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Just shoveled another 8 inches of snow with the help a kind private plow driver. So I have unfriended my 2 daughters off Facebook. Knowing what they do all the time and what's going on upsets me. I found out that Stephanie is having/had her wisdom teeth removed (she lives in town); Jennie-Rae comes to town and doesn't call me; I call Steven and Timothy just to say Hi and get a blah response....expected since they're boys---18 & 21, who live at home with Scott. When Jennie-Rae comes to town she stays at the house ( I'm living on my own). So, I don't want to know when she's in town via Facebook, I don't want to know that other people are on the inside and I am on the outside. Scott's in the know because the boys tell him. My children have always been my life, I had a close relationship with them, so I thought, so when they don't involve me it hurts. So...what I don't know won't hurt me. Hence the 'breakup' on Facebook.

That is sad to feel your kids dont want to share whats going on in their lives. Perhaps it is best to not know everything...less to fret about. If you are feeling lonely...we have lots of fun on chat in the evenings and you will find LOTS of friends there and probably some loving encouragement.
Im praying you kids begin to miss their mother....and start keeping in touch!

Awww em my heart hurts for you...I'm sorry your children are reacting to you in a negative way...but then God often receives negative reactions from His children too...so He knows exactly how you feel...I'm just thankful He doesn't pull the plug so to speak when He sees us doing stuff He doesn't approve of...He's always there waiting with open arms...I pray you will do the same for your children.

luv ya

I truly feel your pain and my heart goes out to you sincerly..... C'mere could you use a nice warm hug???

Times like these I find myself at a loss for words...

I just want you to know that there are plenty of kind gentle souls here to share in one anothers pain and uplift, and encourage one another during the storms of life...

Romans 8:18 I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us.'

In 2 Corinthians 4:17, Paul, who was frequently tortured, says my sufferings are light and momentary and are achieving for me an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.

We are gonna face many trials and tribulations...and sometime we loose close connections between family, friends, among others....

Everything Happens for a season or for a reason...Which ever it may be Just thank the Lord that whatever comes of it...that it will be used for your good...


Romans 8:28
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to [his] purpose

So, don't fret...Instead count it all joy...and say so be it according to thy will....For Father knows best....

xoxox Mary xoxox

Thank you Mary, SBennett and mlg for your kind words.

Feeling very disappointed, and totally misunderstood by my soon-to-be divorced husband. I wasn't being emotionally fed and he didn't understand why I needed it. Hence the divorce. I understand not everyone can meet these needs except my Father in heaven. But it really hurts when your loved one doesn't get it. What's even sadder is that my 2 sons, 18 and 21, have not seen a good example in their father. I brought up my children, 2 daughters also, in the church since they were toddlers until they graduated high school. I did my best, now I do so pray that the almighty Father in heaven pick up where I left off. My husband did not attend church; we were not equally yoked. I'm still being treated for depression and am one day 6 of the Stepping Stones. It's such a painful process and suspect will be for a few years. oh well.......[/u]

I'm sorry these things are effecting you. Must be terribly painful.

Praying Gods will for your life.

My prayers are with you. I know the road isn't easy that you are traveling on...but you must keep pushing past the potholes...there IS a smoother lane ahead.

luv ya

So I stayed up until 2:30 this morning after composing a very long e-mail to my husband. We had been corresponding using this venue, we can 'talk'without getting interrupted. I called this letter 'my last installment' of self purging to finally get over this season of discontent. I pointed out all the good and the bad in previous e-mails but it was interpreted wrong and read between the lines. My husband will never move out of his box thinking...and I quote.... he's 99.9% right all the time. All I can do is put out the facts, good and bad, and let it be. That's the hard part, letting go. I came across an excerpt of TD Jakes 'Letting Go' I'll look into that. I feel more at peace now knowing I have said all I wanted. The next hurdle will be the divorce proceedings. Thank you all for listening and I'd like to keep you updated because writing this all out to you is another way of putting me at peace.

Each bridge you cross will bring more of the picture into view. Just continue to find your peace that you seek in Jesus. We are here for you and anytime you feel the need to share, please do so.

My prayers for you continue.

luv ya

em....I have been where you are. I went through a divorce and it was a painful thing. My first husband wanted out because he fell in love with another person. You will get through this and God is right there with you. Also reach out to your church and close friends. They can encourage you. AND!!!! I am so glad you are here at Oasis...join us in chat and we can pray for you and perhaps lift your spirits.
I pray that God will give you comfort and peace as you go through this hurtful process.

em consider telling God what you need in a companion and watching in expectation as HE gives you what you need.

Psalms 37:4
Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart.

Love you