How to Train Up a Child

Teaching Respect to Children

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Teaching Respect to Children

Welcome to our Christianity Oasis Virtuous Woman study program. This is our heartwarming, helpful and Heavenly ... How to Train up a Child Bible verse journey taking an in depth look into Teaching Respect to Children. Raising a Child is very difficult, especially these days and the absolutely BE-YOU-tiful message within this How to Train up a Child Bible verse counseling adventure will bring peace into the oft times chaotic Christian walk of the YOU-nique Christian Mom.

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Hello again my dear friend. Welcome back for more interesting truth about the life of a virtuous woman. What a great verse to discuss concerning the respect a family has for a virtuous wife and mother! Let's start by looking at this verse from a child's point of view. I used to debate with my parents when I was a teenager (way back when I knew everything), about how respect was something that must be earned, it doesn't just come with the kid. Well, since then, I've realized that the enemy was using my pride and selfishness to contend with what is really the truth, and what I had previously learned as a little child ... And that is, that God's commandment says that in fact, respect should come with the kid:

Exodus 20:12

Honor thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

Now, let me say, right up front that raising a child in an unholy manner is not acceptable to God and that there are circumstances where some parents aren't very respectable. If you find yourself in such circumstances, please pray and seek the guidance of the Holy Spirit about what to do. Certainly our loving Father doesn't want children to be abused by parents that are not honorable. But if you're just a rebel and you have no justification for disrespecting the parents that God has put in charge of your soul, my friend, you're not only hurting your parents, but you're disobeying God's command, and you're hurting yourself.

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From a parental point of view, maintaining a "blessed status" among your children may seem like an impossible goal, but if you give up before you even try, then you'll never achieve your objective. If you're beginning your quest to be virtuous after your children have begun school, they may not call you blessed until they themselves become adults and experience disrespect from people younger than them ... That's how powerful the world takes hold of them, and peer pressure even at grammar school ages will persuade them that to disrespect elders is a cool thing to do.

Raising a child who is respectful is tough in an ungodly world. So, how does a Christian Mom attempt to achieve this level of respect from their children? Well, obviously the best thing you can do, is be virtuous. Next, the most effective way is to teach them as early as possible all that you know about righteousness. It's sometimes very difficult to make your precious little loved ones that what God thinks about you is exponentially more important than what your friends think. Most of the things that mold our children are things that they learn and/or will do to impress their peers.

You must be earnest about it. Diligence is your friend. Persist. Another key to success is to keep them out of the world as much as possible. I can't stress to you enough how important this is, and believe me, you will have opposition from every angle when you choose to do this ... Why? Because it's not worldly to stay out of the world. It's Godly.

1 John 2:15-17

15 Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.
16 For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.
17 And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.

James 4:4

... know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.

Tough Love

It's never too early to insure that good Christian values are instilled in your children. Yes, be persistent, but be patient as well. We are creatures of God, and if you think about it, you can raise many wild animals from the time they are born, and they will be tame until and unless their natural instincts to be wild overcomes them. But to take a wild animal out of it's habitat, and try and tame it, is a much more difficult undertaking. What I'm saying is, that once a child learns the ways of the world, whether it be through school, or television, or books, or the internet, no matter what, it is more difficult to teach them a new habit. The Christian Mom is the perfect candidate for this challenge.

God knows that children can be unruly, and that's why tough love is part of His plan of discipline. The Bible confirms this many times:

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Ephesians 6:4

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

Proverbs 13:24

He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes [early].

Proverbs 19:18

Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying.

Proverbs 22:6

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

Proverbs 22:15

Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.

Proverbs 29:15

The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.

Proverbs 29:17

Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul.

Hebrews 12:5-8

5 And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of Him:
6 For whom the Lord loveth He chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom He receiveth.
7 If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?
8 But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.

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Abusive chastening while raising a child is of course not what the Lord is speaking of in the Bible, but as you can see, and every parent knows, children need discipline. And every child is different. One may learn from a simple time out. Another may need other restrictions. Some with gentleness, some with severity.

Proverbs 23:13-14

13 Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.
14 Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.

Jude 1:21-23

21 Keep yourselves in the love of God, looking for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ unto eternal life.
22 And of some have compassion, making a difference:
23 And others save with fear, pulling them out of the fire; hating even the garment spotted by the flesh.

Teach children righteousness early early early. If you teach them The Way of the Lord early, hopefully they will recognize that the way of the world is deceit and the discipline required will be minimal.

For those of you who have infant children, I know that what you're about to read may be hard to believe, because your little Angel is so precious and pure right now, but my hopes are to warn you of what may lie ahead, and there are precious few children that are able to resist it when they are exposed to the tantalizing things that await them out in the world. When raising a child, teach them early, I can't say it enough. Keep them safe as long as you possibly can. Read and re-read the verses in the scripture boxes above, and believe them ... They are the Truth.

There are many times in a parent's life when their children call them anything but blessed. Again, this is because we have enemies that teach them early on that righteousness is not cool, and being accepted by their peers and the world, instead of being acceptable to God becomes the most important thing in their life. Let me show you an example of how this happens:

Scene 1:

Little Junior was an adorable child. His parents loved him dearly and were very cautious and protective, as parents of infants and toddlers normally are. His mom made sure his formula was always perfect and when he started eating solid foods, she made sure he ate just the right amounts of fruits and vegetables and cereal.

Junior's dad was equally careful about making sure the latches on the cabinets were always locked and that any outlet that wasn't being used, always had a little plastic plug in it, etc.

Junior took a nap every day, and went to sleep at the same time every night. He had Bible stories read to him each night before he was put down to sleep, he was very well protected, he was always scrupulously clean and basically he was a very much loved little tot.

