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Ways to Forgive Yourself
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to do so can positively affect you YOU-nique lifestyle.
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Stepping Stone #4
Ways to Forgive Yourself To Heal
I waited patiently for the LORD; and He inclined unto me, and heard
I trust that you're waiting patiently to move on to the next step
each day. Your patience in following The Path one step each
day, will pay off.
Welcome back my friend ...
Ointment and perfume rejoice the heart: so doth the sweetness of a
man's friend by hearty counsel.
It is great to have you back on The Path. In order to lay down our
next Stepping Stone, we are going to have to get a little dirt on our
hands today. The weeds in this area of your garden have are very deep
rooted, so it is going to take a little extra effort on your part.
These weeds have been there for a very long time, so you will have to
dig deep as to remove them, but once they are gone, you are
definitely going to sense the enlightening difference.
If you ever feel the need to take a step back to the previous
Stepping Stone to remove a weed that has sprung up near it, by all
means do so. You don't have to count that as one of your 14 days, it
is maintenance, like we discussed at The Garden Gate in Step 2.
As you recall, yesterday we learned of God's Grace
and Love and how forgiving and Loving our Heavenly Father is. Today,
as you stand on the third Stepping Stone in your garden, we are going
to talk about forgiving yourself and share with you some Forgiving
Yourself Bible Verses which reveal ways to forgive yourself.
I realize we haven't talked about your specific problem yet, but we
will soon. Think of it this way ... If you step on a bunch of little
weeds to get to a big one, you'll break them off at the stem and when
you go back to clear them out, you may not know the roots are still
Have you ever noticed that sometimes a big weed is easier to pull
than the little ones, and there is usually a whole lot of little
weeds, but only a few big ones? Our spiritual garden is the same way.
If we get rid of all the little weeds first, you'll find that the big
ones are really easy to get rid of, so don't underestimate the
importance of each step, even though they may seem insignificant, but
in time they will be making a huge difference within you.
Ways To Forgive Yourself Counseling
Hmmmmm, that's a tough one, isn't it? Most of the time, this is our
biggest problem. As Christians, we know and understand that God
forgives us, and we don't (usually) have a problem forgiving others
... But, ourselves we just can't seem to get the hang of it, now can
I have another Forgiving Yourself Bible Truth to share with you. Way
down deep inside many of us, there's a twisted misconception that if
we hold on to feelings of guilt, it somehow justifies us in God's
eyes. This is totally the opposite of what your Father wants for you.
He didn't sacrifice His precious Son so that we would harbor feelings
of guilt. He did it so that your mind and heart would be totally free
Ways To Forgive Yourself Concern ... Guilt is a bad seed. As long as
it's buried down deep, it will grow. Unattended, it will become a big
problem in your garden, because it will bloom and go to seed, and
soon you'll have a whole bunch of little problems that grow into big
problems and it just keeps getting worse.
Once God forgives you, He doesn't remember it as we discussed in the
King David story. You are cleansed of it. Pure as a little baby. And
that's how your Father sees you ... As His child!
Look at this from God's point of view. Let's say you're a loving
parent, whose child has done something wrong. You may chasten the
child, or some other circumstances may arise that bring him to
repentance. Your precious child comes to you to confess, and asks
forgiveness. Then you forgive him lovingly, and all is well. Later
on, you're walking past the closed door of your child's room and you
hear your little child crying and rapping his head on the wall,
because he still feels badly for what he's done.
How would that make you feel? Maybe it would make you feel like he
doubts your forgiveness. It would make us want to console the child
and make them hear and understand that we truly do forgive them.
But ... What if they ran away?
What if they did not believe that they were forgiven or did not
forgive themselves? That is what we do when we do not forgive
ourselves when God has forgiven us. Now, knowing that you are God's
child, how can you serve the Lord effectively and efficiently, as
long as you carry guilt inside of you?
Ways to Forgive Yourself Today
As adult Christians, we understand that God forgives us, so the bad
feelings of guilt that we store up inside are in Truth, self pity.
