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Christian Marriage Bible Study

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Welcome to our Christianity Oasis Til Death Do Us Part program. This is our extremely essential and intriguing Christian Marriage Bible study sharing our deLIGHTful Christian Relationship Counseling which provides genuine and very effective Christian relationship strengthening. This awe inspiring Christian Marriage Bible study will truly enLIGHTen your YOU-nique Christian walk. Let's walk along this Til Death Do Us Part path together, shall we?

Start our Til Death Do Us Part program from the beginning:

Greetings ...

We will be answering many questions that you may have throughout this Til Death Do Us Part program, so do not get discouraged if your specific situation is not addressed early on. Some of the information contained within this program may not apply to you, but may apply to a family member, friend or someone that you may encounter which you could choose to use as to help another soul.

After all ... We are our brothers' and sisters' keeper.

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Are you looking to ... Get married and want to learn how to have a righteous marriage, understand and heal from the failures of a past marriage, heal your existing marriage or just enhance your marriage which is going well?

If so ... You have been led by our Lord to the right place. Perhaps one of the questions and/or statements below, is something that is on your mind and heart ...

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Perhaps these examples do not specifically relate to your situation, but we will be addressing many others.

Let's continue our walk and share thoughts for a bit.

If you are considering marriage or are having problems in your marriage, I would like for you to ponder on why you are considering marriage or why you did get married.

  • Do/Did you want to?
  • Are/Were you forced to?
  • Is/Was pregnancy the reason?
  • Is/Was the choice you made out of obligation?
  • Is/Was the choice you made out of convenience?
  • Are/Were you looking for a way to escape something else?

And the essential question ...

  • Are/Were you in love?

Let's ponder on the origins of the marriage that we want/have/had. I'll give you a few different scenarios ... Though your story may not match perfectly ... Again these are merely examples:

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When things go wrong in a relationship or marriage, instead of immediately seeking Christian Relationship strengthening, most begin to question if they have made a mistake when instead, they should be trying to find the source of the problem and make it right.

Before we can determine the source of any concerns that we may have in our marriage or seek the source of the problems that may/are/did occur. We must choose to answer two simple questions ...

  1. Does the marriage have a foundation of love?
  2. Does/did God bless the marriage?

Let me ask you something; What makes a marriage ... A "marriage?" Is it that little slip of paper, called a marriage license, that we must pay for as to be deemed as being married by mankind? Do you really believe that? That a piece of paper makes you married in God's eyes? What if that tiny piece of paper that says you are married got burned in a fire? Does that make the marriage null and void?

Or maybe it is the wedding ring? I mean after all ... It is made of gold and maybe even diamonds which mankind has been taught to hold most near and dear. If it gets lost or stolen is the marriage over?

What if you were on a cruise with someone that you loved and were to marry and the ship sunk and you and a hundred other passengers jumped in lifeboats and drifted to an island and were stranded on the island for many years and you and your loved one lived as though you were married and later died on that island never having a marriage license or wedding ring.

Did God honor the Love? Did God deem it as marriage? Or did He deem it as living in sin?

The question becomes ... Is God bound by man's choices and man's rules regarding marriage so that He must bless all marriages because two souls were issued a marriage license by man and not be able to bless those that did not abide by man's rules?

God Forbid !!!


Are all marriages today the result of God's Will, or the will of those who chose to marry?

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Did God honor these marriages? Now, remember that they do have the rings. They do have the Marriage License. But, obviously, it is not the physical trinkets or written documentation of a marriage that make two souls who are in love be deemed as being truly married in God's eyes, but rather the true union between two souls becoming one, in love. God knows the heart.

The spirit of marriage lies within the hearts of the couple ... Both souls. The question then becomes if a marriage is blessed by God or not.

Jesus shared this Truth with a woman of Samaria:

John 4:15-18

15 The woman saith unto Him, Sir, give me this water, that I thirst not, neither come hither to draw.
16 Jesus saith unto her, Go, call thy husband, and come hither.
17 The woman answered and said, I have no husband. Jesus said unto her, Thou hast well said, I have no husband:
18 For thou hast had five husbands; and he whom thou now hast is not thy husband: in that saidst thou truly.

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The woman asked for the Spiritual Water. Jesus told her to go get her husband ... Why? She said that she had no husband. Jesus said you speak well for (because) you have had five husbands ... And he whom thou hast now is not your husband.

Jesus is saying that because this woman had been married five times, that in God's mind, the woman was not married.

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Keep in mind this event took place before the New Testament.

To find Truth, looking at origins of Samaritans we see that they were once Israelites and they were bound by 10 commandments.

The woman answered that she was not married because by the time this mysterious stranger had asked her to go get her husband as to obtain the Spiritual Waters, she was convicted and in that Spiritual realm knowing she was in the presence of a Holy being.

She asked for Spiritual Water and Jesus gave it to her. The Spiritual water was the Word of God. The Spirit of Truth. That Truth was ... She was not married in God's eyes. This brings up an interesting question ... If a marriage was not blessed by God, do the "rules" of marriage apply?

