The Virtuous Woman
How to Be a Supportive Wife Biblical Advice
How to Be a Better Wife Journey
Welcome to our Christianity Oasis Virtuous Woman Bible Study Program.
This is our extremely exciting and personally provocative ... How to
be a supportive wife Spiritual voyage taking an in depth look into
effective and righteous steps concerning how to be a better wife for
the good of all. The absolutely awe inspiring message within reveals
the secret recipe for how to be a supportive wife will provide the
ingredients needed to know how to be a better wife in the modern day
culture. This is going to be quite a ride. Buckle up !!!
Start this adventure from the beginning:
How to Be a Supportive Wife Lesson
How to Be a Better Wife Steps
You're doing a great job! You're already halfway through with the 28
Steps of this program, and there's still plenty of great Truth ahead!
You know, I can't help but think about king Lemuel again, and his
concerned mother when I read this verse ... But what does it mean to
you? Well, the gates, may be referring to one of two things ... In
Biblical times, many cities had walls built around them, and the
gates of course would be the place where people would enter and exit
the city, but the palaces, where kings lived, also had a wall around
them with a gate for entry and exit, and it was called the king's
gate ... You'll find many references to the "king's gate" in the Book
of Esther. The elders of the land, would of course be older men who
were wise through experience and were leaders of the people.
Now imagine, a man, who has a good reputation, is respected, and
holds a place of authority ... What kind of woman would he want to be
known as his wife? Does this make you think back to the story of Sir
Gawain and the Witch again? Having a noble character is very
important to a man, and being his "other half" it's important that a
woman be noble as well. Now, let's talk about your "king" and your
castle for a while. It's a rough world out there, and every ounce of
support that you offer to your soul-mate is so very important.
How to Be a Supportive Wife Tidbit of Truth ... Behind every good
man, should stand a good woman. There I go with the old sayings
again! She does not desire his administration though. She is content
to be a woman, as God made her, and to fulfill the moral obligations
of a virtuous woman. She doesn't lie in wait for him to return home
from a day of earning a living for the family, to dump the children
on him and take a Calgon bath because her life as a homemaker is so
rough either. No, she eagerly awaits his return to their home because
she loves him, cannot wait to see his smiling eyes and takes every
opportunity she can to make him as happy as she can. She knows how
fortunate she is that she is protected from the world that he deals
with, day in and day out, and always shows her appreciation of that
Sure, everyone has a bad day from time to time, as we know, but if
you truly seek how to be a supportive wife, with the right attitude,
you will find those days to be very rare. Compare your day with his.
Most of the events of his day are beyond his control. Rush hour
traffic, nagging boss, deadlines, competitors, co-workers ... Not to
mention all the games that Satan and his cohorts throw in to try and
lure him to be anything but a virtuous man.
Your day, on the other hand, is very much in your own control.
Screaming children can be turned into the chortling of little angel
voices with a few jars of finger paint and a poster board. You get to
see the awe and wonder of innocent faces as you tell them the story
of Jesus' life, or read them a Little Golden Book. Even though you've
told them the same stories a million times, they still hang on to
your every syllable.
You can choose when to do laundry, cook, clean, sew ... Anything you
wish. Best of all, you can spend time with God, whenever you want to,
and nobody can say a word about it ... Ever! Knowing that he is
returning to a happy home at the end of the day, your husband's day
in the "gates," will be much easier to cope with.
You're not only showing your husband how much you cherish him by
making his home his castle, but you are showing God as well. If Jesus
was watching, would you miss a chance to get your husband something
cool to drink or have dinner ready when he gets there? Would you
complain about getting him his slippers or making sure his favorite
chair didn't have matchbox cars and Playdoh all over it? Would you be
embarrassed if there were dishes piled in the sink and trash
billowing out of the can? With the right attitude, and love in your
heart, you'll find that you feel like you can't do enough for him.
With your betrothed taking care of his work outside the home, and
you, taking care of your work inside the home, that will leave you
both with more time to spend together, and what better recipe could
How to Be a Supportive Wife Teaching
How to Be a Better Wife Instructions
Oh, and one more thing ... Don't make it a requirement for the love
of your life to say thank you for every little thing you do. Chances
are you don't thank him for going to work every day, or for paying
the mortgage, or for providing groceries, or for mowing the lawn.
There are things that are just expected ... From both sides of your
unity, and sometimes, when one is feeling all mushy and romantic,
then it's really cool to express your appreciation for a certain
thing, but don't make it a job, or a contest, or an obligation ...
That's just not how love works.
Speaking of Recipes
There is another old saying that I'm sure you've heard before, and
I've noticed a lot of women believe it's the right recipe for finding
a man who truly loves them. It goes something like this: If you love
something, set it free ... If it comes back, it's yours ... If it
doesn't, it never was yours to begin with. (That may not be word for
word, but you get the idea.) Now, if you're a Truth seeker, you'll
see that in essence what this is really saying is, if you love a man,
kick him to the curb and if he comes crawling back, then you've got
it made sister.