You're wasting your time feeling guilty. You're wasting precious time
that you could be using toward God's plans for your life. Lose the
guilt, and get on with the God business. Put on your garden gloves,
get a good hold on that weed, and eliminate it from your life once
It is a lie!
Replace it with this Step Four seed of Truth by believing this Truth.
When you ask our loving, merciful Father to forgive you for a sin in
the name of Jesus, that sin is as far away as the East is from the
11 For as the Heaven is high above the earth, so great is
His mercy toward them that fear Him.
12 As far as the east is from the west, so far hath He
removed our transgressions from us.
13 Like as a father pitieth his children, so the Lord
pitieth them that fear Him.
Ways To Forgive Yourself Advice ... Since God has chosen to forgive
you, please choose to do so as well. We are harder on ourselves than
our Father ever was, is or will be.
(If you have the inclination to "Google it," there is a great
Christian song called "What Sin" by Morgan Cryar that would truly
enhance your understanding of of God's Grace and mercy. You won't be
Once sin is removed ... It is gone. God did the job. You don't have
to go and clean up after Him.
At the risk of being repetitive, let me just say once again ...
Remember ... Let Go and Let God!
Let Go (of your problem), And Let God (remove it)!
God Provides Ways to Forgive Yourself
We've talked about God's forgiveness ... That lovely blessing called
Grace, and we've talked about forgiving yourself. Let's talk about
forgiving others, for we must forgive all ... To be forgiven.
Let us take a field trip through the Forgiving Yourself Bible Verses
... Forgiveness has different meanings for different people depending
on what's being "forgiven." Actually, most believe there are various
levels of forgiveness. Oft times, it depends on who is being
forgiven. The question is, what would Jesus consider as being
forgiveness? While you let that question simmer in your mind for a
bit, let us look at what Jesus said about it.
Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him
his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee [make
peace], thou hast gained thy brother.
In the book of James we get a clear picture of what happens when you
gain your brother.
Let him know, that he which converteth the sinner from the error of
his way shall save a soul from death, and shall hide a multitude of
What a wonderful reward!
But, Jesus said, If your brother won't make peace with you, then take
one or two people with you to witness and reason with him.
One witness shall not rise up against a man for any iniquity, or for
any sin, in any sin that he sinneth: at the mouth of two witnesses,
or at the mouth of three witnesses, shall the matter be established.
1 Timothy 5:19
Against an elder receive not an accusation, but before two or three
17 And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the
church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as
an heathen man and a publican.
18 Verily I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall bind on
earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever ye shall loose on
earth shall be loosed in heaven.
19 Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree
on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done
for them of my Father which is in heaven.
20 For where two or three are gathered together in my
name, there am I in the midst of them.
This whole thing brought up a question in Peter's mind and he asked
Jesus ... Lord, how many times should I forgive my brother if he sins
against me? Seven times? Jesus answered him, Not only seven times,
but ... Seventy Times Seven.
Let's do a little digging and find out who we really are today, shall
we? Remember when we said that the meaning of forgiveness differs
from person to person and circumstance to circumstance? Well, the
reason we seem to have given the act of forgiveness different levels,
is so that we can say we've forgiven, without really finishing
the job. We feel like as long as we've achieved or performed any
given level of forgiveness, we can take credit for the total act of
this very important virtue.
We're gonna take a look at the different levels that we've divided
forgiveness up into and you can decide for yourself, which level(s)
you've chosen to grant to the people in your life. Some of these may
sound the same to you, but many people don't like to admit to
something (even to themselves) unless every word in the description
are the very words they would use. These aren't in any order of
- You cease to feel resentment against an offender, but you really
don't trust them anymore whether you should or should not in some
cases, causing you not to be able to trust others for this particular
offense caused by one soul.
- You can forgive but you can't forget. You store a record of the
offense in the back of your mind just in case you need to bring it up
at a later date for any reason.
