Loving Wife

How to be a Loving Wife

Christianity Oasis provides this Loving Wife Bible study delving into how to be a loving wife by becoming a loving woman. We look into that and how to become and remain a virtuous woman.

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Are You a Loving Wife?
Are You a Loving Woman?

Glad you're here to share another verse from this great Proverb that we're studying together. Just to make everyone reading included, I will be interchanging the phrases 'loving wife' and 'loving woman' throughout this step, because you may be single, married, or widowed, and being loving applies to any status you identify with.

Metaphors are such cool little things, but sometimes they can confuse people. When you read this verse, you may think that it means that a virtuous woman should get out and about to get things for the family. But let's look at this more spiritually. Do you suppose maybe king Lemuel's mother meant that a virtuous woman would go to great lengths to provide what her family needs? That doesn't necessarily mean going to the most expensive stores or to shop in different cities, states or even countries.

That doesn't mean that the things you obtain for your loved ones have to be novelty items, imports, one of a kinds, brand names, designer labels or anything of that sort. Truthfully, most families can't afford the best of everything on a regular basis.

It means that you put your heart and soul, your love and devotion, your blood, sweat and tears so to speak, into all that you do for and give to your loved ones, no matter what the cost. Do I mean cost as in money? No, I mean cost as in effort.

A loving woman makes a loving wife and is much like a merchant ship in the sense that her dedication is so very valuable and that's a novelty that doesn't wear off. The love that you include in everything you do and make, truly makes you unique. Love is an ingredient that far too many people have ceased to include in all they do, and it's very sad, because Jesus said that's how people will identify us as Christians ... By our love.

John 13:34-35

34 A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as i have loved you, that ye also love one another.
35 By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.

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A Loving Woman is a Blessing

Your time, and your love are a sacrifice ... A gift to God. When you spend time, serving His children with love, you're doing a wonderful thing for yourself as well.

1 Peter 4:8

And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins.

The time that you spend doing things for people with love is so precious in God's eyes. You even get special grace for it, like Peter said above. What a bargain! Love will hook you up with a deal like that. We so often forget, and think we're doing things for people, instead of doing things for Jesus, but don't forget:

Matthew 25:40

... Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.

In God's Image, Be Creative!

We touched on this a little in the last step. Let's talk about it a little more. Roll up your sleeves, get creative and learn how to improvise. Reach inside and bring out the creative side of you. You are God's child, so believe that you can, because you were created in His image, and He created everything, so it's in there, you just have to bring it out. You're one of a kind. Your creativity comes from the Lord. You inherited it!

A Loving Woman is Natural

Look at the last half of the verse:

When your words and deeds come from the loving woman within, your fruit (virtues) could not be imported from a better source. You really never know what you can do unless you try. You will surprise yourself, or rather, what I should say is, God will surprise you. A china doll bought at the store, pales in comparison to a teddy bear that you can make out of needle and thread, some old buttons, an old sweatshirt, some cotton balls and your special ingredient ... Love. A china doll will probably sit up on a shelf and gather dust because it may get broken if handled too roughly, but a teddy bear can be so treasured that the fleece gets loved off of it, right down to the bare bear threads!

Psalms 86:10

For thou art great, and doest wondrous things: thou art God alone.

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Love Isn't Love 'Till You Give it Away

Remember that one of our challenges in this How to Be a Loving Wife Bible Study program is to look at things from different points of view. Let's meet the challenge with the topic of love. Many people have been hurt in their lives so deeply that they're afraid to love again, because they don't want to experience the kind of pain that the loss of love causes, ever again. I have to ask you, if God is love, and you feel love for someone, but don't share it, aren't you keeping God from them? How many times have you selfishly kept God to yourself by holding back love?

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1 John 4:16

And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him.

1 John 4:18

There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.

Look for that verse again later in our program, too.

Bible Trivia about being a loving wife ... Have you ever thought about how much love you put into the things you do for your loved ones? When you cook a meal, when you keep house, when you mend a button on a shirt, do you do these kinds of things with love or is it mostly obligation and begrudgingly? Are you angry that you have to spend your time on someone else? Do you feel like they should do it themselves? Do you ever feel like they "owe" you for the things you've done for them? Is it so easy to forget that no matter what you do, or who you do it for, you're really doing it for Jesus? Remember this scripture that we just read a few moments ago?

