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Hello all!

First time poster here on day 1. My life is like a ship heading full speed ahead into the rocks... I'm depressed. Work performance has suffered. Our marriage has moved into a winter season. Our church life has fallen to the wayside. My work position is funded by state dollars and due to the economy, our budget has been whacked 25% and we're facing layoffs.... Not a good time. I've contemplated suicide but know that it is totally wrong and could not do that to my family and friends. I found this place searching for Christian counseling, suicide prevention. Day 1 was exactly what I needed to read... So here I am, warts and all.

I've read several of the blogs before posting. There are many wonderful encouraging people on the board that deliver the right message.

Momof3, excuse me for saying this, but I delayed this post for a day because of the way you sign off. Mind you, there's nothing wrong with it at all. My Mom started calling me "Ricko" when I was in college and I would tease her back by calling her "Momo". That was a playful exchange that took place for over 30 years. She went to be the Lord a year and half ago and Dad passed away two years ago. Seeing "Love Momo" brought some tears... My Mom was a real prayer warrior, an encourager and a goto person in so many ways.

Two of the main cornerstones are missing in my life. I've pushed God away and my mother is gone.

I need to stop now... This has been good for me to start the process. Pray for me please.

God Bless,

Rick

hello Rick

ty for ur sharing.

sometimes what had happend and is happening around us doesnt make any sense at all..one thing comes after another..i know it too much to take at times..and sure it get the best of us.

i ve learned to really lean on Him, even tho the situation is seems extreme..and trust that He is in control over my situation..and once i did..oh my..then come peace and joy that i never felt before..the problem might not go away..but to really surrender that He will take us thru and gives us strength to stand on the ground and move on..and yes we need each other here on this site to encourage us to move...each have their trials and may go some situation that we been thru..and it give peace that we are not alone.
we are all in this together..one in Him.


most thing..

may u know that u are loved by God.

so we all do

love ya,

sla

Hey Rick, I'm gonna start by giving you a cuz I think you could really use one. Welcome to the Oasis. We are so happy you have been led here by the Lord. Rick one thing I want you to know is that there is still Hope. Right now as you look around you are very discouraged because the trials of the world are overwhelming to you...but there is Hope in Jesus. He loves you Rick and even though your church life may not be where it once was...Jesus is still there and He is waiting for you to come back to Him. He is holding out His arms to you...He wants to hold you and carry you through...He wants to help you...He wants you to draw nearer to Him...and He wants to know all your hurts, all your joys, all your tears, and all your fears...and then He wants to show you how strong He can be for you. You have now taken the first step to finding your way back to where He wants to be in your life. He wants to be number 1.

Praying for you Rick. Hope you will come visit us in the chatroom sometime.

Take care and God Bless

I used to have warts

Welcome to Oasis, Rick! Glad you found us

this is in response to rick i hae tried suicide and itdidnt work ran car into a tree headon going about 60 miles anhour and walk away from it all with a few bumps and was sore for a few weeks since that time i have learned to take everything to the lord our god and he will help u through it like u i pushed him away had to failed marriages and thought that i couldn't do it anymore but he has shown me that i can and that nothing is impossible with him on ur side i have also been blessed since i have excepted him into my heart when i use to drive over the road there was times when i didn't have money or food and would bring them worries to him in prayer and he provided for me and my family at the time always seemed to find money somewhere after praying about it or since like i said i was driving over the road i would end up with more than the place ordered and the company would tell me to throw it in a dumpster but i would take it home cause we needed it at the time well that is all for now

Oh that's cool davey. God provides.

Hello Rick

Welcome to the Oasis brother . Glad of your decision to go through the steps offered here . I myself had gone through them on several occasions now , and with each time , I not only got out of the emotional and mental mire I was in , but also felt stronger and stronger at the other end of it .

The reason I mentioned several times , is because each time I thought it was the end for me , at first I was lost (or rather ,on the way to lose) with the idea of God all together , and as a direct result of that my life started spiraling down , but by His Grace alone , I found myself here , so , you see brother , my life did not spiral before the "distancing" , but rather because of it . Now does that mean the other events and instances would not have taken place should I had kept close to Him ? Of course not , but here's the thing , had I kept Him close-er at those times , I would've had SomeOne to lean on that knew exactly how to handle my situations for me and shown me how to do likewise .
Brother , this is what He is doing for you now , He is showing you how to get back up , He is extending His Graceful Hands to you to grab hold of it and rise , shake the dust off and move on , one day at a time .


Luv ya
In Christ , our Lord

davey3692000 wrote:this is in response to rick i hae tried suicide and itdidnt work ran car into a tree headon going about 60 miles anhour and walk away from it all with a few bumps and was sore for a few weeks since that time i have learned to take everything to the lord our god and he will help u through it like u i pushed him away had to failed marriages and thought that i couldn't do it anymore but he has shown me that i can and that nothing is impossible with him on ur side i have also been blessed since i have excepted him into my heart when i use to drive over the road there was times when i didn't have money or food and would bring them worries to him in prayer and he provided for me and my family at the time always seemed to find money somewhere after praying about it or since like i said i was driving over the road i would end up with more than the place ordered and the company would tell me to throw it in a dumpster but i would take it home cause we needed it at the time well that is all for now

Hi Davey,

Thank you for sharing your story! Yes, the Lord does provide for our needs and is our most faithful, trustworthy friend!

