Control Your Emotions

How to Control Emotions

Christianity Oasis has provided this Control Your Emotions Bible study providing effective counseling on how to control emotions. This deful journey brings forth peace within.


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Control Your Emotions Bible Study

How to Control Emotions Adventure

This is our Cool Confidential Christian Counseling study program sharing this extremely exciting and life changing, Control Your Emotions Bible study trek for Truth seeking the secret ingredients for how to control emotions and how choosing to partake of this recipe for peace will bring a smile to the lips and heart.

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Welcome Back to the Path
Control Your Emotions Bible Voyage

Stepping Stone #5

How to Control Emotions Path

Ecclesiastes 7:8

Better is the end of a thing than the beginning thereof: and the patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit.

I trust you're being patient. The rewards of your patience in taking one step per day is a strong solid path.

Greetings my friend ...

Ready to dig in and get rid of more weeds? Look behind you at the four Stepping Stones that you've already put down. Pretty cool huh? Soon you'll have a lovely pathway that winds all through your garden. It may seem slow at first, but don't forget, important Truths are soaking into the soil (your subconscious mind) ...

How to Control Emotions Properly

Before we get down to the nitty gritty today there's a weed that has runners on its root system called ... Blame. This word "blame" is an ugly word and it's an even uglier weed. Nobody likes to be blamed for anything bad. Whenever problems arise, or if we have long existing problems, one of our first reactions is to blame somebody else. Now, granted, chances are there are other people involved in your problem, but are they to blame?

If we were to ask them why they did whatever they did to contribute to your problem, it's likely that they have others to blame for their actions too. And those people have yet others to blame, and the chain of blame would probably go back in time all the way back to Adam and Eve.

Now, that may sound like a joke at first, when in fact, we really can trace the blame back to that time, when an angel named Satan, who out of jealousy toward God, con-vinced Eve to disobey God, and she passed the deceit on to Adam, and as a result we all inherited what is called ... Original Sin.

Control Your Emotions Bible Study Field Trip Suggestion... To learn more about Original Sin, click on the link below when you have some free time to better comprehend:

So, in all Truth, the thing that we can trace the blame for bad seeds to ... Is the devil. There! Now we have identified the source of the problem ... So what? So, we found out that we are not to blame, and others aren't to blame either ... It is not our sin. But we did choose it and when we choose to continue to entertain the evil that the devil started, and is constantly distributing to mankind ... That's when we become responsible for it.

1 Peter 5:8-9

8 Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour:
9 Whom [you should] resist stedfast in the faith, knowing that the same afflictions are accomplished in your brethren that are in the world.

Time to discuss how to control Emotions ... You know, just to make sure we pull all the roots of the 'blame weed' let's talk about some of the reactions that are related to blame and let's talk about some of the other weeds in the blame family.

Here comes a little Control Your Emotions Bible Study tidbit of Truth ... Revenge is a common one. Anger is another. Mistrust, hatred, fear ... The worst is pride:

1 Peter 3:8-9

8 Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:
9 Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.

If you have ever been to a non-Christian based counseling program of any kind, you'll be misguided into thinking that these reactions are "normal" and that you must "get in touch" with those feelings. Likewise when people lose a loved one, they're encouraged to "get in touch" with their grief. By the way, that phrase "get in touch" means "allow and accept" ...

My friend, the Lord, your Physician, never said that! Quite the opposite is what the Word of God says. Just to make certain, let's take a look at the Truth, shall we?

Revenge

Take a peek at the selection of Scriptures below and count how many times the Word of God says that vengeance (or revenge) belongs to Him!

Deuteronomy 32:35

To me belongeth vengeance and recompense; their foot shall slide in due time: for the day of their calamity is at hand, and the things that shall come upon them make haste.


Psalms 7:8-9

8 The Lord shall judge the people: judge me, O Lord, according to my righteousness, and according to mine integrity that is in me.
9 Oh let the wickedness of the wicked come to an end; but establish the just: for the righteous God trieth the hearts and reins.


Psalms 94:1

O Lord God, to whom vengeance belongeth; O God, to whom vengeance belongeth, show thyself.