Matthew 25:40

And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.

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A Loving Woman Endures

I promise you this my friend, when you find it the most difficult to do something with love for someone, is when it counts the most. Sometimes it makes us just want to kick the dirt and stomp our feet and shake our fists because the Lord wants us to do things, especially love people that we may rather not want to. Check out Matthew 22:28-31. And it's not even a natural thing to be unloving, if you think about it, it goes against our nature, because we are made in the image of God, therefore, we are naturally Godly and loving, however, because of Original Sin, we are tempted by the devil at every opportunity to act ungodly and unloving. I'm going to show you what Jesus said, according to both Matthew and Luke, because both are so riveting, and I don't want you to miss the importance of this topic:

Matthew 5:44-46

44 But I say unto you, love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;
45 That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.
46 For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even the publicans the same?

Luke 6:31-35

31 And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise.
32 For if ye love them which love you, what thank have ye? for sinners also love those that love them.
33 And if ye do good to them which do good to you, what thank have ye? for sinners also do even the same.
34 And if ye lend to them of whom ye hope to receive, what thank have ye? for sinners also lend to sinners, to receive as much again.
35 But love ye your enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the Highest: for he is kind unto the unthankful and to the evil.

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God Wants You to Be a Loving Woman

Our Father wants us to go the extra mile. My dear friend, here comes one of those times when you're gonna want to clench your teeth and purse your lips and puff and sneer at me (kinda reminds me of what I suppose Leviathan to look like), but if you think that the Lord led you here because He wants you to improve just a little bitty bit, I'm afraid we may not be on the same page, so to speak. I'm certain that any amount of improvement is appreciated, but think about it, potential bride of Christ, giving only minimal effort ... Heck, anyone can improve just a little. You're not auditioning for a bit part in an off Broadway play here, you're asking to be worthy of being with Jesus for eternity. Is a little improvement enough? Take a look at this next Scripture in our How to be a loving wife Bible study and then we will discuss it to understand it better:

James 4:7-10

7 Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
8 Draw nigh to God, and He will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded.
9 Be afflicted, and mourn, and weep: let your laughter be turned to mourning, and your joy to heaviness.
10 Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and He shall lift you up.

Do whatever it takes. Humble yourself to God and He will be there with open arms to help you before you know it. Stop experimenting with sin, to see how much you may get away with. Cleanse your inner soul. Stop playing games. Face the fact that you have allowed and maybe even enjoyed the lifestyle that includes sin, and you will probably experience disgust and sadness and anger, and all kinds of emotional whirlwinds that the devil would love for you to hold on to and continue in, but pull a fast one on him and turn it into repentance.

And then, my friend, you will feel an overwhelming relief. You will feel the freedom of Grace. It's time to get down to business ... God business. Make a choice. When you're face down in the dirt, before you get on your feet you have to get on your knees. And then, precious friend, He shall lift you up!

A Loving Woman is Precious

Remind yourself also that even though this is a 28 step How to be a Loving Wife Bible Study program ... It very well may take more than 28 days to be able to claim that you're a rock solid virtuous woman. How long have you been following the world? Chances are, much longer than 28 days. Now, that doesn't mean that if you've followed the world for 28 years, it's going to take 28 years to get back to your child of God little girl that you're seeking for. You must have patience, but be persistent. As you know, you only get out of something what you put into it.

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How to Be a Loving Wife Warning

Being that we're on the topic of love, I'm compelled to share Jesus' words about what will happen towards the end of time:

Matthew 24:12

And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold.

That sounds so very sad and even a bit scary. But, alas ... It is a Biblical prophecy given to us by Jesus Himself. He says Love itself will diminish. Discover the true essence and meaning of the love of many shall wax cold.

The Apostle Paul explains this in detail:

2 Timothy 3:1-7

1 This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.
2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,
3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,
4 Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;
5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.
6 For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts,
7 Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the Truth.

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Is it just me, or does that sound frightfully familiar to the way things are right now?! Here ... Let me re-word that so you'll get the picture crystal clear.

