is hard to comprehend at times and it doesn't take much to freak me out sexually. But to summarise the above, how does one help younger people understand what people like me only learned in later years after losing a good amount of testosterone and not having the same interest or energy level for sex as a concquence? They have all their testosterone and the women are also young and full of energy, unlike me. And a married pastor telling youth who are not married to wait until they are married to have sex only makes sense to the married couples. And the pastor is probably married too. So how is the problem of temptation from sexual sin to be solved?

We can follow Jesus example he set in the Bible, when He was tempted by Satan in the wilderness. Jesus sought the truth to counter the temptations. We can find this same truth by reading our Bibles, praying, and seeking God....God always offers an alternative to the temptation of sin....but is up to us to choose.

Many worry about their own sexual sins. But are they all really sins? According to the Bible yes. But according to Church authorities today, how often do they say, "We don't do things today the way they did back then"(2015 years ago). I have been seeking closure on something and can't find it. There was this elder who led a Bible study many years ago that I was a part of. On a given evening he openned up about walking down the school corridor, he was a high school teacher, by profession. So he has finished teaching a class, he explains, and takes a peek into the classroom of a teacher friend of his. The teacher "friend" was engaged in sexually exploiting one of his female students. He didn't know what to do. He didn't know what to do. But he knows his Bible! But he didn't know what to do. he didn't want to report the other teacher nor lose the other teacher's friendship. At the time I told him that schools were for the children, not for teachers to use as a social club. He said he'd report him. But did he? There is no proof that he did and he never brought it up again. So I often wonder what happenned to the student that was sexually exploited. She is well into adulthood now. But if an elder can bring up such a discovery as a teacher in high school abusing a student and still want his friendship, why ought we wonder with such pain about our "sexual sins"? Or at least, why should I ? Am I not better off as a bisexual who is not active sexually and who condemns this pedophilic behavior then wanting to be friends with a pedophile like human being? ......even despite my sexual "sins" Unlike many of us here who worry about sexual sins this teacher's friend committed the most grievous of forgivable sins if it turns out that this teacher's sexual exploitation of this student has made her turn her back on Jesus forever. This teacher will be lucky if he only has a very heavy rock tied to his neck and then be thrown into the deepest sea, according to Jesus. Such a declaration Jesus did not make about others involved in sexual sin of other kinds, hetro or homosexual, or towards those struggling from these. So compared with this elder/high scool teacher where is the need to anguish painfully over such sins of ours if an elder does not see it as of any concequence in his professional life?