The scene fades out with Mommy and Daddy putting little Junior to bed with a lullaby playing in the background, while he gazes up at his little mobile hanging from the ceiling with little Angels turning in circles above his bed.

Scene 2:

The music ... Now a more sinister, "Ring around the Rosie," is heard in the background as the new scene fades in.

Junior is sitting at the lunch table at his pre-school, unpacking his lunch, when Buster, the most popular kid in the morning session, starts teasing him about the contents of his little plastic lunchbox.

"Ewwwww, you like carrots? Grosssssss!"

Junior thinks Buster is cool because he makes all the kids laugh all the time, so when Buster does something, Junior takes note and in his little mushy brain, he thinks to himself, "I like him, he's cool, I'll do that too!" Junior slowly pushes the carrots back into his lunchbox, and a lie is planted in his newly determined, easily influenced little mind ... "I don't like carrots, they're grosssss, I'll never eat them again."

Junior's mom can't understand why yesterday Junior loved carrots, and now today, he won't touch them. They'd been one of his favorite foods ever since the first time he ate them out of a jar. Now, he makes horrible faces every time they're on his plate and Junior's mom could cut them in sticks, cut them in circles, shred them in coleslaw, sliver them in salad, make fancy dips for them, and even carve little race cars out of them and Junior wouldn't eat them for love or money.

I don't need to elaborate for you to get the idea of what happens next so I'll just give you a Raising A Child synopsis.

Scene 3 would be in kindergarten and the issue will be clothes. Scene 4 would be a couple of years later and the issue would be about disrespecting your elders. Scene 5, smoking. Scene 6, drugs. Scene 7, stealing. Scene 8, sex. Scene 9, crime.

And horrifyingly enough, there are even more scenes between each of these and even after them. And frighteningly enough, they don't always happen in this order. Peer pressure is an ugly and powerful thing. Oh, and by the way, this all usually happens before they get out of middle school.

So, what do you think? Why do we take such careful measures to insure the safety and protection of our children's physical well being against the world when they're infants, but when society dictates, or whenever we choose it's the right time, we don't bat an eye at turning their delicate little souls loose for the world to influence however it pleases?

Let's take a look at the other mammals of the world for a moment, shall we? I'm no biologist, but I do know that most mammals who are raising a child, other than humans, do not leave their young out of their sight until they're self sufficient and old enough to survive on their own. You won't see them leave their babies for hours at a time with a friend or at a care facility so they can go to the mall or just escape for a while. No ma'am, they won't let anything get within a safe distance of them. But the human race, they can't wait to dump theirs off in the world ... And why? So they can go back out into the world themselves. Shameful!

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An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.

Now, what do you think happens when our children encounter other children who doubt the existence of God? Well, heck, we don't need other children to suggest that, our public school systems have taken care of that for us already. So, how do you keep this from happening? You have to be persistent. Monitor what television viewing is allowed in your home. Each and every time you recognize something that is a potential threat to your family's integrity, address it. Say out loud to your children that it is wrong. Know who your children's friends are. Make your home a more desirable place to be than out in the world, where immorality awaits at every corner.

If at all possible, home school your children. Unless you've observed a full day at a public school, you wouldn't believe how much time is wasted and how little a child learns in an average day in the public school system. Why do you think they learn so many other things that they shouldn't be learning in school? Because there's the time and opportunity to. Check into the requirements in your state. There is so much material available on the internet that you can home school a child of any level, absolutely free if you're determined.

If you've ever met a child that is home schooled, usually by a Christian Mom, you'll find that they are far more intelligent than children that attend public school. They are getting one on one instruction from you, and you will make sure that they comprehend what they're studying, unlike teachers who have the responsibility of 20 or more students per class.

Be a good example to your children. Point out what happens to people who are immoral. Be alert. Make it your business to know what's going on in your children's lives. I promise, your children aren't gonna come up to you and say, "Uh, hey Mom, I'm thinking about taking up cigarette smoking, can you give me a few tips?" Make it your business to prevent disaster before it happens.

Of course, I'm just giving you examples of the little baby problems that face people in the world today. There's a saying that goes something like this, Little kids, little problems, big kids, big problems. Unfortunately, now we have, little kids, big problems. Fight. Stand. Persist. Pray.

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It's frightening how much adults are like children in this way. Even the Christian Mom. If only we, as adults, would listen to our Father, how much pain we could avoid in our lives. What was it that led us away? Was it that the world spoke up louder than our Father did when choices were presented to us or did we just pay closer attention to the world? Or perhaps we just chose to ignore Him completely. Chances are, the consequences of our choices had a pretty loud volume too. By good example, and awareness, you can help your children to recognize when the world is trying to lure them into the wrong choices, and surely, they will call you blessed. If not now ... Someday.

Now, the entire Verse 28:

Your efforts in maintaining a virtuous lifestyle, in keeping your family virtuous and being a good example to others, is something that any virtuous husband would appreciate.

Proverbs 5:18

Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.

Proverbs 18:22

Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.

Proverbs 19:14

House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the LORD.

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Be sure to give the praise to God, because without Him, where would you be? All the credit for good things belongs to the Lord.

Psalms 86:10

For thou art great, and doest wondrous things: thou art God alone.

Note to all who are raising a child: You may have noticed that I didn't put much emphasis on the part about being praised, and that's because I truly believe that our purpose in life is to represent and praise and glorify God, not seek praise for ourselves. Everyone likes to hear "good job" or "well done" because then we know our efforts aren't wasted, but never let it get out of hand. Fame isn't a virtue. To be godly doesn't mean that you want people to treat you like God ... It simply means that you sincerely try to represent your Lord in all that you do. A righteous Christian Mom would.

My friend, may God's Grace be in your thoughts, each and every day. See you next time.

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