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CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS
HOW TO CONTROL EMOTIONS
Welcome to our Cool Confidential Christian Counseling study program. This is our Control Your Emotions Bible study on how to control emotions in the Bible story and how it affects your be-YOU-tiful Christian walk.
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CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS
HOW TO CONTROL EMOTIONS
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Welcome back to ...
THE PATH
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Ecclesiastes
7:8
Better is the end of a thing than the beginning thereof: and the
patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit. |
I trust you're
being patient.
The rewards of your patience in taking one step per day is a strong
solid PATH.
Greetings my friend ...
Ready to dig in and get rid of more weeds? Look
behind you at the four STEPPING STONES that you’ve already put down.
Pretty cool huh? Soon you’ll have a lovely pathway that winds all
through your garden. It may seem slow at first, but don’t forget,
important TRUTHS are soaking into the soil (your subconscious mind)
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CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS
HOW TO CONTROL EMOTIONS
Before we get down to the nitty gritty today there’s
a weed that has runners on its root system called ... Blame. This word
"blame" is an ugly word and it’s an even uglier weed. Nobody likes to be
blamed for anything bad. Whenever problems arise, or if we have long
existing problems, one of our first reactions is to blame somebody
else. Now, granted, chances are there are other people involved in
your problem, but are they to blame?
If we were to ask them why they did whatever they
did to contribute to your problem, it’s likely that they have others
to blame for their actions too. And those people have yet others to
blame, and the chain of blame would probably go back in time all the
way back to Adam and Eve.
Now, that may sound like a joke at first, when in
fact, we really CAN trace the blame back to that time, when an angel
named satan, who out of jealousy toward God, CON-vinced Eve to disobey
God, and she passed the deceit on to Adam, and as a result we all
inherited what is called ... Original Sin.
To learn more about Original Sin, click on the
link below:
So, in all TRUTH, the thing that we can trace the
blame for bad seeds to ... Is the devil. There! Now we’ve identified the
source of the problem ... So what? So we found out that
we’re not to blame, and others aren’t to blame
either ... It is NOT our sin. BUT we did CHOOSE it and when we choose to
continue to entertain the evil that the devil started, and is
constantly distributing to mankind ... That’s when we become responsible
for it.
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1 Peter 5:8-9
Be sober, be vigilant; because
your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about,
seeking whom he may devour: Whom (you should) resist steadfast
in the faith, knowing that the same afflictions are accomplished
in your brethren that are in the world. |
You know, just to make sure we pull all the roots
of the ‘blame weed’ let’s talk about some of the reactions that are
related to blame and let's talk about some of the other weeds in the blame family.
Revenge is a common one.
Anger is another.
Mistrust, hatred, fear ... The worst is PRIDE ...
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1 Peter 3:8-9
Finally, be ye all of one mind,
having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful,
be courteous: Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for
railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are
thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing. |
If you’ve ever been to a non-Christian based
counseling program of any kind, you’ll be misguided into thinking that
these reactions are “normal” and that you must “get in touch” with
those feelings. Likewise when people lose a loved one, they’re
encouraged to “get in touch” with their grief. By the way, that phrase
“get in touch” means “allow and accept” ...
My friend, the Lord, your Physician,
never said THAT! Quite the opposite is what the Word of God says. Just
to make certain, let’s take a look at the TRUTH, shall we?
REVENGE
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Deuteronomy 32:35
To me belongeth vengeance and
recompense; their foot shall slide in due time: for the
day of their calamity is at hand, and the things that shall come upon
them make haste. |
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Psalms 7:8-9
The LORD shall judge the people: Judge me, O
LORD, according to my righteousness, and according to mine integrity
that is in me. Oh let the wickedness of the wicked come to an end; but
establish the just: For the righteous God trieth the hearts and reins. |
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Psalms 94:1
O Lord God, to whom vengeance
belongeth; O God, to whom vengeance belongeth,
show thyself. |
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Romans 12:19
Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves,
but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance
is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord. |
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2 Thessalonians 1:6-10
Seeing it is a righteous thing with God to
recompense tribulation to them that trouble you; And to you
who are troubled rest with us, when the Lord Jesus shall be revealed
from heaven with His mighty angels, In flaming fire taking
vengeance on them that know not God, and that obey not the
Gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ:
Who shall be punished with everlasting destruction from
the presence of the Lord, and from the glory of His power; When He
shall come to be glorified in His saints, and to be admired in all
them that believe (because our testimony among you was believed) in
that day. |
CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS BY CONTROLING YOUR THOUGHTS
HOW TO CONTROL EMOTIONS PROPERLY
FEAR
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2 Timothy 1:7
For God hath not
given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of
love, and of a sound mind. |
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1 John 4:18
There is no fear in
love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not
made perfect in love. |
MISTRUST
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Proverbs 3:5-6
Trust in the LORD
with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own
understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He
shall direct thy paths. |
ANGER
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Proverbs 14:29
He that is slow to
wrath is of great understanding: but he that is
hasty of spirit exalteth folly. |
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Proverbs 16:32
He that is slow to
anger is better than the mighty; and he that
ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city. |
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Proverbs 19:11
The discretion of a
man deferreth his anger; and it is his glory to
pass over a transgression. |
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Proverbs 22:24-25
Make no friendship
with an angry man; and with a furious
man thou shalt not go:
Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul. |
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Proverbs 27:3-4
A stone is heavy,
and the sand weighty; but a fool's wrath is
heavier than them both.
