Self Harm Symptoms

Day 4

Self Harm Help Counseling
Self Harm Symptoms and Self Injury Symptoms Explored

Welcome back! It is so great to see you chose to return.

One thing that kept me wanting to self injure for so long was that I never really had a good reason to quit. I had many reasons to quit ... But not a good reason that made me want to quit. I always kept focusing on reasons why I wanted or needed to continue. And there was a quite a list for that.

But, I was focusing on the wrong list. I was focused on the Self Injury Symptoms list which wanted me to continue to self injure.

Of course I'm never going to heal if I don't want to. I'm never going to heal if I'm always justifying why self harm is okay to do.

Of course I had people tell me I needed to quit, or get angry or upset because I didn't quit when they thought I did ... But I was so wrapped up in all the reasons why I couldn't let it go, that everything anyone said to me went in one ear and out the other. I didn't care what they said.

They didn't understand me.

I had to decide to stop on my own. I had to make the decision myself. No one could make it for me.

Again ... I did have a lot of reasons I should have quit ... But I didn't have that one that made me want to quit. But honestly ... Sometimes I just didn't try to find that reason. (Until after I realized I felt like I lost control of it and I thought about it all the time.)

I had already accepted the fact that I was ... What do they call us again? ... Emo, messed up, insane, freak, attention seeking losers ... I had accepted that. I didn't want to quit. I didn't have the strength to even try to quit. I was who I was ... No one can fix it, so just accept it or go away.

Right?

Besides, I figured if I were to find reasons to stop, true reasons that made me really want to stop, I would end up messing up later anyway and go back to my old self. I've already failed so much already, what makes this time any different? I didn't want to just set myself up for failure.

I had to want to quit and believe I could. One without the other ... Really was setting myself up for failure.

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I had to learn and accept that I'm not what people labeled me. I don't have to be like this for the rest of the my life.

I had to find the strength. I had to.

(And between you and me ... That strength that I have found to fight the really strong urges ... You know the ones that you fight off consistently for hours, having to hold a blanket or an object to feel some kind of comfort, remind yourself to breathe every so often and just try to rock if off? ... Yeah those bad urges ... The strength I needed to overcome some of them did not come from me. I am certainly not that strong. Not even close. It was during those times when I held tight to my reasons of needing to stop and just prayed it would pass. The strength somehow came. I found it when I wanted it the most. In my absolute worst hours, if I wanted it bad enough, that strength came. It didn't make the hour any easier to get through ... But I did get through it.)

It is possible to stop.

Sometimes knowing that we need to quit something is very different than wanting to quit something. How do you want to quit something that you believe makes you feel better?

First ... You have to find the motivation behind quitting. You have to find a reason that makes you want to quit. Everyone has a different reason for starting, and everyone has a different reason that helps them personally want to stop. Something that when you become tempted, you can think about your reasons behind wanting to quit, and it helps you fight the temptation and keeps you going another day.

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We need to admit we need help. We need to admit that it must end. So, how do you quit? How do you make yourself want to quit?

One thing at a time ...

1. Control

   You lose control and the addiction actually ends up controlling you. How many times have you not been able to concentrate because all you are able to think about is harming yourself just one more time? Don't you want that control back?

2. Freedom

   To be set free. To look back and say I was able to heal from this. To get your life back.

   Most of us, when we start, don't imagine what we do ever becoming an addiction. We think we have complete control over it. Until we find ourselves thinking about it all day long. Waiting until the moment we can do it again. We can hardly enjoy anything good that MIGHT even come our way because we are so fixated on getting another hit or buzz from whatever we do. It starts to control us rather than us having control over it. We feel at times that we have become its slave and have lost all power over our lives. We can get our life back. We can be set free from this. We will be able to look back and say I was able to heal from this.

3. Harming Others

   Doing what you do, though you only do it to yourself, actually harms other people. What were to happen if the people in your life knew what you did? If you have experienced someone that you love finding out what you do and seen the tears, or heard the sobs, or seen the helplessness in their face because they have no idea how to help you ... You would understand more. If you haven't experienced that yet, imagine finding someone in your life that you love, a friend, family member and you find out they harm themselves, or see the physical evidence on them. How would you feel?

4. Death

   You can seriously harm yourself to the point of death. Many of us when we self harm, don't intend to kill ourselves, we are just trying to find some kind of relief. This goes with most self harm techniques from cutting to drugs, to alcohol to suffocation.