The Bible shares quite a bit with us about true marriages, but keep in mind that the various authors in the Bible, are referring to those marriages which were honored by God.

You see ... Long ago, they did not do as people do these days and just meet someone at a club, have sex that night and say "I do" the next day as they stood before some guy who is paid to say ... "I now pronounce you man and wife."

So, the laws were written for the way things were supposed to be in a true marriage. It is important to keep that in mind when reading God's Word.

The Truth is, all laws cannot be applicable to all circumstances like some kind of "One size fits all" ruling system.

Jesus pointed this Truth out clearly. In the Bible, our Lord was tempted yet again by the Pharisees when they asked Him a question about the law regarding marriage and divorce:

Matthew 19:3

The Pharisees also came unto Him, tempting Him, and saying unto Him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?

Jesus answered them:

Matthew 19:4-6

4 And He answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that He which made them at the beginning made them male and female,
5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

Jesus said that when two marry, they become one. The Pharisees questioned His response, using law:

Matthew 19:7

Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?

Jesus responded:

Matthew 19:8-9

8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

This caused concern with His disciples and they said to Jesus:

Matthew 19:10

If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.

Then Jesus said something that we all need to hear and understand:

Matthew 19:11

All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.

In other words ... All laws do not apply to all people, all of the time. The law is not, was not and can not ever be, "One size fits all." In particular when it comes to love.

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The point being made is that we must discern if our marriage or potential marriage was/is blessed by God, before we can determine what we should do next. Because if it was ... We should find ways to bring God's will to pass. If not ... We need to pray about it and get His guidance on what should be done.

However ... I want to be very clear that God can take a bad combination that may appear not to meant to be and make it righteous, with a little repenting and prayer. The perfect example is ... King David.

In 2 Samuel, Chapter 11 ... We find that King David desired Uriah's wife Bathsheba, so David had sex with her and she got pregnant. David tried to get her husband Uriah to come lay with his wife, so that he would think it was his own child, but he refused and said he would not enjoy such comforts while his brethren were at war. Then David had Uriah killed by placing him on the front line of a war that was ongoing between Israel and another nation, and after he was dead, took Bathsheba to be his wife.

In 2 Samuel, Chapter 12 ... We find that in punishment for this, God said the child conceived between David and Bathsheba would die and the child did die. After this a child from David and the same woman became the next King of Israel and was blessed by God. His name was Solomon. In fact, God chose Jesus to be placed in that same bloodline.

So, this union may not have been God's will at first, but David repented to God. When we repent to God and our loving Father forgives ... God truly forgives:

Psalm 103:12

As far as the east is from the west, so far hath He removed our transgressions from us.

So, my friend ... If you are being hounded by others because of your marriage and this is the reason for many of the problems that are occurring ... Please remember that nobody has any right to try and have us carry guilt when God forgave us, as though they require that we repent to them as well.

Nothing and nobody can separate us from God's Grace. When God says, we are forgiven ...

We Are Forgiven!

And if you are someone that is being judged by others and really are trying to do what the Lord wants of you, remember this:

Romans 8:38-39

38 For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor Angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come,
39 Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Nothing or nobody can separate us from the love that our Lord has for us or His Forgiveness and Grace. Though many would like for us to believe this about ourselves at times, due to our poor choices in the past which may have resulted in sin. The Word of God assures us that our Salvation is not determined by man's judgment (even our own) but, rather by a merciful and Loving Father.

Many religious leaders like to use 1 Corinthians, Chapter 7 as to keep women in abusive relationships only to have the relationship end in bitterness and even death. They also like to use ... "What God brought together, let no man put asunder." However, that brings forth the real question:

Did God bring that abusive marriage together? Is God then divided against Himself because He wants Love to be forever by these shared words: "What God brought together, let no man put asunder." God forbid.

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It is mankind's use of marriage that has brought on the divisions and variations of judgment. In particular in today's society where most go from hello to I do before establishing a foundation in friendship. Some marry out of CON-venience, lust, trying to get away from home, etc. ... The obvious outcome will usually be division by divorce as it was not to be in the first place.

Is it not God's will to have them apart as they were not meant to be married and made a poor choice? True marriage is the union of two minds, hearts and souls and they become one in Love. So, again ... Whether God deems a specific marriage real becomes the question to ponder.

I want to take this opportunity to say that this program is not a passport to get out of a marriage so that you step out and can get you a new man or woman. God forbid. But, rather the Truth for those who it applies to.

If you were married in love and in God's eyes and you have accumulated the worldly ways and just want a way out so you can go and follow the trends of today, as cattle to the slaughter, this program is not applicable.

Hear these words ... If the shoe fits, slap that rascal on Cinderella. If it does not ... It is not wise to try to apply it as the results will not be the same. He who hath wisdom, hear this Truth:

Matthew 19:11

All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.

Therefore ... If you are in a bad marriage, being abused and are considering divorce ...

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If you want to try and find out what God's Will is and/or you really want to learn more on how to make a marriage work and/or find ways to enhance your existing happy marriage ... Let's keep going!

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