First off, if you truly love someone, you couldn't bear the idea of
being without them so badly that this thought would never be a
consideration, ever, ever, Ever! Secondly, what are you trying to
prove? That you're tough as nails or that nothing sways you? (So
what?) Maybe you're one who will never be controlled by a man like
the first woman created from a rib. Remember, "and thy desire shall
be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee." (Genesis
3:16) Do you suppose everyday life doesn't test love enough, that
you have to place the added burden on your soul-mate that you may, at
will, "set him free" to test his love? That's preposterous! But very
today's woman-ish. If you practice this "recipe" you're setting up a
foundation for failure, in two ways:
- You're forcing, in the name of love, your soul-mate to cower to
you, which makes him lose self respect and lose trust in you,
- This subconsciously and simultaneously makes you lose respect
for him too.
This game only diminishes the manliness of the man that you're so
desperately seeking, and diminishes your womanhood as well. You will
be single handedly creating your own demise by doing this. A woman
needs a man to be the man. She wants to be what she was intended by
God to be ... If she's virtuous. Don't shoot yourself in the foot by
cooking up this kind of recipe. A similar antic which women actually
think is clever and frequently use to try and "catch" a man, is to
play hard to get. Again, if you're a Truth seeker, and you truly love
someone, wild horses couldn't keep you away from them. Don't play
games with love. You could lose. Learn how to be a supportive wife.
Need A Band Aid?
Let's have a little How to Be a Supportive Wife refresher, in case
you forgot the message back in Step 4. Okay, so what do you do now if
... Perhaps you've been a very dominating woman. Your mate, loves you
so much he would rather allow your persistence to wield authority
that God never gave woman, than to lose you. Well, your respect for
each other, as I mentioned earlier, needs fixing and you may need to
initiate it. (Because maybe you had something to do with creating the
problem?) Your domineering causes his weakness. It's a cycle that
must be broken. You must surrender your insistence to be the
"almighty woman" before he will ever even be interested in being the
man that you really want and need. Communicate. Surrender. Apologize.
Repent. Start fresh. Give the king his crown back ... Yes, that one
that you snatched off of his head and put on your own.
How to Be a Better Wife Warning ... For some women, instead of the
dominant/submissive problem, jealousy of their mate's job,
reputation, influence, power, etc., is the issue. It's a dog-gone
shame, because if the spirit of jealousy was instead a spirit of
understanding, so much more could be accomplished for God. We're all
unique. We all have a calling. God has a plan for each of us. But as
you know, when you espouse someone else, you two become one, and if
you are truly one with your husband, you both will compliment each
other's qualities and work together to serve the Lord in unity.
There's no time for jealousy ... God has business for you to do!
How to Be a Supportive Wife For The Family
How to Be a Better Wife For Your Soul
Now, here you are, halfway through with this program and there are
probably some things that have become clear that you really hadn't
contemplated about before. I'm sure there have also been some things
that you have disagreed with, but because you love God, you're trying
to work through them, but even with all this effort, all this fuss
about being virtuous, deep inside you may be wondering ... What's in
it for Me? Well, beside looking into the mirror of your soul and not
feeling disgusted, let me mention a few of the benefits of being
- a husband that absolutely adores you (Verse 28)
- the obvious respect of other virtuous women and the secret
respect of worldly women - trendsetter
- strength and honor (Verse 25)
- admiration of your children (Verse 28)
- praise (Verse 30)
- peace of mind
- self respect
- eternal life
- invitation to the Marriage Supper of the Lamb
- become an Angel
- many mansions (John 14:2)
- no death, sorrow, crying, pain or tears (Revelation 21:4)
- was there anything else you needed?
Sounds like a good deal to me ... In fact, a bargain!
How to Be a Supportive Wife Point of Interest ... A virtuous woman
learns all she can from her husband, but applies it to her own
ministry within the home. If it seems like a tough challenge. That's
only because the world has taught you otherwise. The environment
outside of her home is not part of a virtuous woman's identity.
1 Corinthians 14:34-35
34 Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is
not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under
obedience as also saith the law.
35 And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their
husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church.
1 Timothy 2:11-15
11 Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection.
12 But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp
authority over the man, but to be in silence.
13 For Adam was first formed, then Eve.
14 And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived
was in the transgression.
15 Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if
they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety.
Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in
whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.
How to Be a Supportive Summary
How to Be a Better Wife Conclusion
Did I make those things up? No way. They're from the Bible girls. So
if you're in contention, who are you really in contention with?
Procrastination ... Ugh!
A lot of times, we don't face things head on because we're afraid of
the Truth. A big part of the reason why women don't adopt virtue as
their default method of living is because of selfish reasons. The
Truth is, they like the lifestyle that they lead, free of the
responsibility of being righteous. Yes, being virtuous does take a
lot of responsibility. They also don't want to miss out on the "fun"
that they've become accustomed to. My friend, I tell you this with
all sincerity; what the world offers may look exciting, fun,
pleasing, captivating ... But we don't see what lies behind it's
deceptive promises. The promises of the world are temporary. What may
seem fun, exciting, or feel good for a moment will all soon turn to
dust, but the soul lives on forever. They should choose to seek ways
on how to be a better wife.
You were led here by the Holy Spirit because in one way or another,
even though you may be hiding the Truth from yourself and
procrastinating, He heard your soul groaning for change. You may not
want to admit it to yourself, because it means you will have to give
up some things, some actions, some habits, some mannerisms, but He
heard, and He's hoping you will lean on Him for help in this very
fulfilling quest that you've taken on. I urge you to press on,
because there are a lot of great things ahead to learn about and
think about and the rewards are Eternal!
And as always, reflect on God's Grace,
every day of your life. Thank Him and praise Him for it, because it's
the best thing we could ever hope for!
God is proud of you!
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