THE SECOND BOOK OF SAMUEL
AMNON AND TAMAR BIBLE STUDY
WHO ARE ABSALOM AND AMNON IN THE BIBLE
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AMNON AND TAMAR BIBLE STUDY LESSON
ABSALOM AND AMNON IN THE BIBLE REVENGE
Today we have such a heart wrenching story
ahead, but first let's briefly go over what we studied last time during our Daily Bread. The
Lord used Nathan the Prophet, to talk to David about the sins David had
David repented, and the Lord forgave him, but as punishment, the
child born between Bathsheba and David had to die. But then the Lord allowed David
and Bathsheba to have a son that would be used later to build a temple for the
Lord, and that son was named Solomon.
In today's Daily Bread, we'll learn about some things that transpired in David's family after that ... Remember that
the Lord told David that there would be conflict within his own family as a
result of his choices concerning Bathsheba.
Here we go ...
David's son, Absalom, had a sister
named Tamar, and in Biblical times, they referred to a beautiful woman as
'fair,' but in today's generation, Tamar would probably be referred to as, well adjectives change a lot from generation to generation, so let's just stick with saying she was beautiful. Now, David's son, Amnon, fell in love with her. (These two brothers had different mothers, so Tamar was actually Amnon's half sister.)
Now Amnon became so obsessed with his sister, that his lovesickness was obvious in his physical appearance, as he wouldn't eat, and grew lean. Tamar was a virgin, so Amnon thought it
was next to impossible to get her to "give in" to him. But he had a cousin, Jonadab, who was very clever ... Subtil, they call it in the Bible ... A bad boy
in other words ... And Amnon confessed his overwhelming love for
his half sister Tamar to this "friend."
AMNON AND TAMAR BIBLE STUDY TRUTH
ABSALOM AND AMNON IN THE BIBLE SIN
Well, gosh ... The name Jonadab means
'one who gives liberally' and true to his name, Jonadab felt obliged to give
Amnon more than "a dab" of advice. He says to Amnon, "Hey man ... Why don'tcha
give your old man a holler and pretend you're sick. Yeah, tell him you're not feelin' too swift, and to
send that little chickie sister of yours over to make you some griddle cakes so you'll feel
Y'know, when you're lovesick, just
about anything sounds like a good idea if it has any possibility of resulting in
being with the object of your desire ... Right?
Unsuspecting, David takes the bait,
tucks a sack of flour under Tamar's arm and sends her on over.
Well, Tamar makes a tall stack and
serves them to Amnon, but heck, he could have had any servant do that, so
he tells Tamar to dismiss the servants and come and feed him by hand ... You
know ... On account of his weakness and all.
... Uh, yeah ... Right ...
Okay now, enough silliness, this is
truly a serious matter and it's not to be made light of ...
When she gets close enough to him,
Amnon grabs Tamar and says, "Come lie with me little sister."
"No!" cries Tamar. "Don't do this
terrible thing that you're about to do. How will I ever show my face again?
And what about you? ... Why, you'll be nothing more than a fool in the eyes of
everyone in Israel. I beg you, talk to Dad, and he'll allow us to get married."
AMNON AND TAMAR BIBLE STUDY RESEARCH
ABSALOM AND AMNON IN THE BIBLE CONCERN
But Amnon wouldn't hear her reasoning,
the passion and the temptation and lust were so so strong inside him, and though he was under
the weather, he was still stronger than she, and he forced her against her will.
IMMEDIATELY afterward, Amnon hated Tamar with perfect hatred ...
2 Samuel 13:15
Then Amnon hated her exceedingly; so that the hatred wherewith he hated
her was greater than the love wherewith he had loved her. And Amnon said
unto her, Arise, be gone.
Tamar responds, "Sending me away is
even worse than what you actually did to me!" But Amnon ignores her. He
doesn't feel the same about her anymore.
One has to ask ... Was that passion that
Amnon had for Tamar before he raped her really love? Or was it lust? If it had
been love ... True love ... Wouldn't he have felt the same for her afterward as
well ... Or even more so?
AMNON AND TAMAR BIBLE STUDY DISCUSSION
ABSALOM AND AMNON IN THE BIBLE WARNING
Things look mighty different on the other side of lust ... After it's gone.
