The Virtuous Woman
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Proverbs 31 - Verse 26
She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of
kindness.
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Hello my friend. Glad to have you back to share more Truth together.
Did you notice that this verse describes the same way that Jesus talked throughout our Virtuous Woman program? It takes a special kind of person, when they are confronted with the kinds of situations that Jesus was, to respond with such prudence and humility. This is something that women, should strive for in our conversation. It should be second nature to the virtuous woman to respond to people the way Jesus responded to people.
Sometimes people love to just hear themselves talk, so they'll say just about anything, but how much of that talk is wise and kind? If you have something wise or kind to say, my dear one, say on, because others will learn from it and you're glorifying God by doing so. If you're talking just to gain someone else's attention, it may be a good idea to stop and think about what it is that you're saying and why you're saying it.
The Contentious Wife Bible Point of Interest ... You know from life experience, that the more a person talks, the more opportunity there is for disagreement, debate, misunderstanding, and down right trouble to be stirred up. Some people mistakenly think that talking a lot makes them appear more intelligent.
But is that the Truth?
Proverbs 9:13
A foolish woman is clamorous: she is simple, and knoweth nothing.
Do you like fortune cookies?
Think of the Proverbs in the Bible, as God's fortune cookies. They're little bits of wisdom to apply to our everyday lives.
Contentious Wife Worry
A Contentious Woman Bible Anguish
Take a look at these, A Contentious Woman Bible passages:
Proverbs 21:19
It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and
an angry woman.
Proverbs 27:15
A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are
alike.
Most of the Proverbs in the Bible were written by king Solomon, who God blessed with being the wisest man to ever live. Solomon wrote many Proverbs that teach us that being meek and holding our tongue is a very wise thing to do. Why did God choose Solomon to be so wise? Because when God told Solomon to ask Him for anything his heart desired, he was meek, and unselfish.
1 Kings 3:5-14
5 In Gibeon the Lord appeared to Solomon in a dream by
night: and God said, Ask what I shall give thee.
6 And Solomon said, Thou hast shewed unto thy servant
David my father great mercy, according as he walked before thee in
Truth, and in righteousness, and in uprightness of heart with thee;
and thou hast kept for him this great kindness, that thou hast given
him a son to sit on his throne, as it is this day.
7 And now, O Lord my God, thou hast made thy servant king
instead of David my father: and I am but a little child: I know not
how to go out or come in.
8 And thy servant is in the midst of thy people which thou
hast chosen, a great people, that cannot be numbered nor counted for
multitude.
9 Give therefore thy servant an understanding heart to
judge thy people, that I may discern between good and bad: for who is
able to judge this thy so great a people?
10 And the speech pleased the Lord, that Solomon had asked
this thing.
11 And God said unto him, Because thou hast asked this
thing, and hast not asked for thyself long life; neither hast asked
riches for thyself, nor hast asked the life of thine enemies; but
hast asked for thyself understanding to discern judgment;
12 Behold, I have done according to thy words: lo, I have
given thee a wise and an understanding heart; so that there was none
like thee before thee, neither after thee shall any arise like unto
thee.
13 And I have also given thee that which thou hast not
asked, both riches, and honour: so that there shall not be any among
the kings like unto thee all thy days.
14 And if thou wilt walk in my ways, to keep my statutes
and my commandments, as thy father David did walk, then I will
lengthen thy days.
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A Contentious Woman Bible Warning
There are 31 Chapters of Proverbs ... The perfect amount to read one chapter a day each month. They will also teach you many virtues that God expects from you. Why not even select from Proverbs and write them down on little pieces of paper and put one under each family member's plate at the dinner table each night, and you can discuss them over dinner or dessert with your family. It's a great way to share God's Word with your loved ones.
Wisdom and Knowledge
Psalms 111:10
The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: a good understanding have all they that do His commandments: His praise endureth for ever.
Proverbs 2:5
Then shalt thou understand the fear of the LORD, and find the knowledge of God.
James 1:5
If any of you lack wisdom, let Him ask of God, that giveth to all men
liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.
Contentious Wife Food For Thought ... Wisdom is different than knowledge. Wisdom is understanding the spiritual meaning of something. Knowledge is simply memorizing and repeating something. Knowledge is a skill, that practically anyone can learn, but wisdom is a gift. An encyclopedia is full of knowledge, but an encyclopedia cannot be wise. That is not to say that knowledge is not necessary. How do we become more stable and settled despite the circumstances surrounding our lives? When we read the word of God, we seek wisdom and knowledge for stability, faith and comfort.
Isaiah 33:6
And wisdom and knowledge shall be the stability of thy times, and
strength of salvation: the fear of the LORD is His treasure.
A Contentious Woman Bible Wisdom
Ahhhhh, wisdom. It's something that everyone wishes they had more of.
This is an interesting poem comparing wisdom and knowledge:
The Difference between Knowledge and Wisdom
by William Cowper
Knowledge and wisdom, far from being one,
Have ofttimes no connexion. Knowledge dwells
In heads replete with thoughts of other men;
Wisdom in minds attentive to their own.
Knowledge, a rude unprofitable mass,
The mere materials with which Wisdom builds,
Till smooth'd and squared and fitted t' its place,
Does but encumber whom it seems to enrich.
Knowledge is proud that he has learned so much:
Wisdom is humble that he knows no more.