   With drinking, many know that if they drink too much they lose judgment and end up making decisions they regret in the morning ... Or for the rest of their lives (risk of an unplanned pregnancy, driving intoxicated and getting caught, having a car accident and injuring or killing another person while driving (we've all heard the stories and seen the commercials). Just because we are sure it won't happen to you gives you even more reason to believe it will. Then there is the obvious long terms effects of possible cancer, loss of brain cells, nerve damage, ulcers, high blood pressure, liver failure and more.

   Cutting, scratching, or burning can lead to serious infections. You can cut too deep and end up hitting an vein and not be able to stop the bleeding.

5. Secrets

   Do you ever get tired of the secrets? Tired of hiding everything? Whether its hiding bottles, blades, drugs, etc from everyone? Then having to hide what you did on you so they don't see?

   Your life becomes a secret. Like leading a double life. One part that you allow them to see ... Another completely different part that no one knows is there but you.

   It gets tiring after a while.

   Yet another reason to try to break free ... Get rid of the secret.

6. To Help Someone

   You know how hard it is to get help from someone that hasn't actually been through the struggle you are going through? How much easier it is to relate to someone that has experienced it? Of course we know that feeling. No one truly understands unless they have been there. They might try as hard as they can to help ... But its not the same as someone who's been there.

   We can one day be able to help other souls that are struggling with this exact same thing. We can help a soul that no one else can seem to help. We can be that one person that can look at them as say "I understand".

7. Love Yourself

   To those that are struggling with this addiction ... Can you look in the mirror, stare back at the reflection, and say you love yourself? Can you say it and mean it?

   Not many of us can.

   The shame, regret, loneliness, and fear seem to be the only things we find in our reflection. Love ... Is not one of them.

8. Influencing Others

   So you don't negatively influence others ... Children, siblings, students, friends, people that look up to you.

   Do you remember at any point in your life when you have ever looked up to someone? Have you ever looked up or admired someone that didn't know you looked up to them?

   We could (and probably are) being looked up to or admired by someone and don't realize it ... So you think that "no one looks up to me" ... Don't be so sure.

   What did you think of the person you admired? Everything they did was cool. If they did something, it must be okay. How do they cope because they always seem to have it together ...

   People we don't know (or we might know people that look up to us) see or find out that we self harm ... Those that want to be just like us find it okay to do the same thing. Some that are close to us, may even attempt the same thing we do just to find out how it makes us feel ...

   May sound odd, but it is very true.

   We affect others around us. Whether we want to admit it or not. So instead of subtly encouraging others to start the addiction of self harm and follow in our footsteps, lets find a way to stop and break the habit so we don't negatively affect any others anymore.

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It is time to break the habit !!!

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Today in your journal, write down reasons that encourage you to stop. It may be one reason, it may be ten reasons. It may be a reasons already listed, or a reason you came up with yourself. If you did think of reasons that are not already listed, I would like to encourage you to email us with your reasons so we can add them to our list and make it even longer.

Your reason could encourage another soul to stop. You could save a life by sharing.

Do not forget to check out some of the studies listed on Day 3 that relate to you.

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Banner Health ... Self Harming: Types, Causes & Treatment - If you or a loved one is demonstrating self-harming behavior, then the caring team at Banner Health is here to provide you with mental health treatment.

Crisis Text Line ... FREE Self Harm Help | Text CONNECT to 741741 - You don't have to hurt. There is help for self-harm. Text CONNECT for FREE, 24/7 crisis counseling and healthy coping mechanisms.

Holy Spirit ... This is one of the most awesome gifts you will ever receive or share. Get to know the Holy Spirit.

Mayo Clinic ... Self Harm Help - Diagnosis and treatment - Or a health care provider doing a routine medical exam may notice signs, such as scars or fresh injuries.

Mind ... What is self-harm? Change emotional pain into physical pain; reduce overwhelming emotional feelings or thoughts; have a sense of being in control; escape traumatic memories;

Psychology Today ... Self-Harm or self-mutilation, is the act of deliberately inflicting pain and damage to one's own body. Self Injury Symptoms discussed.

Today's Christian Woman ... Cutting Edge - Why even Christian teens aren't immune from the epidemic of self-mutilation and what you can do. Help for those who self injure.

WebMD ... Cutting & Self-Harm: Warning Signs and Treatment - Self-harm can be scary, but it's not the problem — it's a symptom of big emotions under the surface.

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