How to Be Submissive

How to Be a Submissive Wife

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Welcome to our Christianity Oasis Virtuous Woman study program. This is our highly debated and extremely exhilarating, How to Be Submissive Bible Study taking an in depth look and delving into the How to Be a Submissive Wife Bible Study question. This absolutely enLIGHTening message will bring a sense of hope and genuine joy into your YOU-nique Christian life.

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So happy you're here! Today's step is one of my favorites. Let me start off with a question. If you went to the store and picked up a bottle of Women's One-A-Day Vitamins, and you read on the label that each tablet contained 100% of your Daily Value of submissiveness, would you buy them? No, wait, don't answer yet. Just let that little question simmer while we carry on with today's Step, then you can answer it later, okay?

Okay, since strength has already been identified as part of the recipe, and we talked about strength in Step 9, let's discuss the other topic in this verse ... Honor. What kind of woman is honorable?

Proverbs 11:16

A gracious woman retaineth honour:

Grace comes from God. To be gracious, you must be godly. How does a godly woman behave herself? As she would in the presence of God ... Which you are, at each and every moment. An honorable woman is submissive to God and to her husband.

How to Be Submissive Bible Study Tidbit of Truth

Strength equals submissiveness ... It may sound like an oxymoron to you, but it's true. If you're not submissive to your husband, you will not have a strong relationship. Many women abhor the thought of submissiveness, but after discovering the truth in God's Word, you'll understand why I've amended a popular phrase of today's modern women.

You've come a long way, baby ... The wrong way.

Let scripture show you the truth:

How to Be a Submissive Wife Bible Study Debate

1 Corinthians 11:3

But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.

1 Corinthians 11:8-9

8 For the man is not of the woman: but the woman of the man.
9 Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.

Ephesians 5:22-24

22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the Church: and He is the saviour of the body.
24 Therefore as the Church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

Titus 2:3-5

3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.

Colossians 3:18

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands as it is fit in the Lord.

1 Peter 3:1

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands;

In today's world, submissive seems to be a bad word, so a How to Be Submissive Bible Study within our Virtuous Woman program seemed to be in order. The Bible makes it perfectly clear, a woman is to be submissive to her husband. We discussed this in Step 15, and way back in Step 4, and even after reading these scriptures, are you still feeling denial about this whole submissiveness thing in your heart?

Why? Because you have been con-vinced ... Persuaded by the world to think differently. When you were a child, you were taught to be submissive to your parents, and you knew that it was God's Commandment and it was right. You didn't question it one little bit because you were taught that's what was Truth.

But, the world has taught you differently about a wife being in subjection to her husband, and you've become so conditioned by the lies, that your mind doesn't believe the truth. We touched on this briefly when we were talking about women staying at home as well, but let's take a look once again at the very beginnings of this neglected virtue and why it is important to carefully read this How to Be Submissive Bible Study.

Genesis 3:16

Unto the woman He said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.

I've got some terrible news for you. The world is working on our children as well. Many of them already believe that being submissive to their parents is a ridiculous suggestion. If you will recall, in this program, we've seen twice where scripture points out that in the last days, this would be the case.

How to Be a Submissive Wife Bible Study Verses

The world has taken what God intended as a blessing to man, and made it despicable. I am woman, hear me roar? This doesn't sound anything like what God had in mind:

Genesis 2:18

And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

According to the Old Testament, a woman is not equal to man, and never was meant to be. She is a helper. But she took the devil's bait right from the beginning by proving that she was unable to obey God, and that being as a God rather than a humble servant of God was more appealing to her. (One must wonder, if the devil had never beguiled Eve, would she have come up with this ridiculous idea on her own? And how many ridiculous ideas are expanded upon ... Ideas that the world suggests to people, that would never have seen the light of day if the world hadn't presented them?) At any rate, because of trying to be something she is not, women acquired a lesser role, and God put us under man's rule.

To think that as a woman you cannot or will not be 'conquered' is against God's command. Period. But I stress to you again, this doesn't mean that you're of no importance. You're very important, just not in the ways the world has deceived women into believing. I'm going to help you discover the beauty of your importance. You're going to realize the wonder and the marvel that is the essence of being a woman. You're going to be a different person, inside and out, when you find her ... The Godly woman/child inside of you, and the Grace of God.

How to Be Submissive Bible Study Trivia Time

A Broken Record

Did you know that this phrase is a homograph? What's a homograph? It's two words spelled alike with different meanings.


I'm going to the fair.
fair = market

The maiden is fair.
fair = beautiful

I sound like a broken record when I repeat things over and over and over again to you.

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A broken record is also a top performance that has been surpassed by someone or something else. Please allow me to sound like a broken record in urging you to break your own record in being submissive to your soul-mate. I reiterate this point because it's so important. It's not uncommon for women to be insulting (even publicly) about their mate's inability to be dominant. Could it be that this isn't true at all, but rather that women are unwilling to be submissive? Remember we talked about this early on in the Virtuous Woman program?

Have women caused their mates to appear more passive than them, when it's really not that they're unable to be manly, but that women are unable to be womanly and refuse to yield? Oft times this is made light of, and it becomes a standing joke at gatherings, in front of the children, well ... Anywhere it can get the woman a laugh or some attention. Sorry to say, ladies, the joke's on you. Is God laughing at you?