There is a void that needs to be filled, to replace the lust, so if there is
no love, the enemy of our souls will look for some kind of wickedness to lure with,
in this case it was hatred.
Now, pay attention, because many
people think that a physical relationship can keep another person's love for
them alive, but it usually ends up a failure. It is such a common belief,
especially among teenagers and young adults.
One or both parties may think that having sex will
be an exciting adventure, but after it's done, the boy hates the girl because
she's easy, and the girl hates the boy because he never really truly loved her ...
Just wanted to have him a little fun. Whether you're male or female, don't
mistake lust for love. Examine it very carefully. Investigate, inquire,
inspect, dig, prove, test ... You owe it to yourself ... And to God.
Imagine how detestable they both felt. Amnon, because when the lust of the flesh is gone, the spirit faces the
TRUTH, and he realized what a horrible violation he just committed against,
aughhhhh, his own sister! ... And Tamar because she had not only been defiled, but
defiled and then rejected the instant it was finished!
Not only did Amnon kick Tamar out, but he called to his
servant and said to get her out of his sight and lock the door behind her.
Tamar then did the ashes on the head
thing and tore her clothes, like one would do who was in mourning ... Because she
WAS! Her virginity was dead, and not of her own choosing.
AMNON AND TAMAR BIBLE STUDY MESSAGE
ABSALOM AND AMNON IN THE BIBLE DANGER
She was crying when her brother
Absalom found her and he asked if Amnon had been with her. When she told him
what happened, he consoled her and asked her to be patient and not to worry
about what happened. So Tamar, forlorn and stripped of her dignity, stayed with Absalom
after that. To expose the crime would have brought disgrace upon the
entire family, and a woman so violated would not have been eligible for marriage
in those days ... The kings daughter to boot. A tragic story, tragic.
Time out! Is this story of incest just a lesson
for when it happens between siblings? Absolutely not! Lust is a tool of the
devil that unfortunately, particularly in the current generation runs
rampant, and incest is damaging souls in exponential numbers among the human
race. The devil has used the world to present defiling thoughts to people
and when a person chooses to entertain those thoughts, the results are
No little toddler boy thinks in his mind, that when he grows up
he's gonna abuse his sister or his daughter. No ... The idea came from
outside influences. Does that make it justifiable? Heaven's NO! But knowing
the source may help a victim to live inside their own skin after the fact. Never
forget that the forbidden fruit was the one that the devil tempted Eve with.
Had it not been forbidden, it wouldn't have held any curiosity or interest.
Note that in mankind, the more forbidden something is, with more greed it is
desired. That is the consequence of original sin, and as Christians, we MUST
depend on the Lord to be our strength and pursue righteousness whenever we
are presented with trial and tribulation from that old serpent.
Let's also talk about sibling relationships at a young age. There are
many that, because of worldly examples, are convinced that it is sport to be
in rivalry with one's brothers and or sisters, but in fact, protection is
the honorable virtue one should demonstrate from the heart for their family.
AMNON AND TAMAR BIBLE STUDY JUSTICE
ABSALOM AND AMNON IN THE BIBLE FEARS AND TEARS
How does you think the Lord feels about the term 'dysfunctional family'
being one that people are eager to use as a conversation piece? Be very
careful of the enemy when he tries to plant seeds of destruction in the mind
under the guise of normalcy and in harmony with what the world finds
acceptable and/or sometimes even humorous.
You can tell by Amnon's behavior, that his conscience (or his
subconscious mind) was seared by his
actions. He could have chosen to humble himself and repent for his sin, but
his pride (which is another tool of the devil's, but also an act of choice)
overcame him and convinced him to abhor his sister, who moments ago he loved to the point of
Sin has a way of multiplying if the sinner doesn't choose humility.
Those who are predators know this as well as their victims. This is such a
shameful thing in the minds of both, that in most cases, it is never spoken of by either the
predator or the victim and oft times it happens repeatedly, because
the enemy knows how to manipulate the
predator into a cycle of lust, performance, self-disgust,
pride, justification, then lust again.