Wrath is cruel, and anger is
outrageous; but who is able to stand before envy? |
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Proverbs 29:22
An angry
man stirreth up strife, and a furious man
aboundeth in transgression. |
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Ephesians 4:26
Be ye angry, and
sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
Neither give place
to the devil. |
VERY important thing to remember ... Never go to sleep angry!
Because anger is one of the devil’s seeds, and when
it’s planted in your mind and you go to sleep, it thrives in the
darkness of sleep. That seed will nestle itself into your subconscious
mind and grow into a monstrous weed without your even knowing it.
Eliminate your anger by bringing it into the light of the TRUTH.
GRIEF
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Matthew 8:22
But Jesus said unto
him, Follow me; and let the dead bury their dead. |
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Ecclesiastes 2:22-23
For what hath man of
all his labour, and of the vexation of his heart,
wherein he hath laboured under the sun? For all his days are
sorrows, and his travail grief; yea,
his heart taketh not rest in the night. This is also vanity. |
HATRED
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Mark 12:29-31
And Jesus answered
him, The first of all the commandments is, Hear, O Israel; The
Lord our God is one Lord: And thou shalt love the Lord thy God
with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy
mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment.
And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy
neighbor as thyself. There is none other commandment
greater than these. |
One more scripture to kind of sum them all up:
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Galatians 6:9
And let us not be weary
in well doing:
for in due season we shall
reap, if we faint not. |
In other words, don’t ever get tired of being
righteous, because you will be rewarded accordingly. As as you can
plainly see, any retribution for things that we blame others for,
belongs to God as it is written ... "Vengeance is Mine saith the Lord."
Now, just relax, because I know you’ve learned that
if you don’t address those feelings, they’ll eat you up inside and if
you don’t “express” them, it could be detrimental to your mental
health. I’ll be showing you the Christian way to deal with those
feelings in a STEPPING STONE down THE PATH called ... CONTROL YOUR THOUGHTS.
CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS
HOW TO CONTROL EMOTIONS
WHAT’S YOUR PROBLEM?
LET US GET DOWN TO THE THE NITTY GRITTY
Now, back to your problem itself. “The devil made me
do it,” is not a valid identification to any problem. Let me
point out to you the word “source.” We found out that the devil
is the source of all problems, but the devil can’t
MAKE anybody do anything. He is only allowed to suggest or
present temptation (unless he has God’s permission, as it was in Job’s
case). Once his temptation is introduced, my friend, the ball is in
your court. God has given us all free will, which is the freedom to
choose what to do. Remember, we discussed that when we learned about
God’s Grace, but let me give you a little deeper insight.
When God, in His infinite wisdom created us in His
image ...
To learn more
about how you are created in God's image, click on the link below:
... He gave each of us this neat little thing called a
conscience. Remember in the story of Pinocchio, Jiminy Cricket
encouraged the little marionette to “Let your conscience be your
guide.” What exactly is your conscience anyway? It’s the awareness of
obligation to do the right thing. You may have heard people use the
expression, “He/she has no conscience.” Oh, everybody has one, they
just don’t always use it. Whenever Pinocchio didn’t listen to his
conscience, that’s when he got into trouble.
BECOME CONSCIOUS OF YOUR CONSCIENCE!
When we ignore our conscience and don’t resist the
candy coated offers and ideas that the devil has for sale ... The blame
then passes from the “source” of the problem to the
“purchaser.” Then my friend, you just bought yourself some bad seeds
for your garden. Sometimes it takes a while for them to germinate, but
once they do . . . Well, you know what happens.
Remember back at THE GARDEN GATE, when we said that
admitting you have a problem is half the battle? At this point on THE
PATH, it’s time to be more specific. Identify the weeds.
I have crabgrass in my garden.
I have clover in my garden.
I have milkweed in my garden.
I have thorns.
I have briers.
I have stickers.
I have poison ivy in my garden.
Tell God exactly what your problem is. It’s just
between you and Him. Make a sincere plea to Him and ASK Him to help
you weed it out. I’m going to help you out on this one a little bit
because you’re my friend ... And we’re in this together, remember.
This is an example of what you’ll do, and by
accomplishing this we’ll be pulling the weeds necessary to put this
fifth STEPPING STONE in place.