GBU,

Rick

Thank you all for your words of encouragement, sharing of personal stories, and pointing me in the correct direction. Yes, yes, it very clear where I need to go and what I need to do.

Yesterday provided a huge blessing...

My wife and I had a nice long 3 hour talk. We mostly discussed my work situation (I'm employed by a University). What happens if I'm laid off, what would I want to do? I'm unhappy with my job, should I move on to different employment anyways? What happens to our retirement plan? Excellent, I needed to have this discussion and make sure we're on the same page. We're both praying for wisdom and God wants us to close the current door and open another, well that's what we want to do!

We also spent some time discussing our church life. I have several friends at our current church and enjoy it for the most part. My wife has some issues with it and does not want to attend. I've stopped going because I hate it when people ask "How's Pat? Is she home sick today?" These are nice thoughtful comments because they care. But how do I explain the real reason she's not there? After some discussion, we've decided to do some church shopping, starting tomorrow.

Have a Marvelous Easter everyone!

Rick

This is absolutely wonderful to hear Rick. God loves a Godly marriage, and He will bless you and your wife both as you begin to bring Him in as the head of your marriage. I do agree that you should do some church shopping, because both of you need to feel comfortable in the Lord's house...and if the wife isn't comfy...then best to find a church home where you both are.

Rick...you hold on to that Hope that I feel in your words today...it's there and God is not about to let you go.

He loves you Rick and He loves your family.

luv ya

htat is goood rick i was trying to help you out and i am happy to hear that everything is working out and he does have a plan for ya and i am happy to hear that you are not taking the easy way out you have to stop and think who is all going to get hurt and be sad by it something i didnt do but i am still here too i know what it is like to go church shopping i have done that in the past also i have always found that small country churchs always seem to have more to offer i know some will disagree but for me that is what works gbu rick

Dave

Hi Rick and welcome to Oasis!

Oh my brother...how i know so well where you are. When i read your first post....wow!

My mom went to be with the Lord 5 years ago last month. I remember asking God how life..my life, was ever going to be normal again. There was soo much more to that prayer than just that question but I can tell ya this...during that time, He challenged me to seek Who He really is..and what it is I truly placed my security in. The day before my mom passed, as God works in His infinate wisdom, she called me and asked me to come over for some antibiotics, cuz i was sick with that cold that goes around every year and she knew i wouldnt take time off from work to go to the Dr. On my way home from work I thought to myself that i feel too bad to stop by mom's..im just gonna go home..i didnt know it at the time, but the Holy Spirit spoke to me to go by my mom's house anyway, so I did. She asked me to bring my laundry over the next morning on my way to work so she could help me with it. I decided that night that i didnt want her to work so much on my laundry and didnt take it over to her the next morning. After coming back from lunch that afternoon my son called to say he was on his way to my office to pick me up. I could tell by his voice that something was wrong. It turned out that my son had gone by my mom's for lunch and found her body by her bed. She hadnt made it to bed the night before. He was 18 at the time. My whole world as i knew it was turned upside down and inside out. I tell you all of that say this...

i asked the Lord through that time many many questions...even in anger that i held onto so deeply i didnt even know it was there. The night suicide came to mind all that i held onto came out..as bitter as it was...my heart was broken and nothing was hidden. (even though He knew it was there all the time) My brother, He exposed all that i held onto during that time. I called it a very dark time, but in truth, it was a time of true light coming in and exposing the darkness I held onto..all the lies the enemy had told me over the years, all the things and people i put my security in..and He challenged me to seek Who He really is. He exposed the lies the enemy had told me..He exposed the belief system I had come to believe as truth about Who He is.

What He showed me through that time..and still continues today...is that He is Who, no matter what the situation is around me, He is who my security is in. Every circumstance in my life that i saw as evil..painful, unfair...He was there, walking through the shadows with me..using each of life's trials and tribulations to not only cause me to seek my security in Him only, but to show me that He would use each one to grow me in His plan for my life. There was a time through this when He said to me..." I didn't have to breathe life into you. You never had to be. I did so out of My good will and for My glory"

My brother, your life is not your own. It is His gift to you..for eternity. I dont know if any of this means anything to you, or if its even understandable..but i do know this. All the things you have faced, all the circumstances you face now..He is still God..He is still in control..and He is working His plan in your life through all these things you are facing now. He wont take you to places He hasnt already been and worked through. Out of His love for you, He will give you everything you need in His ways.

God bless you and your family, my new friend. You are not alone. I pray He will lead you to a good church. May His will be done in your lives. You arent here by mistake.

in Jesus,
love momo