GUILT

Those who lose a loved one, oft times feel guilty inside, wondering if maybe there was something more they could have done to prevent the loss. They regret that they didn’t spend more time with their loved one. The things they wish they had said to them and things they wish they would have never said to them … Now they believe that they will never have the chance to make it right.

The pain is so deep that you almost feel like you’ve lost your whole life. There is a giant VOID within. You’re broken, and it hurts. Crying has become part of your routine. You think you’ll never be happy again. Sleep is not the same.

Life is just … Not right.

Your thought process begins to affect everyone around you.
Including the other loved ones in your life.

As time passes ... You have fair days.
But, the bad days far outnumber them.

Whether you’ve lost a loved one to death or divorce, either one can be a traumatic experience. You feel like a part of you is gone.

Questions constantly come into your mind ... Why would God let this happen? Why did He take them away from you? What did I do wrong? 

And the most popular ...

WHY NOW, LORD?

Why did God have to take them now?

If we could just understand why they were taken when they were, perhaps, we feel like we could accept it better and our delicate heart could be on the mend.

Let’s look at some reasons why.
 

DELIVERED FROM EVIL

It may be that God didn’t take your loved one from you, but perhaps He set them free from something that they were suffering or that might have happened if He didn’t.

Only God knows what the future holds for us. If there was something that God didn’t want your loved one to experience, that may be the reason why. 

 

THE TEST AND TRIAL FACTOR

Another possible reason is ... “The Test and Trial Factor.”

Have you ever read the Book of Job?

Job was a righteous man, who loved the Lord. One day when the Angels were in line, waiting to talk to God, satan was with them (because he is an Angel himself). God said, Have you seen my servant Job? There's nobody like Job on all the earth. He loves God and turns away from bad. Satan said, of course he does, because you spoil him, but if you didn’t … He’d curse you. God allowed everything to be taken from Job, except his wife and his life. Job lost quite an estate … and TEN children. Job, was tested beyond imagination, and although he questioned why he suffered so much loss, never once did he blame God. In the end, God talks to Job out of a whirlwind and makes him see that He is so magnificent, that man doesn't have to know or understand why God does what He does. He can do anything and He doesn't have to explain it to any. Job told God that he knew that nothing was impossible for the Lord, and that he was sorry if he ever doubted His power. Job proved his love and devotion to the Lord, and in the end, the Lord rewarded Job with ten more children and twice the blessings that he had before.

The things that happen to us and to our loved ones sometimes don’t make sense to our human minds, but there are sometimes reasons beyond our understanding that explain why. We may never know those reasons, at least not while we’re on this earth, but we must remain Faithful to God and trust in His will. 

Although it may not seem so at the time ...
God never gives us too much to handle.

DEALING WITH DEATH

Most are able to overcome the pain and suffering within, after the loss of a loved one. Others are encaged in a darkness within and the words of family and friends, tho comforting ... Just do not set you free.

There comes a time when people come face to face with the fact that they can’t do it alone, and that’s probably why you are here. We reach a point where we feel helpless and that seeking to overcome the pain within is hopeless.

We don’t know where to turn or which way to go. That’s when it hits us … Our only hope is in the Lord. He’s the only one we can truly trust. We need Him.

Whether you’ve lost a spouse, a child, a sibling, a companion, a friend, a relative, or even a pet, you CAN be happy again.

But where do we start?

How can we overcome knowing our loved one is DEAD?

My friend ... There is your first problem.

Your loved one is NOT dead.  

UNDERSTANDING

You may have given up on trying to understand why your loved one has been taken from you, but understanding may just be the answer to mending your heart.

I’d like for you to open your mind and heart to some things that may bring you closer to the understanding that can heal your fragile heart concerning those that pass from this realm to the next ...

Nothing could be closer to the TRUTH.

Ask Him to show you something that you can do for Him … something far outside of your comfort zone that will make you feel complete again. Not something simple, but something you can lose yourself in.

Did you get that? Lose yourself!

Find HIM!

Maybe you could write a book about your experience to help others who are going through the same thing, and maybe you’ll even save others from the same heartache before it happens to them.

Maybe you could become a member of the Oasis and fellowship with others who are suffering such a loss and need a hand of friendship.

Every day, God has a plan for us … people He wants us to serve, words of comfort to say, acts of kindness to perform. There are places He wants us to be just when someone needs us. You can go through life seeing everything as routine … just another day … or you can keep your eyes open to the opportunities that God sets up for you. Then, you can see God working through you, making your life truly valuable.

AT EITHER RATE ...

LIVE AND LET LOVE

LOVE AND LET LIVE.