Anyone who has a problem, affects those who love
them in one way or another. Your choice not to pull the weed that
caused your problem when you first recognized it, allowed it to grow,
and seeds from that weed have blown into others’ gardens too. Sooooo,
part of your problem is a weed called selfishness. Go ahead and say
it:
CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS BY EVICTING BAD THOUGHTS
HOW TO CONTROL EMOTIONS BY EXPOSING THEM
My problem is __________ ... That’s how you do it! Fill in the blank with your bad thoughts and/or emotional condition(s) and bring it into the light. You have just identified (part of) a problem. Of course, yours will include your specific
problem and do not be ashamed. Everyone has problems and everyone who is on THE PATH right now is
saying:
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My problem is ____________, and I want to change. |
Everyone wants to know how to control emotions and everyone is feeling the same twinge of
embarrassment that you’re feeling, and it’s normal. It’s even GOOD!
It’s part of being repentant and that my friend is what entitles you
to that wonderful gift and miracle that you learned about in STEPPING
STONE #3, God’s Grace.
Control your emotions by controlling your thoughts. Remember not to hang on to those feelings of
embarrassment by forgiving yourself.
As you can see, the Christian approach to
identifying your problem is not to “get in touch” or “allow” your
problem, or the emotions that may accompany it to dwell within you
while you just “accept” it. Identifying your problem should be a means
to an end, not a door that let’s other problems in. Strength and the
resolution to your problem will come from the Lord. As your friend,
and as a Christian, my advice to you, is “get in touch” with GOD!
“Allow” HIM in and “accept” His TRUTH.
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LET GO AND LET GOD!
LET GO (of your problem), AND LET GOD (remove it)!
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Learn how to control your emotions. Every problem is unique. Every person’s situation
is different, and the steps in the following aspect of this program
are general Christian guidelines to follow, but the links below are
for certain specific problems and issues. If one of these areas
describes your individual problem(s), take a FIELD TRIP to that link and when you’ve
read all the selections of your choice, I’ll meet you back here on THE
PATH.
Keep in mind that these studies are NOT the cure, but more like
vitamins for your mind as to control your emotions. The studies below are not the end of THE PATH.
We still have nine steps to go after this one, so once you've read the
studies you wish to read, be sure to return here.
If you like ...
You may want to
bookmark this page and read one or more of these studies every day as
you continue your walk down the path of TRUTH.
Now that you’ve admitted that you have a problem and
you know that God’s Grace is available to you simply for the asking
and you know that you should forgive yourself and you’ve removed some
serious weeds in your minds garden and you’ve identified your problem
... You have got a good solid beginning to your pathway to freedom
from your problem.
You may have been looking at the problem from a
worldly point of view, instead of a Christian viewpoint, and my friend
that’s exactly what the devil’s purpose is. Anything he can do to
blind you from the TRUTH is his mission. Simply by taking these first
few steps on THE PATH, you’ve begun to thwart the devil’s mission
because you’re already starting to pluck up the weeds that he’s
planted and replace them with seeds of TRUTH.
Ask yourself, since beginning this program, do I
spend less time thinking about my problem(s) than I used to, and do
I have more hope of resolving them?
Try and make it a point, when thoughts of your
problem creep into your mind, instead of trying to get in touch with
your feelings, meditate (think and rethink) about the scriptures we
discussed today of how the Word tells us to deal with them. You will
find a refreshing difference!
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Romans 12:21
Be not overcome of evil, but
overcome evil with good. |
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We all make mistakes. We fall. Sin gets in our way. Temptation surrounds us and we don't always resist. But that is exactly why God sent His only Son Jesus Christ to die for our sins, and to give us the FREE gift of GRACE! He wants you to ask forgiveness and keep fighting the good fight of faith. When you find yourself struggling with feelings of failure, unworthiness, fear, weakness or shame, just remember that God loves you so very much and He wants you to get back up when you stumble. PERSEVERE! NEVER GIVE UP! If you have a bad day, this study will help you understand more about the liberating GRACE that our Father wants each and every one of us to enjoy.
GRACE
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STEPPING STONE FIVE
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Great job today!
You’ve just added your fifth
STEPPING STONE.
I know you’re anxious to move forward, but
you’ve gotten rid of a lot of weeds and planted a lot of TRUTH
today, so it’s time to let the good seed set firmly in the fresh
soil that we’ve cultivated today and soon you’ll see that with a
little watering and the light of TRUTH, your garden will be
flourishing!
Continuing in EACH step daily
is so very important.
If you like ...
You may go back over each
completed step as often as you like as to be sure you have
not missed anything.
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MAKE SURE YOU JOT DOWN A LIL SOMETHING IN YOUR
PERSONAL JOURNAL
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YOU HAVE COMPLETED STEP FIVE
CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS
HOW TO CONTROL EMOTIONS
Tomorrow, return to the Forum page of this program:
And we will proceed to ...
STEPPING STONE #6
And I will meet you there!
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