The Lonely Hearts Club
Loneliness is an all too common problem, especially for those of us
on the Christian path. There are various levels of loneliness. It can
even get to where you feel all hope is lost. Has loneliness become an
issue in your life? You can overcome loneliness with Truth. It's
easier than you might think.
Well, there you are again ... Alone. Nothing much to do. No one to
talk to. No one to share life with. You sigh heavily and the emotions
start immediately rushing in. Oh yeah, you can count on the same ole
emotions to come pouring in to help you feel overwhelmed! Yep, you
have a whole gang of negative emotional thoughts.
True blue, too. Reliable as the day is long. Always there when ya
need 'em to help you feel lonely! They've got a lot in common, too.
That's why they all get along so well together. Let's go get up close
and personal with these negative emotions related to loneliness and
check just what they are and what their source is. Check out this
Loneliness Bible study list of bad emotions that jump into a lonely
soul:
We will call them ... The Un-dynamic Dozen.
- Sadie Sadness - She likes grief and unhappiness.
- Dejected Dexter - Lookin' for gloom? Call him in the room.
- Melanie Melancholy - Need your spirit quenched? She's your gal.
- Morose Morgan - Capricious fellow ... Unpredictable mood swings.
- Pensive Penny - The daydreamer.
- Glen Glum - Bitterness is his best quality ... Charming.
- Hopeless Holly - Her name speaks for itself.
- Anthony Anxiety - Not known for his peace and tranquility.
- Irascible Irma - Easily angered, hot tempered, cross, cranky, grumpy, irritable, easily annoyed ... She's a real gem.
- Sullen Sylvester - Count on him for silent ill humor ... Likes to mumble under his breath in sarcasm.
- Cynical Cynthia - Has a distrustful view of life in general.
- Pessimistic Preston - Inclined to emphasize the down side of everything.
Now that we have been properly introduced to these tools of the enemy
of your soul (Satan), let's proceed with our Cure For Loneliness
Bible path to peace ... You may wonder, how did you get mixed up with
such a crowd? Well, you may have experienced Lost Love
due to Death
or
Divorce. Maybe your children have all married and moved out of
the house, or gone away to school. Perhaps you're single and haven't
found that special someone yet. You can even be lonely ... Without
being alone.
Loneliness is a horrible feeling. Nobody wants to feel lonely. But,
did ya know that loneliness is a conscious choice that we make for
our lives, like some habits may be. Sometimes it seems like
loneliness is forced upon us. But that is not the Truth ... We
actually choose to entertain the loneliness thoughts.
When we do invite these emotions in, it becomes a real problem. And
it can cause other problems in your life too ... Overeating,
drinking, drug abuse, etc., etc., etc., ... Ugh. Then we get all
worried about these new habits.
Do you just wish there was someone ... Anyone that you could trust
in, that would always be there? Wish you had a companion to talk to
whenever you want to talk, or even if you didn't want to talk ...
Someone who would still want your company? Need someone who
appreciates you for who you are ... Nothing more ... Nothing less?
God's Good Intentions
Being alone doesn't mean you have to be lonely. Did you know that
loneliness is really caused by lack of understanding? We'll look
deeper into that in just a minute.
Now, I'm sure Sullen Sylvester is whispering a couple of things in
your ear right now, so let's just put his ideas to rest, right from
the start. Sylvester says, Man wasn't intended to be alone.
Genesis 2:18
And the Lord God said ... It is not good that the man
should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
Let's take a quick Loneliness Bible verses study field trip ... God
created Eve to help man not be alone. Well, we all saw how that
turned out. I'm certain all was just peachy with God's plan until the
devil came along, and then ... Oh, you know the story. So, when the
devil introduced sin into the world, God's intention didn't change,
but man's ability to carry out His intention in all happiness
changed. If it wasn't for the devil, we would all have our perfect
companions, living in a perfect world of bliss and we would need no
cure for loneliness.
But alas ... It didn't turn out that way.