Romans 12:19

Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.


2 Thessalonians 1:6-10

6 Seeing it is a righteous thing with God to recompense tribulation to them that trouble you;
7 And to you who are troubled rest with us, when the Lord Jesus shall be revealed from Heaven with His mighty Angels,
8 In flaming fire taking vengeance on them that know not God, and that obey not the Gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ:
9 Who shall be punished with everlasting destruction from the presence of the Lord, and from the glory of His power;
10 When He shall come to be glorified in His Saints, and to be admired in all them that believe (because our testimony among you was believed) in that day.

How to Control Emotions by Controlling Your Thoughts

Fear

2 Timothy 1:7

For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.


1 John 4:18

There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.

Mistrust

Proverbs 3:5-6

Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths.

Anger

Proverbs 14:29

He that is slow to wrath is of great understanding: but he that is hasty of spirit exalteth folly.


Proverbs 16:32

He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.


Proverbs 19:11

The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and it is his glory to pass over a transgression.


Proverbs 22:24-25

24 Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go:
25 Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul.


Proverbs 27:3-4

3 A stone is heavy, and the sand weighty; but a fool's wrath is heavier than them both.
4 Wrath is cruel, and anger is outrageous; but who is able to stand before envy?


Proverbs 29:22

An angry man stirreth up strife, and a furious man aboundeth in transgression.


Ephesians 4:26

Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil.

Very important Control Your Emotions Bible Study reminder ... Never go to sleep angry!

Why, you ask. Because anger is one of the devil's seeds, and when it's planted in your mind and you go to sleep, it thrives in the darkness of sleep. That seed will nestle itself into your subconscious mind and grow into a monstrous weed without your even knowing it. Eliminate your anger by bringing it into the light of the Truth. This is a secret ingredient in the How to Control Emotions recipe.

Grief

Matthew 8:22

But Jesus said unto him, Follow me; and let the dead bury their dead.


Ecclesiastes 2:22-23

22 For what hath man of all his labour, and of the vexation of his heart, wherein he hath laboured under the sun?
23 For all his days are sorrows, and his travail grief; yea, his heart taketh not rest in the night. This is also vanity.

Hatred

Mark 12:29-31

29 And Jesus answered him, The first of all the commandments is, Hear, O Israel; The Lord our God is one Lord:
30 And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment.
31 And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these.

One more Control Your Emotions Bible Study Scripture to kind of sum them all up:

Galatians 6:9

And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.

In other words, don't ever get tired of being righteous, because you will be rewarded accordingly. As as you can plainly see, any retribution for things that we blame others for, belongs to God as it is written ... "Vengeance is Mine saith the Lord."

Now, just relax, because I know you've learned that if you don't address those feelings, they'll eat you up inside and if you don't "express" them, it could be detrimental to your mental health. I'll be showing you the Christian way to deal with those feelings in a Stepping Stone down The Path called ... Control Your Thoughts.

How to Control Emotions Within You

What's Your Problem?
Get Down to the Nitty Gritty

Now, back to learning how to control emotions and the dealing with the problem itself. "The devil made me do it," is not a valid identification to any problem. Let me point out to you the word "source." We found out that the devil is the source of all problems, but the devil can't make anybody do anything. He is only allowed to suggest or present temptation (unless he has God's permission, as it was in Job's case). Once his temptation is introduced, my friend, the ball is in your court. God has given us all free will, which is the freedom to choose what to do. Remember, we discussed that when we learned about God's Grace, but let me give you a little deeper insight.

When God, in His infinite Wisdom created us in His image ...

To learn more about how you are created in God's image, click on the link below:

... He gave each of us this neat little thing called a conscience. Remember in the story of Pinocchio, Jiminy Cricket encouraged the little marionette to "Let your conscience be your guide." What exactly is your conscience anyway? It's the awareness of obligation to do the right thing. You may have heard people use the expression, "He/she has no conscience." Oh, everybody has one, they just don't always use it. Whenever Pinocchio didn't listen to his conscience, that's when he got into trouble.

How to Control Emotions? Become Conscious of Your Conscience!