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Be certain of this, that in the last days it will be a dangerous time (for your soul). People will love their own selves, they will be greedy, braggers, prideful, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, unnatural, promise breakers, liars, without self-control, violent, hateful of those that are good, betrayers, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God, claiming to have a religion, but denying the power of God. Stay away from these. They are the kind of people that sneak into houses and make prisoners of silly women, who are easily persuaded by sin, always learning, but never seeing Truth.

Now, imagine that this isn't only talking about people you may have heard of, it's at every corner of every city of every country in the world. Let me ask you, isn't this a perfect description of what you watch on television? You don't have to go out into the world for your soul to be taken hostage. The world can creep right into your own home, and teach you endlessly, burdening you with sins, and blinding you from the Truth.

Television, magazines, social media, junk mail, radio, telephone calls, texts, you name it, and the enemy will use it as a mode of entrance into an unsuspecting soul. Notice that Paul specifically warned that women are susceptible to this, so I just want to warn you ... Be on guard ... Be alert ... Protect your virtue and don't let any of these things affect your ability or your desire to love, because if it does, it directly affects your relationship with Jesus.

Dear friend, being a loving wife is the key. If you have love in your heart, you've got it made, because Jesus taught us that it is the greatest commandment. And if your love for the Lord is strong, being virtuous becomes a much simpler task.

Galatians 5:14

For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this; Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.

A Loving Woman is Genuine

Whenever you have a decision to make (remember, most choices in life are a test of your virtue), and if you can't decide what is right, always imagine how you're going to feel after the decision is made and what consequences of your decision will come about. Don't be afraid to analyze things ahead of time, it's the smart thing to do.

That will make it easier to decide many times. Don't be hasty. Be predictable. Consider all of the "what ifs." The world may think it's cool to be spontaneous and impulsive, but believe this Truth, it's better to be level headed and ask the Holy Spirit to guide you. He is your friend and counselor. He loves you.

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How many times have you laid down to sleep, praying for the Lord to keep your soul through the night, and wished you had made a different choice about something earlier in the day ... Maybe you could have been a more loving wife or a more loving woman. Slow down in your life. Be patient and intelligent in making choices. Eternity is a good perspective to use when making decisions. Is your choice something that will even matter 10 years from now, or how about in the even longer run, will it effect your eternal life?

And don't be afraid to change your mind midway through anything. People joke all the time about how a woman has a right to change her mind, so change it for the good. If you catch yourself, or it becomes obvious that things are going wrong, that you're not happy with a decision you've made, that you wish you had acted more like a loving woman in any way in any circumstance, by all means, put on the brakes and resolve it, right then. You are not obligated to see a bad decision through. God will smile and forgive you.

Remember again, what this verse says, 'she bringeth her food from afar.' When you work hard to maintain a virtuous lifestyle, and you've traveled a long way, don't let the enemy steal away the virtue that the Lord treasures in you. He's depending on you to distribute that treasure (your virtues) that He imports to you, to others too.

Another How to be a Loving Wife Bible Study Point of View

Perhaps the "food" in this verse, is wisdom. Maybe this means that a virtuous woman will seek the mind of the Lord through prayer, through the Bible, through other Christians, etc., until she is satisfied that she knows Truth. A virtuous woman will seek the Truth, no matter how difficult it may seem.

Many times, lessons are medicinal, and some are more attention getting than others, but all are important. So on a less medicinal note, I'd like to tell you about a loving woman that I once knew. She was my aunt, and she was from Yugoslavia. She has been deceased for a number of years now, but I can remember her face as if she were sitting right in front of me. I think what I remember most about her was her loving spirit. I don't remember ever hearing a word out of her mouth that wasn't loving or a face more filled with compassion.

She would continually tell everyone how much she loved them, and how beautiful they were, many times sincerely looking into their eyes with their chin cradled in her cupped hands, and you could feel the love from the depths of her soul. She listened to people with total concentration and interest. There wasn't one thing about her that wasn't genuine. She, to me, was a loving woman, and a loving wife, and she could not contain her love for others. She is inspiring to me. Perhaps you know a loving woman who has impressed you similarly. It's good to be inspired by loving goodness.

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The Truth is love never fails!

1 John 4:16

And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him.

And as always, reflect on God's Grace, every day of your life.

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