Then there's Solomon, the wisest man to ever live (besides Jesus).
Note the word man as in human being. Wisdom, he had ...
Infallibility, he didn't.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
9 Two are better than one; because they have a good reward
for their labour.
10 For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but
woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to
help him up.
11 Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but
how can one be warm alone?
12 And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand
him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
Now, let's extend our Loneliness Bible verses study excursion and
take a look at Solomon's track record, shall we? Although Solomon had
700 wives, princesses, and 300 concubines, they turned away his heart
to idolatry.
1 Kings 11:1-4
1 But king Solomon loved many strange women, together with
the daughter of Pharaoh, women of the Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites,
Zidonians, and Hittites:
2 Of the nations concerning which the Lord said unto the
children of Israel, Ye shall not go in to them, neither shall they
come in unto you: for surely they will turn away your heart after
their gods: Solomon clave unto these in love.
3 And he had seven hundred wives, princesses, and three hundred concubines: and his wives turned away his
heart.
4 For it came to pass, when Solomon was old, that his
wives turned away his heart after other gods: and his heart was not
perfect with the Lord his God, as was the heart of David his
father.
Yes, Solomon had rewards for his labor (riches), someone to help him
up when he fell down, and he was warm ... But it sounds like he was
also a lonely soul. In his own words:
Ecclesiastes 7:25-29
25 I applied mine heart to know, and to search, and to
seek out wisdom, and the reason of things, and to know the wickedness
of folly, even of foolishness and madness:
26 And I find more bitter than death the woman, whose
heart is snares and nets, and her hands as bands: whoso pleaseth God
shall escape from her; but the sinner shall be taken by her.
27 Behold, this have I found, saith the preacher, counting
one by one, to find out the account:
28 Which yet my soul seeketh, but I find not: one man
among a thousand have I found; but a woman among all those have I not
found.
29 Lo, this only have I found, that God hath made man
upright; but they have sought out many inventions [other ideas].
So, Solomon says that one upright person is extremely hard to find.
So, what happened to God's good intention of man not being alone?
Well, we've gotten things a little confused in this matter. We search
for the perfect companion in our lives, but we look for someone who
is perfect in the flesh, and my friend, that is where the problem
comes in. We have been taught to seek temporal relationships
based on flesh.
Now, some choose to be alone as far as relationships go but, find
that loneliness creeps in. Let's look at some Loneliness Bible verses
that support being alone:
1 Corinthians 7:32-33
32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is
unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may
please the Lord:
33 But he that is married careth for the things that are
of the world, how he may please his wife.
I'd like to change gears now, because we could talk about your
friends, the Un-dynamic Dozen ... Until the cows come home, but it
appears that what you need is a new group of emotional friends! I'd
like to introduce you to a different group of friends.
The Holy Trinity
is a threefold cord that cannot be broken.
Most of you know about God and Jesus, and you may even have a good
relationship with them, but for some reason, we seem to reserve those
relationships for
Prayer mostly. Do you recall when I said earlier that
loneliness is caused by a lack of understanding? Somehow, we don't
understand that we can have a real relationship with the Holy Spirit.
If you're lonely, comfort is what you're really seeking, so take a
look at the name that Jesus used for the Holy Spirit:
John 14:16-18
16 And I will pray the Father, and he shall give you
another Comforter, that he may abide with you for ever;
17 Even the Spirit of truth; whom the world cannot
receive, because it seeth him not, neither knoweth him: but ye know
him; for he dwelleth with you, and shall be in you.
18 I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you.
I asked you these questions a moment ago. Do you just wish there was
someone ... Anyone that you could trust would always be there? Wish
you had a companion to talk to whenever you want to talk, or even if
you didn't want to talk ... Someone who would still want your
company? Need someone who appreciates you for who you are ... Nothing
more ... Nothing less?
The The Holy Spirit is the companion you're looking for.
Getting Acquainted
You've heard about the Holy Spirit, but chances are, you don't
understand Him, and that's because you've never gotten to know Him.