- You claim to forgive, but your relationship has never been quite
the same with the person ... and never will be. You tolerate the
offender as much and as you can bear to, because Jesus said to
forgive. Sometimes you rarely speak, if ever again, and the
relationship virtually ends after the so-called forgiveness.
- You excuse the offense, but you ridicule, deride, mock, taunt or
rally the offender, sometimes in anger and other times in humor.
- You forgive outwardly for appearances, but inside you just can't
seem to forgive.
- Some things you forgive, some things you don't, it's complicated
- You pardon someone totally and unconditionally. You continue to
love the person who sinned against you, just as you did before the
offense. It's as though it never even happened. Recollections of the
offense are not used for any reason. You don't forget
that you're a sinner yourself and mercy and Grace are the greatest
gift that God has given you through Jesus Christ.
Maybe the level of forgiveness that you practice isn't included here.
If it's not, go ahead and add them in, because there are bound to be
millions of conditions and levels that fall in between these
categories, or have additional little addendums. It's okay, we're all
guilty of it.
Ah, here's one I forgot:
- As long as you're in a good mood, your forgiveness abounds, but
wake up on the wrong side of the bed, and anyone who has ever sinned
against you is a scoundrel until your mood changes.
Now, let's look at the word forgive. The prefix for means
before, and the word give, in this case, means commit.
So, perhaps to forgive ... To really forgive is to think
of things as they were before the offense was committed.
You may say, That's a tough thing to do, until you think about it
this way: Have you ever done anything that you wish
you had never done? Is there something that if you could, you would
totally erase it from your life, that it would be forgotten totally
from anyone's memory who knows about it? It won't happen unless you
forgive others the same way.
For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what
measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.
Ways to Forgive Yourself by Forgiving Others
Now, that the tables have been turned, and your own forgiveness of
others is involved ... You can probably relate a little better to the
phrase "forgive and forget." It's hard on both the offender and the
victim of a sin, when forgiveness is not granted. For the offender,
they feel, let's say, less than trusted and ashamed. It can weaken a
person's soul to live with knowing that they're not forgiven for
something that they're so sorry for.
It is as if there's an invisible net around them that they can't
escape. To repent for something we've done, and not to be forgiven,
is an experience that God didn't want us to bear, and that's the
whole reason why we have the New Testament, and why Jesus died for
us. It's a shame that we've defiled this beautiful gift of grace by
putting it into levels. Forgive others the way you want to be
forgiven by God for things that you've done.
Forgiving Yourself Bible Verses Scenario ... What about if you're the
victim of a sin? Let's say someone has committed a sin against you
and you don't forgive them. How can being unforgiving hurt you? It's
in your subconscious mind if you haven't completely forgiven someone
for something. Your mind knows what level you've assigned to each act
of forgiveness you've granted. You don't think about it all the time,
but the knowledge of it is there. This can cause bitterness in your
spirit that can affect other parts of your life. Your faith will feel
like it's tainted with guilt.
That's because you're being measured by God with the same
forgiveness scale that you're using. Your lack of trust in your
offender can cause you to be untrusting of others as well. If your
offender is a loved one, you can become blameful of them for
unrelated things that happen in your life. When we are hurt very
deeply, we sometimes fail to forgive and rebuild the trust with our
family or friends that hurt us.
Now, obviously this does not mean that you must trust all of those
who have hurt you, in particular when terrible crimes were committed
and allow what occurred to happen again ... God forbid. It means that
you should not let the lack of trust in them, establish a habit
within you and have you walk in fear, unable to trust anyone else.
Forgiving Yourself Bible Verses Point of Interest ... In a perfect
world, when we forgive someone, it would really truly be as if the
offense never happened. We would be able to love, communicate,
befriend, trust, and continue in our relationships with one another
as if the offense was erased from time. My friend, that is the
description of how it is in Heaven and this earth is not a perfect
world. Where we fear continued abuse from an offender, we must
forgive the best way we know how. If you are facing circumstances
that require forgiveness that risks your physical or psychological
safety, prayer is essential. Ask Jesus how to completely forgive and
release someone from offenses where communication seems impossible
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The point of interest is ... Being unforgiving can cause a chain of
circumstances that prevent you from being fruitful for God. Until you
completely release your offender from their sin, you will
remain in the same net that you have put that soul in.
