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Entering the State of Truth

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Some may say ... This Incest secrets program is excellent for those who hated the incest secrets abuse and wanted the incest secrets to stop or if the incest secrets horrors already stopped.

But, what about those who are still involved in incest secrets with echoes like these incest secrets in their minds and hearts:

"You have no idea what I have done."

"The abuse hasn't stopped, nor do I want it to."

Ok ... Then let's be real with ourselves.

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What is the reason that we are allowing ourselves to believe? Perhaps one or more of these?

We enjoy the feeling or secretly we think we like it?

We feel wanted or loved when it happens?

We already feel used so what's the point of fighting it?

We don't think it will ever stop, so why try?

We believe it would hurt our abuser's feelings by not allowing it anymore?

We're doing it just to get it over with?

Oh, but wait ... There's more !!!

"I am now the predator."

"I lured him on purpose."

"I was old enough to know better."

"Sometimes, I approached him. I went to him. He didn't come to me."

"I fantasize about him."

"I'm no good anyway."

No matter what excuses we add in, or whether we want to admit it or not ... We secretly do hope somehow we can stop the habit that has been formed, despite what the whispers say in our mind.

It's happened so much that it actually feels like a habit now. Is addicted too strong a word? Nehhhhhhh, it describes it perfectly !!! It is no more than an addiction.

Some of us think it more horrible for it to stop happening than for it to continue. It's our sense of love. We think we like it ... Okay ... Then prove it ... If we really like it, then ...

Why do we hate ourselves afterward?

Why do we punish ourselves afterward?

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C'monnnnnnn ... Face it. We do not like it. It's a game the devil is playing in our minds. It's an addiction that we can't seem to break. You know ... A habit.

Everyone has habits they don't like. They can and do break these habits every day. Think there is no way huh?

Hey ... There is a way. But, it takes some determination and its going to sound a bit difficult ... But can be very easy to do.

God gives us Free Will though, remember? If we choose to continue to allow it to happen ... Knowing it's wrong ... Then how will we ever be able to walk in the path that God wanted us to be in?

That path is full of blessings, joy, peace, and freedom.

We are choosing to stay encaged ... Because of this habit.

We can stop this. It does not matter what we did. Who cares if we think we initiated it? Who cares if they initiated it? Who cares if we think we wanted to go along with it? Who cares if we numbed out to be able to please them? It doesn't change what happened, who and what the source of our addiction is.

It's All in the Past Now

We have the power to make it stop. Inside of us. We have to stop making excuses ... And allow ourselves to be set free.

Story Time

Let's try a scenario or two as to help us imagine what it would be like for someone else ... Sometimes its easier to understand and see Truth, if we aren't talking about our own selves.

We find out a young child we know well is being molested by a family member. We bring up the topic to the child because we want to help. The child tells us that they like it happening sometimes. Yeah ... Sometimes they might not ... But that's okay. They take the good with the bad.

Uhhhhhhh ... Would we be truly okay with our self if we just said "Oh okay ... As long as you like it ... Then you can keep doing it."?

Imagine the same situation with a friend our age ... Except now add in all the aftermath that is able to be seen after several times or even years of it happening. They struggle with relationships, they harm themselves ... Add in everything that WE are going through ... (not to mention the hidden tears and hurt that they can't share with anyone) ...

But ... Our friend still thinks they like it ... Is it okay with you that they continue in their abuse? C'monnnnn, do not quit on me now.

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Here is another scenario to consider ...

A child gets kidnapped for period of time. When the parents find the child, the child tells them of different situations of sexual abuse that happened. Growing up, the child continues to think about what happened ... And almost misses it. It was part of their life. And it's gone now.

Are they bad for thinking those thoughts? Of course not ... It became a habit for the child. Do the parents alienate or abandon the child because they have these habits? No wayyyyyyy. And ... Just as it became a habit for us.

Our Heavenly Father understands and will forgive and help us if we reach out for Him and ask that He help us break the habit.

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Breaking the Habit

How do we break a habit? Like any other habit. Find something to replace it with and let time kick in. If we were trying to quit smoking ... People recommend chewing gum to replace the old habit.

If we are trying to quit cutting ... People recommend holding ice on the skin to replace the feeling you get.

If we are trying to quit drinking ... Trying to quit overeating ... Trying to quit cussing ... We find someone to talk to ... We find something to busy our self with ... We find different phrases to say to replace the old ones ...