Psalms 37:11-13

11 But the meek shall inherit the earth; and shall delight themselves in the abundance of peace.
12 The wicked plotteth against the just, and gnasheth upon him with his teeth.
13 The Lord shall laugh at him: for he seeth that his day is coming.

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How to Be a Submissive Wife Bible Study Verses Scripture

Another thing to remember about this is not to mistake meek for weak. Moses was meek:

Numbers 12:3

(Now the man Moses was very meek, above all the men which were upon the face of the Earth.)

Jesus was meek:

Matthew 11:29

Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.

Matthew 21:5

Tell ye the daughter of Sion, Behold, thy King cometh unto thee, meek, and sitting upon an ass, and a colt the foal of an ass.

How to Be a Submissive Wife Bible Study Reality Check

They say that children are sometimes disobedient because they desire discipline. Discipline makes them feel secure, because it shows them where their boundary lines are. This may not make sense to you until you think of it this way. If you're a child, and you're playing outside, if there is no fence, you don't feel as safe as if a fence is protecting you. With a fence, you know where the danger zone is, but without a fence, danger can sneak up on you anytime. The next time you find yourself overpowering your mate, ask yourself a couple of questions: Am I acting like a child? Am I looking for discipline from my Father ... Searching for my boundaries?

I have got a delightful little poem for you to read, that will touch your heart and shows exactly what our How to Be Submissive Bible study is seeking to reveal to you ... The true beauty of the whole concept of a woman being submissive to a man. This poem is about a spelling bee.

In School Days
by John Greenleaf Whittier

Still sits the school-house by the road,
A ragged beggar sunning;
Around it still the sumachs grow,
And blackberry-vines are running.

Within the master's desk is seen,
Deep scarred by raps official;
The warping floor, the battered seats,
The jack-knife's carved initial;

The charcoal frescos on its wall;
Its door's worn sill, betraying
The feet that, creeping slow to school,
Went storming out to playing!

Long years ago a winter sun
Shone over it at setting;
Lit up its western window-panes
And low eaves' icy fretting.

It touched the tangled golden curls,
And brown eyes full of grieving,
Of one who still her steps delayed
When all the school were leaving.

For near her stood the little boy
Her childish favor singled:
His cap pulled low upon a face
Where pride and shame were mingled.

Pushing with restless feet the snow
To right and left, he lingered; –
As restlessly her tiny hands
The blue-checked apron fingered.

He saw her lift her eyes; he felt
The soft hands light caressing,
And heard the tremble of her voice,
As if a fault confessing.

"I'm sorry that I spelled the word:
I hate to go above you,
Because," – the brown eyes lower fell, –
"Because, you see, I love you!"

Still memory to a gray-haired man
That sweet child-face is showing.
Dear girl! The grasses on her grave
Have forty years been growing!

He lives to learn, in life's hard school,
How few who pass above him
Lament their triumph and his loss,
Like her, – because they love him.

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I will give you a moment to get the Kleenex and dry your eyes. After reading such loving words from our How to Be Submissive story, can you feel anything but admiration for the virtue of the little girl, and later to be a submissive wife in this poem. Shouldn't we all have the determination to strive for those same kind of sincere qualities in our own character. What woman wouldn't want their soul-mate to write such loving memories and have such deep feelings for them from the bottom of their heart like this man did? Now that, my dear lady friends, is truly love.

Obviously, this little girl was taught well at a young age (but no age is too young), how to be submissive to a man when she loves him. I wonder where she got such an idea. Or maybe I'm just full of malarkey ... Maybe she just knew instinctively because she was young and innocent and she lived in a time and environment where the world didn't reach young girls as quickly as it does today.

How to Be a Submissive Wife Bible Study Summary

You can tell by her soul-mate's words about her that she never traded up her virtue her whole life!

Be a submissive wife. It is crystal clear ... God made women to be submissive. To go against that, you are trying to be something that you are not and in reality ... In contention with God. When a person does that, they find dissatisfaction and when you're not satisfied with yourself, how can you serve God or His people in that state of mind? To be a submissive wife is not defeat. It's not degrading. It's not weakness. It's God's will.

This is a topic that you'll definitely want to meditate (think and rethink) about. The woman who finds the truth and humbles herself to it, will find that inside, she's a much happier woman because it takes honor to be submissive. Oh, and one more thing ... Can you even imagine for one moment (Jesus' Bride) being dominating? It's embarrassing to even think about it.

Now, the rest of Verse 25:

If you clothe yourself with strength and honor, if you be gracious and godly, not only do you get to enjoy the benefit of knowing in your heart that you're doing your very best to walk the Christian woman's walk of faith, but you will have rewards ahead of you as well ... Eternal rewards.

Maybe there are some things that you might want to write down ... Goals ... Sticky notes for reminders ... Every effort you make toward being more virtuous is a step in the right direction.

Now, about those One-A-Day Vitamins ... 😁

Go ahead and read the poem again. I know you want to ... You just can't help it!

And as always, reflect on God's Grace, every day of your life.

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