When we ignore our conscience and don't resist the candy coated offers and ideas that the devil has for sale ... The blame then passes from the "source" of the problem to the "purchaser." Then my friend, you just bought yourself some bad seeds for your garden. Sometimes it takes a while for them to germinate, but once they do ... Well, you know what happens.

Control Your Emotions Bible Study Point of Interest ... Remember back at The Garden Gate, when we said that admitting you have a problem is half the battle? At this point on The Path, it's time to be more specific. Identify the weeds.

  • I have crabgrass in my garden.
  • I have clover in my garden.
  • I have milkweed in my garden.
  • I have thorns.
  • I have briers.
  • I have stickers.
  • I have poison ivy in my garden.

Tell God exactly what your problem is. It's just between you and Him. Make a sincere plea to Him and ask Him to help you weed it out. I'm going to help you out on this one a little bit because you're my friend ... And we're in this together, remember.

This is a Control Your Emotions example of what you'll do, and by accomplishing this we'll be pulling the weeds necessary to put this fifth Stepping Stone in place.

Anyone who has a problem, affects those who love them in one way or another. Your choice not to pull the weed that caused your problem when you first recognized it, allowed it to grow, and seeds from that weed have blown into others' gardens too. Sooooo, part of your problem is a weed called selfishness. Go ahead and say it:

How to Control Emotions By Exposing Them

My problem is __________ .

That's how you do it! Fill in the blank with your bad thoughts and/or emotional condition(s) and bring it into the light. You have just identified (part of) a problem. Of course, yours will include your specific problem and do not be ashamed. Everyone has problems and everyone who is on The Path right now is saying:

My problem is ____________, and I want to change that.

Everyone wants to know how to control emotions and everyone is feeling the same twinge of embarrassment that you're feeling, and it's normal. It's even good! It's part of being repentant and that my friend is what entitles you to that wonderful gift and miracle that you learned about in Stepping Stone #3, God's Grace.

Control your emotions by controlling your thoughts. Remember not to hang on to those feelings of embarrassment by forgiving yourself.

As you can see, the Christian approach to identifying your problem is not to "get in touch" or "allow" your problem, or the emotions that may accompany it to dwell within you while you just "accept" it. Identifying your problem should be a means to an end, not a door that let's other problems in. Strength and the resolution to your problem will come from the Lord. As your friend, and as a Christian, my advice to you, is "get in touch" with God! "Allow" Him in and "accept" His Truth.

Let Go and Let God!

Let Go (of your problem), And Let God (remove it)!

Learn how to control your emotions. Every problem is unique. Every person's situation is different, and the steps in the following aspect of this program are general Christian guidelines to follow, but the links below are for certain specific problems and issues. If one of these areas describes your individual problem(s), take a Field trip to that link and when you've read all the selections of your choice, I'll meet you back here on The Path.

Keep in mind that these studies are not the cure, but more like vitamins for your mind as to control your emotions. The studies below are not the end of The Path. We still have nine steps to go after this one, so once you've read the studies you wish to read, be sure to return here.

If you like, you may want to bookmark this Control Your Emotions Bible Study page and read one or more of these studies every day as you continue your walk down the path of Truth.

Now that you've admitted that you have a problem and you know that God's Grace is available to you simply for the asking and you know that you should forgive yourself and you've removed some serious weeds in your minds garden and you've identified your problem ... You have got a good solid beginning to your pathway to freedom from your problem.

You may have been looking at the problem from a worldly point of view, instead of a Christian viewpoint, and my friend that's exactly what the devil's purpose is. Anything he can do to blind you from the Truth is his mission. Simply by taking these first few steps on The Path, you've begun to thwart the devil's mission because you're already starting to pluck up the weeds that he's planted and replace them with seeds of Truth.

Ask yourself, since beginning this program, do I spend less time thinking about my problem(s) than I used to, and do I have more hope of resolving them?

Try and make it a point, when thoughts of your problem creep into your mind, instead of trying to get in touch with your feelings, meditate (think and rethink) about the scriptures we discussed today of how the Word tells us to deal with them. You will find a refreshing difference!

Romans 12:21

Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.



Stepping Stones

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