Breaking the Habit
by Linkin Park

Memories consume
Like opening the wound
I'm picking me apart again
You all assume
I'm safe here in my room
Unless I try to start again


I don't want to be the one
The battles always choose
'Cause inside I realize
That I'm the one confused


I don't know what's worth fighting for
Or why I have to scream
I don't know why I instigate
And say what I don't mean
I don't know how I got this way
I know it's not alright
So I'm breaking the habit
I'm breaking the habit tonight

Clutching my cure
I tightly lock the door
I try to catch my breath again
I hurt much more
Than anytime before
I had no options left again


I don't want to be the one
The battles always choose
'Cause inside I realize
That I'm the one confused


I don't know what's worth fighting for
Or why I have to scream
I don't know why I instigate
And say what I don't mean
I don't know how I got this way
I'll never be alright
So, I'm breaking the habit
I'm breaking the habit tonight


I'll paint it on the walls
'Cause I'm the one at fault
I'll never fight again
And this is how it ends

I don't know what's worth fighting for
Or why I have to scream
But now I have some clarity
to show you what I mean
I don't know how I got this way
I'll never be alright
So, I'm breaking the habit
I'm breaking the habit
I'm breaking the habit

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And Lead Us Not Into Temptation

The enemy of our soul wants us to stay as far away from God's purpose for our lives as possible. So he is constantly sending us temptations to go back and stay in our abuse. That way, no feelings of freedom are possible. Just as he wants.

But ... We can pray to be delivered from temptation:

Matthew 6:13

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the Kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen.

We might get overwhelmed with the temptation to go back. It gets stuck in our head and it's all we can think about.

But the Truth is that God does not allow us to be tempted above what we can handle ...

1 Corinthians 10:13

There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.

Even Jesus was subject to temptations, but He showed us how to use Truth to overcome the whispered temptations.

Matthew 4:1-3

4 Then was Jesus led up of the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted of the devil.
2 And when He had fasted forty days and forty nights, He was afterward an hungred.
3 And when the tempter came to Him, he said, If thou be the Son of God, command that these stones be made bread.

Matthew 4:6-7

6 And saith unto Him, If thou be the Son of God, cast thyself down: for it is written, He shall give His Angels charge concerning thee: and in their hands they shall bear thee up, lest at any time thou dash thy foot against a stone.
7 Jesus said unto him, It is written again, Thou shalt not tempt the Lord thy God.

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Jesus used Truth to shed light on the temptation as to show it was but a lie despite the fact that the devil tried to use Scripture to spruce up his lie as to appear to be the way it was. When the enemy of our soul heard these words of Truth, he immediately changed the subject and tried yet again to lure Jesus into sin.

Matthew 4:8-11

8 Again, the devil taketh Him up into an exceeding high mountain, and sheweth Him all the Kingdoms of the world, and the glory of them;
9 And saith unto Him, All these things will I give thee, if thou wilt fall down and worship me.
10 Then saith Jesus unto him, Get thee hence, Satan: for it is written, Thou shalt worship the Lord thy God, and him only shalt thou serve.
11 Then the devil leaveth Him, and, behold, Angels came and ministered unto Him.

Note that the devil did try more than once to lure even Jesus into sin but Jesus again used Truth and the enemy of our soul knew his efforts were futile.

So, what did he do next? He left. He can't stand hearing Truth being said and believed. It makes his ears burn. So he runs.

We can (and need to) do the same thing that Jesus did. When we are overcome with the temptation to go back and allow the abuse to continue ... We need to speak Truth to the lies we tell ourselves.

The enemy may try more tricks but he will leave if he sees that he cannot deceive us. Even if but for a season we can be refreshed and be prepared for the devil's next attack to our soul.

However, when we talk ourselves into accepting the temptations that we are overcome with as being the way it is, we deny the power of Truth to ever be able to overcome it.

So, we must choose to seek the Truth to ever be able to overcome the temptation.

Remember what we were told:

1 Corinthians 10:13

There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.

Sooooooo, we need only seek that way (Truth) that has been placed out there for us to escape. It is there. The only reason we cannot find it is because we are so wrapped up in the temptation itself. But, now we know the Truth that there is a way to escape the temptation.

And Truth Will Set Us Free!

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Sooooo ... Back to these lies we tell ourselves:

Secret Lies
(not a song)

  • We enjoy the feeling or secretly we think we like it. We feel wanted or loved when it happens?
  • We already feel used so what's the point of fighting it?
  • We don't think it will ever stop, so why try?
  • We believe it would hurt our abuser's feelings by not allowing it anymore?
  • We're doing it just to get it over with.
  • "I am now the predator."
  • "I lured him on purpose."
  • "I was old enough to know better."
  • "I approached him. I went to him. He didn't come to me."
  • "I fantasize about him."
  • "I'm no good anyway."

