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Good day, friend. Today, we're going to talk about being good.
If you were to create an endangered species list, "goodness" would be
up near the top. Evil has been slowly killing off this virtue in
women and replacing it with it's own family of "untamed animals" ...
Being a Good Wife Bible Trivia questions for you ... What comes to
mind when I mention the word whoredom? I ask because this term seems
to be reserved in this day and age for the practice of harlotry as
they called it way back when, or prostitution as it is referred to
today, but when you become familiar with the text of the Bible,
you'll find that anything that led people (and not only women either)
away from the Lord was considered whoredom. For those who are
exasperated by the Truth of the word, or are offended by it's
repugnance, I don't blame you. Some actions which the world practices
that are considered normal ... Or good, are just as repulsive to our
Lord. So as not to offend, instead of the word whoredom, I'll use the
word 'evil' instead.
How Did This Happen?
I've mentioned how the enemy ever so slowly tempts people into
believing evil is good, and I'll give you a good example so you can
understand it a little clearer and get another perspective of it. If
you put a frog in a pot of cold water and put it on the stove and
slowly boil the pot, the frog will stay in the water until it boils
to death because the change is so slow, it gets used to the gradual
changes of temperature and doesn't notice that it's in grave danger.
But boil a pot of water and throw a frog into the boiling pot and the
frog will jump out of the pot immediately because the danger is
Now, let me tie in to our next Being a Good Wife Bible topic. Did you
know that not many years ago, it was illegal to cuss on television,
much less much else of what they do now? Television and the film
industry, until recently, have probably been the largest demise of
virtue and promoters of 'evil' in our lifetime.
Think of how this influential medium of "entertainment" has gone from
The Walton's, where good morals were taught, to The Simpson's, and so
much worse (I don't even like to name the programs I'm referring to,
because even their titles are indecent). In this day and age instead
of promoting goodness, it's the unraveling of morals that is praised.
In between were subtle changes that slowly allowed more and more evil
of every kind to infiltrate innocent minds and slowly convince people
that evil is in style, like a new trend.
Does this remind you of a frog you heard of recently? Commercials are
probably the worst. Does it not bother anyone that our cherished
little children's mushy little brains are unsuspectingly being filled
with filth while we stand by believing it's all wholesome and funny
and proper enough because the world accepts it? How much more naive
are we going to get?
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They have public service announcements on TV that ask, "It's 8:00, Do
you know where your children are?" ... But why don't they warn about
the danger that they're in right in their own living rooms?
Do you know what this television is teaching your children?
If Jesus was sitting in your living room with you and the family,
could you honestly be comfortable watching just about any television
show or movie today, and be confident that this amusement is what the
Lord approves of for His children to watch and learn? Or would you
hide your face in shame? Not only is this evil viewed, but it is
practiced by most of society each and every day. They don't realize
that what they're watching is evil, except in extreme cases. Instead,
they think it's just "normal." In the meanwhile, they're being
brainwashed, over, and over and over again.
From the Lord's point of view, is this virtuous?
Ask Yourself Questions
Am I teaching my children good virtues? Am I sitting with them and
when something evil is presented as normal, do I point it out to my
children (and myself) and say it out loud to expose the lies to the
light of Truth? Ask yourself in everything you do: Is this really a
virtuous deed, or has society caused me to accept evil as acceptable
because of it's gradual lures away from godliness? You may not have
noticed the deception, but rest assured, God does.
Does this mean that watching television is bad and that you won't be
virtuous if you do? Not at all. But if you don't identify the evil
when it appears, and my friend, it happens every few seconds in some
cases, or if you don't turn your head when half naked people appear
on the screen, and if you allow your family to believe that you think
that when evil is presented on the screen, that you're in harmony
with it being normal, then you may want to have a little pow wow with
your Creator and Lord and ask His advice about if you're on the same
page as He concerning the amusement you choose and allow your family
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Being a Good Wife Bible Escape
If anyone ever told you it was easy to live a godly life in such an
ungodly world as we live in, they lied. As I said before, it's not
easy, but things easily attained are usually not worth much. The
trials and tribulations that you endure as a virtuous Christian woman
are what make you different from the rest. Actually, ceasing to watch
television shows that are rubbish would not really be considered
trial and tribulation (though I'm certain there are multitudes of
women who will feel like they're going through some kind of
withdrawal if they give up certain TV programs that they've let
themselves become emotionally involved in), but the ridicule that you
might receive from family or friends because you choose not to invite
unrighteousness into your home may be a bit more of a trial.