It's almost as if we're not sure if He's really there or not. He's
not like an imaginary vapor that floats around ... He's real! Do you
ever acknowledge His presence? Did you know that doing so could cure
your loneliness?
The first thing you need to do, is have
Faith.
Matthew 18:1-4
1 At the same time came the disciples unto Jesus, saying,
Who is the greatest in the Kingdom of Heaven?
2 And Jesus called a little child unto him, and set him in
the midst of them,
3 And said, Verily I say unto you, Except ye be converted,
and become as little children, ye shall not enter into the Kingdom of
Heaven.
4 Whosoever therefore shall humble himself as this little
child, the same is greatest in the Kingdom of Heaven .
Have you ever known a child who had an invisible friend? Have you
ever seen such Faith? There's a big difference between being childish
and being as a child. Being childish is being ignorant, or without
Truth, however, being as a child is being innocent and readily
accepting of the Truth with an open heart. As adults, we know that
imaginary friends are just that ... Imaginary, but even though the
Holy Spirit is invisible, He is not imaginary, He is real!
So, how do you build a relationship with the Holy Spirit? How does
one get to know Him? He already knows you, so there's no need to feel
uncomfortable at first. The first thing you need to do, is invite
Him, because He is a gentleman, and He won't respond without knowing
He's welcome. Like you, He doesn't like to be ignored or have someone
who knows He exists, just pretend He is not right there within you.
He has feelings too, and it makes Him feel ... Lonely.
Forever Friends
Here are some cure for Loneliness ideas ... Have a cup of coffee with
the Holy Spirit. Make a chair available for Him. What do you talk
about with a friend over coffee? He is your friend, talk to Him about
everyday life things. Read Him the newspaper article you're reading.
Watch movies with Him. Tell Him your thoughts about it. Tell Him
about your day ahead. Ask Him to accompany you to, and at work.
Become aware of His presence. If you have to take your mind off of
Him to do your work, He understands, just like any friend would, but
in your mind, know He's there. Invite Him with you on your way home
from work. Start planning to do things together. Ask Him to read the
Bible with you every night. Ask Him to open your heart to
understanding the Bible better.
Most of the Loneliness Bible verses reveal that our minds are always
thinking of something. We are constantly thinking to ourselves. Have
you ever tried to think of nothing? It's impossible. So, what if you
started directing your thoughts to the Holy Spirit? What if, in your
mind, instead of just thinking random thoughts to yourself, you told
them to the Holy Spirit? Ask Him to guide your thoughts and ideas,
and help you with answers to questions that you have about anything.
If you dedicate your thoughts to Him, and by being aware that He is
present with you, you're showing your Faith and trust in Him, which
is the foundation of friendship. Watch your loneliness begin to
disappear. In fact, watch a lot of things in your life start to work
out better.
Proverbs 16:3
Commit thy works unto the Lord, and thy thoughts shall be established.
A friend is also someone who listens. Open your heart and listen to
the Holy Spirit. Ask Him to speak to you. Have real conversations
with Him.
Hebrews 3:7
Wherefore (as the Holy Ghost saith, To day if ye will hear His voice,
He talks to you through the Bible. If you have a question, ask God,
in Jesus' name, by way of the Holy Spirit to reveal the answer. Close
your eyes, then open your Bible to any page and point your finger
without looking, then open your eyes and read.
Does this Cure to Loneliness Bible procedure sound strange?
Matthew 7:7
Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and
it shall be opened unto you:
Believe to Receive
Matthew 21:22
And all things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive.
He'll guide you in discerning His answer. He talks through other
people to give us insight as well. Sometimes we fail to recognize the
Holy Spirit speaking to us in the flicker of a light bulb, goose
bumps, brainstorms, a child's smile, the words of a song. There are
all kinds of ways that the Holy Spirit will and does speak to you.
How did the Spirit of God speak to the people in the Bible? Through
thunder, lightning, casting lots, scripture, prophets, a still small
voice ... Open your mind to Him, allow Him in.