Instead ... Replace it with Truth:

Blatant Truth
(not a song)

  • We are an abused victim that is encaged in a habit that we need to break.
  • Temptation will not overcome us.
  • We are special and precious in God's eyes and He has a plan of freedom for our life.
  • He has and will forgive us.
  • He is our true Father and loves us unconditionally.
  • We are so precious in His sight and deserve so much more than this continual abuse.
  • God's precious thoughts about us outweigh the number of grains of sand ...

Psalms 139:17-18

17 How precious also are thy thoughts unto me, O God! how great is the sum of them!
18 If I should count them, they are more in number than the sand: when I awake, I am still with thee.

It's in Christ that we find out who we are and what we are living for. Long before we first heard of Christ, He had His eye on us, had designs on us for glorious living, part of the overall purpose he is working out in everything and everyone.

Ephesians 1:11-12

11 In whom also we have obtained an inheritance, being predestinated according to the purpose of him who worketh all things after the counsel of his own will:
12 That we should be to the praise of his glory, who first trusted in Christ.

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It's in Christ that we, once we heard the truth and believed it, we found our self home free--signed, sealed, and delivered by the Holy Spirit. This promise from God is the first step to what's coming, a reminder that we'll get everything God has planned for us: an awesome, useful, effective, fulfilling life.

Sounds great, doesn't it?!

Ephesians 1:13-14

13 In whom ye also trusted, after that ye heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation: in whom also after that ye believed, ye were sealed with that holy Spirit of promise,
14 Which is the earnest of our inheritance until the redemption of the purchased possession, unto the praise of his glory.

We are made with such uniqueness, that no one else could fulfill the reason that God created us. It's like... He had this plan set for us before we were even alive. Ever thought about that? Believing we are not a piece of garbage, but have a purpose for something? Makes us wonder what it is. Is there really a plan for us? Even after ...


God knows the plans He has for us ... Plans not to harm us but of peace, plans to give us hope and a future.

Jeremiah 29:11

For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end [hope and a future].

But why would God spend so much time making this wonderful plan for us? Because He created us. God loves us knowing everything we do and have done. Even our thoughts are not hidden from Him and He still loves us just as much. We are the only one that can fulfill the purpose that God made us for.

  • Our smile was designed specifically for us.
  • Our laugh is unique.
  • Our gifts and talents are God-given.
  • Our personality is like no one else. Though we may have similarities with people, there is not one soul with the exact same personality.
  • No one else has the exact same footprint shape in the sand.
  • We are a pearl ... A treasure ... Hidden within.
  • No one's shell looks exactly like ours.
  • No one's shell has been in all the same places as ours.
  • And no one has the same inner or outer beauty as the pearl that we are.
  • No one has the same sparkle and shine as our heart is made to have.

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No one has the same experiences. No one can reach the people we can the exact same way. Some people can only be reached and helped by us ... Because no one can understand them, except us. We have the experiences to really understand them. To really know how they feel.

God, You know our lives and You know us.
We're an open book to You; even from a distance, you know what we're thinking.
You know when we leave and when we get back; We're never out of Your sight.
You know everything we're going to say before we start the first sentence.
We look behind us and You're there, then up ahead and You're there, too--
Your reassuring presence is always with us.

Psalms 139:1-5

1 O lord, thou hast searched me, and known me.
2 Thou knowest my downsitting and mine uprising, thou understandest my thought afar off.
3 Thou compassest my path and my lying down, and art acquainted with all my ways.
4 For there is not a word in my tongue, but, lo, O Lord, thou knowest it altogether.
5 Thou hast beset me behind and before, and laid thine hand upon me.

You're Special

  • You're special. In all the world there's nobody like you.
  • Since the beginning of time there has never been another person like you.
  • Nobody has your smile, nobody has your eyes, your nose, your hair, your hands, your voice.
  • You're special. No one can be found who has your handwriting.
  • Nobody anywhere has your tastes for food, clothing, music, or art.
  • No one sees things just as you do.
  • In all of time there's been no one who laughs like you, no one who cries like you, and what makes you cry or laugh will never produce identical laughter and tears from anybody else, ever.
  • You're the only one in all of creation who has your set of abilities.
  • Oh, there will always be somebody who is better at one of the things you're good at, but no one in the universe can reach the quality of your combination of talents, ideas, abilities and feelings. Like a room full of musical instruments, some may excel alone, but none can match the symphony sound when all are played together. You're a symphony.
  • Through all of eternity, no one will ever look, walk, talk, think or do like you.
  • You're special ... You're rare.
  • And in all rarity there is great value. Because of your great value you need no attempt to imitate others ... You will accept--yes, celebrate your differences.
  • You're special and you're beginning to realize it's no accident that you're special.
  • You're beginning to see that God made you special for a purpose.
  • He must have a job for you that no one else can do as well as you.
  • Out of billions of applicants, only one is qualified, only one has the right combination of what it takes.
  • That one is you, because ... You're special.