Wisdom is quiet, as you'll find is noted several times in the Proverbs. A wise woman is quiet and meek. You aren't the court jester. You don't have to put your two cents in about everything. You don't think it's fun to embarrass someone, or put anyone on the spot. Do you know women like that, who are abrasive? Some have to laugh the loudest and longest, some have to have the last word, some are know-it-alls, some are gossips.
Be guarded in the presence the contentious woman who cusses like sailors or passes around off color jokes. It's the enemy that has a hold on them, and would love to entice you to do the same. Pray for them. It may take some practice to be meek, because the world has taught people to be so comfortable being crude.
Proverbs 13:3
He that keepeth his mouth keepeth his life: but he that openeth wide
his lips shall have destruction.
A Contentious Woman Bible Tidbit of Truth ... A virtuous woman doesn't have to hear herself talk. You love to hear the Spirit of the Lord talk. The only attention you long for is from God. Respectable is what you are. You're not aggressive, brusque or sarcastic. You're not a busybody. You're not rude. If you don't have Truth or goodness to speak of, you need not utter a word.
Proverbs 21:23
Whoso keepeth his mouth and his tongue keepeth his soul from troubles.
Proverbs 21:9
It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a
brawling woman in a wide house.
Proverbs 21:19
It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and
an angry woman.
1 Peter 3:4-5
4 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which
is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit,
which is in the sight of God of great price.
5 For after this manner in the old time the Holy women
also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection
unto their own husbands:
Proverbs 8:13
The fear of the LORD is to hate evil: pride, and arrogancy, and the
evil way, and the froward mouth, do I hate.
Need I say more?
Contentious Wife Trap
A Contentious Woman Bible Analogy
Remember Thumper from the animated movie Bambi? Thumper said something that could have hurt Bambi's feelings, so his mother reminded him, What did your Dad tell you? And Thumper answered slowly, If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. Such a cute little story, and we emphatically admonish our children to heed these kinds of teachings, but as adults, do we do the same?
Suffering from Dragon Breath?
James talks about the troubles that talking can get a person into.
James 3:5-10
5 Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth
great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth!
6 And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the
tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and
setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell.
7 For every kind of beasts, and of birds, and of serpents,
and of things in the sea, is tamed, and hath been tamed of mankind:
8 But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil,
full of deadly poison.
9 Therewith bless we God, even the Father; and therewith
curse we men, which are made after the similitude of God.
10 Out of the same mouth proceedeth blessing and cursing.
My brethren, these things ought not so to be.
A Contentious Wife Helpful Hint ... It's a virtuous act to stop and think before you blurt out something that you may be sorry for later. As a child, I used to get angry at my dad because he would tell me time and time again, You should count to 10 before you speak. I wish I had known then that he just had my best interests at heart. (I probably reminded him of Thumper back then!)
Proverbs 25:11
A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.
Contentious Wife Summary
A Contentious Woman Bible Truth
Now, nobody is saying that you can't be yourself ... But don't forget, your old self and your new self are different. Not two separate spirits, but your spirit is reborn. The new you is renewed in the faith and your spontaneous responses to situations and things in conversation will change a lot. Don't get too upset with yourself if you make a boo boo here and there and from time to time utter something that you wish you hadn't. As I said before, several times, we hurt other people plenty without doing it on purpose, and we probably speak out of turn even more so. Be patient, but be diligent in choosing righteous words and conversation.
And as always, reflect on God's Grace, every day of your life.
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A Contentious Woman Bible Resources
Bible Hub ... Proverbs 25:24 It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than to share a house with a contentious woman.
Desiring God ... How Should a Husband Treat His Quarrelsome Wife? Or is this for women, a warning to wives and future wives to root our hearts in God's wisdom so we don't become quarrelsome?
Got Questions ... Scripture makes it clear that quarreling is a sign not of godliness, but of worldliness (1 Corinthians 3:3; James 4:1). Believers must make no room for contentiousness in their lives, taking care not to yoke themselves to those characterized by such an attitude—whether male or female—as it results only in ruin. If one is married to a quarrelsome spouse, God will provide the grace to lead by example and encourage him or her in what is right, seeking God’s glory and the good of all involved (Matthew 5:43–48; Proverbs 25:21–22; 1 Peter 3:1–2; 1 Corinthians 12:7–16).
Holy Spirit ... A Contentious Woman Bible Truth is that the contentious wife needs to hurriedly reach out for the Holy Spirit to give her Spiritual guidance because she is in serious danger. This is one of the most awesome gifts you will ever receive or share. Get to know the Holy Spirit.
Let God Be True! ... Proverbs 27:15 What is a contentious woman? One that argues, debates, disputes, fights, quarrels, and questions. She is not content, and she cannot let others be content. She pushes, irritates, aggravates, and nags. She has no clue her role is to be a cheerful, submissive helper (Gen 2:18; 3:16; I Cor 11:9). She is the odious woman the world cannot stand (Pr 30:21-23). It is better for a man to live alone in seclusion than with this tormentor (Pr 21:9,19; 25:24).
Life, Hope & Truth ... Don't Be Contentious - The word translated “contentious” in the New King James Version essentially means a person who is constantly brawling, hurling verbal insults and starting disputes.
Pinterest ... Proverbs 21:9 Better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, Than in a house shared with a contentious woman.
Wisdom Hunters ... A quarrelsome wife is not keen on listening and learning how to better relate to her husband. Her view of the world tends to settle issues with arguments.
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