Always at Your Side
The Holy Spirit lives inside of you.
1 Corinthians 3:16
Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God
dwelleth in you?
He's everywhere and knows everything ... He is God's Spirit. It's not
ridiculous to imagine that He is with you whether you're preparing
your dinner, out fishing, tucking in the toddler, watching the news,
photographing wildflowers, cleaning the garage, during a sleepless
night, or anytime and anywhere you invite Him.
Let's change Loneliness Bible gears again. Did you know there are
really such things as Evil
Spirits? They're the ones who are trying to convince you that
being alone is a bad thing, and that you should feel sad and
sorrowful. Did you also know that evil spirits absolutely hate
anything that brings you closer to the Holy Spirit? Try this: Turn on
some Christian Music and start to sing along with it.
Crave the cure for Loneliness. Feel the Holy Spirit change your
spirit. You'll notice that the feeling of loneliness immediately
leaves, because evil spirits can't stand it that the Holy Spirit is
in control, so they have to leave, and the thoughts of loneliness
leave with them. They cannot contend with God.
Here is an important Loneliness Bible verses study reminder ...
Remember in the Adam and Eve story how the devil ruined their perfect
relationship? Do not allow the devil to ruin your relationship with what
Jesus called the Comforter, the Holy Spirit which lives within you.
James 4:7
Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will
flee from you.
There's something important to know about the Holy Spirit. If you
start to entertain anything unrighteous (thoughts, people, ungodly
television shows, reading material, music, etc.), you'll find that
the Holy Spirit won't stick around for that. Any friend who didn't
agree with something that you're doing, would do the same. By doing
such things, you're inviting evil and The Un-dynamic Dozen to drop on
by and you give them the opportunity to lure you into things that
cause loneliness. You won't find the Holy Spirit in that kind of
company.
Faithful Friend
The Loneliness Bible verses have shown us that the Holy Spirit always
has time for you. He never puts you on hold, or refuses an
invitation. He's never late and your opinion counts to Him. He's
always eager to hear your point of view, and will guide you in the
right direction if you're on the wrong path. He's the best friend
you'll ever have. He wants to be with you every possible moment that
He can be.
The Holy Spirit loves you more than
you can imagine. Did you know that He's there when you wake up in the
morning waiting for you to include Him in your life? Say Good Morning
to Him, first thing, and watch your life improve. If your best friend
was with you, and you got up and brushed your teeth and got ready for
work, and never said Good Morning, would they be hurt?
Loneliness Bible study tips: Call Him by name ... Say, Good
Morning Holy Spirit! Make it a habit to say Good Morning to the Holy
Spirit every day before you speak a word to anyone
else.
I Thought They'd Never Leave
The cure for Loneliness next step, once you start establishing your
relationship with the Holy Spirit, you'll find that you can't wait
for time alone to be with Him. If you miss having coffee with Him one
morning, you'll feel disappointed, not out of guilt or obligation,
but out of sincere desire just to be with Him. Bet ya never thought
you'd ever be anxious to have time alone did ya? Be careful not to
disregard your human friends and family once you get to know the Holy
Spirit. He lives in them too, they probably just don't know it ...
Yet. He also works through them to influence your life, but also be
aware that evil works through people to influence others too.
I've got some more good news for your lonely heart. You can build the
same kind of relationship with God, Jesus, and your Guardian Angel.
They all have different personalities, and soon you'll get to know
them all, personally. Now that you understand you're never alone,
you've got another problem ... Who are you gonna invite? Why not
invite them all at once, and have a little party?
If you discovered this Loneliness Bible verses study with an
extremely extraordinary and essential cure for loneliness at a time
in your life when loneliness was troubling you, perhaps the Holy
Spirit led you here. I urge you to choose to walk the Healing Path To
Peace ...
Take good care and stay YOU-nique and HIS.
Put your loneliness behind you.
It's also a fantastic way to spend time with The Fantastic Four. God
bless you.