Can't we see how precious and special we are? We were made for a reason!!! And living in abuse is not that reason!

God spent so much time creating us. His love and plans for us far exceed any worth or reason or excuse to allow the abuse to continue. We don't need the abuse continue when we start to accept the love that God has for us.

Can we live out His plans of peace and hope for us if we continue to fall into the temptation of going back or the apathy of it continuing?


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We must free our self. Free our body and our spirit. Take these chains off of us. Don't live another day where we're encaged by sexual abuse and molestation. Don't let it shape our life anymore. Don't let it affect our spirit anymore. Don't let it determine where our life is headed (which is the opposite direction of what God's plans of peace have in store for us).

Break the habit. Break the chains. Be determined to be set free and say:

No More !!!

We have the strength to do it.

Through Him !!!

Philippians 4:13

I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

Leave everything you have said and done before ... In the past.

Do you want to get better? Do you want to heal? Do you want to be able to have a normal relationship with someone? Do you want to have a life instead of just an existence of a numbed child passing time every day?

We have nothing but the future now ahead of us and we have a choice of which direction we want to go. Freedom/Peace/Joy ... Or follow the devil's plan ... And we know where that leads.

The answer ... Choose.

Choose to fight these temptations that the devil is luring you with. You can overcome this and be set free.

For those that know it wrong, simply don't care, and decide to allow the abuse to continue anyway.

It's your choice what happens. Its your choice if you are going to continue to allow it or not. But because God knows our heart ... And He knows when we know better but still chose to go ...

Picture with me for a second ...

We have driven for a little while on a long windy road. The road has come to a dead end. We have to choice to go right or left. We can't go both. We can drive straight ahead so we don't have to "chose," but we would just smash into that huge tree in front of us. It's not possible.

Right or left.

We have the choice. We can chose the path that heads to healing. The state of freedom. God's plan for our life.

Or we can chose to go in the opposite direction and allow it to continue.

But now ... The devil is now using you as a lure to keep another soul from God. You have become the temptation. You are actually keeping another person (our abuser) living in sin. We are keeping another person from knowing God. (Remember you can't be living in continual sin and be on the path God has planned for us at the same time.)

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You can actually help save someone ... Give someone a chance to be forgiven by God and the opportunity to go to Heaven ... If they are not given the chance (by you) to live in continual sin.

You have the power to say no more and that you will not be used by the devil any longer.

Why would you chose to live a life that you feel encaged every single day? Why would you chose to do something that you know makes you want to scream out in shame and hurt afterward? Why would you allow something so wrong to happen (and you know it being wrong) continue to bleed and stain every part of your life, and instead of trying to clean it (when you have the things to remove the stain) you cry yourself to sleep wishing it would disappear on its own?

Its not going to disappear on its own.

As a warning ... Approximately one out of every 3 abuse victims becomes a predator against children. Decide to choose to walk away from the abuse before it's too late and you become a predator yourself.

Knowing what is wrong and purposely continuing has you living in sin.

Sin separates you from God and His promise of eternal life (life in Heaven rather than hell) ... Until you chose to repent and turn to Jesus. You can't have both ways.

2 Peter 3:9

The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance.

Romans 5:12

Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned.

Romans 6:23

For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.

Galatians 3:22

But the scripture hath concluded all under sin, that the promise by faith of Jesus Christ might be given to them that believe.

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A few warnings against God to those who still continue to sin and you know that it's wrong:

If we learn the truth and continue to ignore it and go off sinning anyway, no sacrifice can cover our sins. There will be nothing to look forward to but the terrible expectation of God's judgment and the raging fire that will consume his enemies.

Hebrews 10:26-27

26 For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins,
27 But a certain fearful looking for of judgment and fiery indignation, which shall devour the adversaries.

If you have already escaped the filth and sin of the world by knowing the Lord and Jesus Christ, and chose to return back to the sin, you are worse off now than ever before. It is better if you had not started on the path toward God and then reject it because now you are rejecting a holy commandment because you knew right from wrong and still chose against God. What you decided to do is written in the proverbs: A dog returns to his own vomit, and a washed pig returns to the mud.

2 Peter 2:20-22

20 For if after they have escaped the pollutions of the world through the knowledge of the Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ, they are again entangled therein, and overcome, the latter end is worse with them than the beginning.
21 For it had been better for them not to have known the way of righteousness, than, after they have known it, to turn from the holy commandment delivered unto them.
22 But it is happened unto them according to the true proverb, The dog is turned to his own vomit again; and the sow that was washed to her wallowing in the mire.

Ewwwwww !!!

Enough is Enough

No More !!!

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