Allow me to be a bit candid. Do you want to be different? Are you
willing to do what it takes? You certainly have the capability. Sweet
friend, if you choose not to, Jesus will invite someone who will.
Invite them to what? He will invite them to be His bride.
Call 'em Like You See 'em
Again, I stress to you, identify evil whenever it is presented in any
form, by anyone or anything, at anytime. Tell the Truth out loud
about it. Especially in front of children who will surmise that all
of the filth that is smuggled and snuggled into their precious little
minds is okey dokey if you don't tell otherwise.
1 Thessalonians 5:22-23
22 Abstain from all appearance of evil.
23 And the very God of peace sanctify you wholly; and I
pray God your whole spirit and soul and body be preserved blameless
unto the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.
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I want you to know that it is understood that you can't help it that
things appear on television or anywhere really, which aren't
virtuous. Everyone knows that you didn't ask for the world to bring
it to you. Billboards. Newspapers. Radio. School. Friends. Family.
Sometimes you can't avoid it. It's not your fault that the enemy
presents evil to you, and if it seems like it happens to you more
than most others you know, it's either because you have become more
virtuous so now you're more aware of it, or it's because you're
getting closer to the Lord and the enemy is afraid his chances for
winning your soul are getting slimmer, so he turns up the heat.
What you can do is make every effort you can to avoid it, as
Paul said above, and may God count you blameless.
Now, it would simply be unfair to give Hollywood all of the credit
for the rapid deterioration of virtue in our time. The internet,
although it has only become popular to the average family in the last
couple of decades, has quite possibly surpassed the destruction of
virtue that television and film have imposed. With the click of a
button, people get addicted to "surfing" from one form of evil to
another, day after day. For every site you visit, the possibility of
receiving E-mail or pop ups from undesirable sources gets ever
higher. If you're not positively certain who an "E-Mail" is from, it
could very well be Evil-Mail instead of Electronic-Mail.
Not only is the content of the internet potentially dangerous, but
with the capability of others to send "Instant Messages" to almost
anyone and everyone, and the ability to gain access to personal
information about you, the computer can be extremely dangerous.
Parental controls can only filter out so much, and hackers, stalkers,
sex offenders and profit seekers consider everyone open season. Don't
get caught in the undertow when you're "surfing" the net.
It may be a net you can't get out of. Even when you're seeking
something as innocent as sending an electronic birthday card to your
grandmother, or looking up a recipe for chicken soup, you'll most
likely see instance after instance of advertisements or links to
things that the Lord would not like to be impressed upon the mind of
His beloved. In fact you can include most every kind of social media
in this admonishment. Be alert. Your smart phone may not be so smart,
and it certainly doesn't have the best interest of your soul at heart.
Ohhh, just forget I said that. 🤐
It's kind of like a clever lawyer, who presents something to the
jury, knowing it isn't allowed, but when the opposing lawyer objects
and the judge says, "The jury will disregard counsel's last
statement," will they really be able to forget what was said? You
can't un-see something you've already seen. When you're surfing the
net, Be sure that your lifeboat (God) is sitting next to you when you
Don't view the things that you know in your heart the Lord wouldn't
approve of. Without much discretion, the dreaded viruses that
computer users fear are like a broken fingernail compared to the
fatal disease that the evil available on the internet can infect your
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Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.
1 Peter 1:15-16
15 But as he which hath called you is holy, so be ye holy
in all manner of conversation [living];
16 Because it is written, Be ye holy; for I am holy.
Just wanted to repeat the verse we're studying here one more time:
I'd also like to repeat a paragraph that you read in the last step to
sort of set the pace for what we're going to talk about next.