Are there sins that we simply find unforgivable and others that we
have no problem whatsoever forgetting? I have to ask this Forgiving
Yourself Bible question, are there some sins that you've committed
that you think God should hold you accountable for, or do you want
Him to forgive all of your sins?
Jesus addressed this very thing:
25 And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought
against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may
forgive you your trespasses.
26 But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father
which is in Heaven forgive your trespasses.
Did you catch that? If you have anything (ought) against any.
Forgive all or you won't be forgiven. Sorry, there are no
levels for all. All means all. It doesn't limit the number(s) or the
intensity of the sin(s), or even how long ago they happened, it's
Our report card on our forgiveness performance will be administered
to us on judgment day and we'll be remembered in God's eyes exactly
the way we remembered (or forgave) others. We're gonna conclude this
study with a parable that Jesus told Peter.
23 Therefore is the Kingdom of Heaven likened unto a
certain king, which would take account of his servants.
24 And when he had begun to reckon, one was brought unto
him, which owed him ten thousand talents.
25 But forasmuch as he had not to pay, his lord commanded
him to be sold, and his wife, and children, and all that he had, and
payment to be made.
26 The servant therefore fell down, and worshipped him,
saying, Lord, have patience with me, and I will pay thee all.
27 Then the lord of that servant was moved with
compassion, and loosed him, and forgave him the debt.
28 But the same servant went out, and found one of his
fellowservants, which owed him an hundred pence: and he laid hands on
him, and took him by the throat, saying, Pay me that thou owest.
29 And his fellowservant fell down at his feet, and
besought him, saying, Have patience with me, and I will pay thee all.
30 And he would not: but went and cast him into prison,
till he should pay the debt.
31 So when his fellowservants saw what was done, they were
very sorry, and came and told unto their lord all that was done.
32 Then his lord, after that he had called him, said unto
him, O thou wicked servant, I forgave thee all that debt, because
thou desiredst me:
33 Shouldest not thou also have had compassion on thy
fellowservant, even as I had pity on thee?
34 And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the
tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him.
35 So likewise shall my Heavenly Father do also unto you,
if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their
Okay, back to the beginning of our Forgiving Yourself Bible study.
Remember the question we began with? What would Jesus consider
forgiveness? My friend, the answer is this: He's gonna use the
definition you choose . . . On you! With that in mind, you may want
to consider how generous you are with the gift of forgiveness that
you grant to others ... And to yourself!
It is never too late to forgive. There may be something that happened
years ago, maybe even in your childhood that you haven't completely
forgiven someone for. You can change that. You can free yourself and
other people to be more fruitful for God if you do. If someone hasn't
forgiven you for something, perhaps you'd like to ask them to forgive
you. You're not only seeking for peace for your own soul, but you're
also giving them a chance to escape that invisible net that they've
unknowingly put themselves in as well.
God's Grace is above all, the most precious gift we have. Extend your
own mercy and Grace to others. Every day is a new beginning, every
moment, a fresh start. Clean your slate and give others a chance to
clean theirs too.
Did you remember to apply this to forgiving yourself too?
Let Go and Let God!
Let Go (of your problem), And Let God (remove it)!
Forgiving Yourself Bible Verses require it to heal!
You are doing fantastic!
If you have a bad day, this Forgiving Yourself Bible Verses study will help you understand more about
the liberating Grace that our Father wants each and every one of us
There is a force out there that is attempting to overtake us all; it is Satan. There is another force that is protecting us from him; it is the Holy Spirit. It is a battle for souls. This battle is called Spiritual Warfare, and like it or not, you are right in the middle of it.
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