The victim on the other hand most of
the time wrestles with fear and shame, never telling anyone and usually
blaming God and/or despising their own beauty and blame themselves as well
for attracting their attacker, many times allowing it to occur again without
protest because of fear and other reasons and detesting the feeling of uncleanness.
It is such an heart-rending tragedy, yet the enemy convinces the
predator to continue to pursue this cycle, and the victim
to submit, and lives are
defiled over and over again. If you have found yourself a
predator or a victim, ask for the strength and wisdom of
God to overcome. Do not settle for allowing it to continue. If you are a
victim and are being
threatened, the Lord may guide you to a source of protection outside your
SIN OF AMNON AND TAMAR BIBLE STUDY
ABSALOM AND AMNON IN THE BIBLE TRAGEDY
The LORD is my strength and my shield; my heart trusted in Him, and
I am helped: therefore my heart greatly rejoiceth; and with my song
will I praise Him.
Forgiveness is another issue that must be addressed. The effect that
incest has on each person that it happens to, is so individual that
nobody BUT the Lord could possibly know how to bring about complete
healing from such an experience. With that in mind, who better to
confide in when faced with the task of forgiving the seemingly
unforgivable, than Christ?
Does being forgiving mean trusting that
you'll be secure in the presence of your former predator? Must you be
all lubby dubby with them once you've forgiven? These are questions to
ask the Lord in prayer. Trust only in HIS answer. Open your heart to Him. If you would like
confidential Christian guidance and would like to get on the path to
healing, you'll find peace with
Christian Counseling, and it's free for anyone who wishes to
overcome not only incest, but any problem.
AMNON AND TAMAR BIBLE STUDY ON SAD DAVID
ABSALOM AND AMNON IN THE BIBLE LOSS
Now, back to our story. When king David heard of everything
that happened, he was angry, but he did nothing about it. (Perhaps, knowing
first hand how strong temptation can be, he didn't feel the right to judge his
son for something he himself could not control not long ago.
Not only that, but do you suppose David was feeling more than a twinge of guilt that maybe his bad
example may have been instrumental in bringing this all about? What a befuddling
situation for all involved.) Absalom showed no outward sign of emotion toward Amnon, neither good nor bad, but disdained him at heart because he raped his sister.
After two years had passed, Absalom
was going to shear sheep in Baal-hazor, and he invited king David and all his
brothers to join him. David himself declined the invitation
but Absalom convinced David with much urging, to let all the brothers go along.
Now secretly, Absalom commanded his
servants, "When Amnon gets drunk, and when I give you the word, don't be afraid
of anything, just
go and kill him. And Absalom's servants killed Amnon just as he commanded.
Then all the king's sons jumped on their mules and got outta Dodge.
As the rest of Absalom's brothers were
on their way back to Jerusalem, David heard the news that Absalom had killed all
the king's sons and there was no one still alive. The king got up, tore his
clothes and lay on the ground. All his servants stood near him with their
clothes torn as well. You must imagine that David must have felt
exceedingly grieved now, since he allowed Amnon to go to the shearing, with the
odds of Absalom taking vengeance on his brother a very possible conclusion.
And Jonadab (remember, Amnon's buddy),
said to David, "Don't believe that all the king's sons are dead. Only Amnon is
dead. Ever since he forced himself on Tamar, Absalom has been planning a day to
kill him." (E-gads.) When the watchman saw many people coming up the hill
toward the city, Jonadab said to the king, "Look, the king's sons have returned just like I
said." They arrived, lifted up their voices and cried. The king and his
servants wept bitterly.
AMNON AND TAMAR BIBLE STUDY CONCLUSION
ABSALOM AND AMNON IN THE BIBLE SUMMARY
David mourned for Amnon every day and Absalom ran away, taking refuge with
Talmai, the king of Geshur. Talmai was Absalom's granddaddy on his mamma's side
of the family (2
Samuel 3:3). He remained there for three years. Over time, David accepted
Amnon's death and his soul longed to see Absalom.
The Prophecy that Nathan told to David
was true ... Conflict within David's own family had indeed come to pass. Wondering
when or if Absalom may come home? Make sure to come back tomorrow and find out,
right here at Daily Bread!
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