How to Become a Good Wife Truth ... If you are a married woman, you
are the queen of your household and your husband is the king. You
work together as a team, for the good of all in your family. You have
to trust one another in order for the family to work in harmony and
be profitable servants representing Jesus.
The True King of the Castle
Do you find it difficult being a Good Wife, because you believe your
soul-mate lacks fortitude?
The paragraphs ahead contain some frank but valid suppositions. As
your friend, I firmly believe that the Truth, though it may sting at
first, is the best way to attack a problem, so I've taken the no
holds barred approach to this particular section, and I hope that you
will, with open mind and heart, realize that it is my purpose for you
to discover how to improve your life so that you can better serve and
represent your Christ Jesus beloved.
Being a Good Wife Bible Reminder
Please remember this ... If any of the following does not apply to
you, chances are, you know someone to whom it does and perhaps
someday you can help another sister in Christ with your objective
understanding of their situation. Okay, the scenario goes something
like this: A man and a woman begin courting. I like to use that word,
courting, instead of dating, because in today's day and age, the word
dating seems to imply that perhaps the person or people that are
involved, are not really seeking their soul mate, but just wooing
people for the sport of it.
So sorry to keep interrupting, but one more little thing before we
begin. There are scads of couples who get married to a person that is
not their soul-mate. There are marriages that weren't meant to be,
from the beginning ... Marriages that perhaps are not holy in the
eyes of the Lord. Many people stay in these relationships out of
obligation or fear. It is a very delicate matter and if you love the
Lord and you are in this situation, it can tear you up inside. The
best advice I can give to you, is to ask counsel of the Holy Spirit
for guidance and also see the studies on Christian
Divorce and Lost Love
to help you understand what the Bible says about this delicate issue.
At any rate ... Man ... Woman ... Courting ... Decide to marry ...
Well, I better tell you a few little details about the matter. The
bride in this scenario comes from a family with a dominant mother and
passive father. Her mother always had the last word, in every matter,
and her dad ... Well, he tolerated. The groom in this scenario comes
from a family with much the same personality traits. Is it so unusual
that both would come from families where the mother was dominant and
the father passive? Not at all. It's very common and has been since
Adam and Eve. Think about it. How many married couples do you know
that fall into this general description? My guess is the majority.
Most women inherently from Eve, think they're the boss, and men,
unfortunately settle for it and follow. Ewwwww! Ain't it ugly? No,
really, I'm not just trying to be funny. It should be repulsive to
So, the bride, right from the engagement, makes all the decisions
about the wedding, because as tradition has it, the family of the
bride pays for the wedding, and the family of the groom pays for the
booze, so the groom feels like he really has no right to contest any
choices she makes concerning the celebration. This unfortunately may
set the tone for the rest of the marriage. Incidentally, who exactly
decided what wedding etiquette is and are the wedding police going to
arrest you if you don't follow what is considered tradition?
Okay, back to our Being a Good Wife Bible warning warning scenario
... After the wedding and honeymoon, real life sets in, and
inevitably, because of each individual's choice to follow in the
footsteps of their parents' ... And by a progression and
intensification of the dominant and passive characteristics of each
individual applied to every circumstance of the marriage, the
supposed merging of two souls into one, instead begins to separate.
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The bride confides in her mother, who advises her to be a control
freak. (No whining now. If it's true, it's true. Of course she
wouldn't use that term.) The groom confides in his dad (his mentor?
no, more like a fellow victim of misery) who advises him to just keep
the peace. So he becomes more and more passive, while she becomes
more and more dominant. He hates it, she hates it, and they're each
causing the other to behave this way. It's kind of like having a dual
control electric blanket, and the controls get switched. The cold
natured person keeps turning the temperature up but keeps getting
colder and the warm natured person keeps turning the temperature down
but keeps getting hotter!
You have to switch the controls ... Duh!
In this scenario, each person loses respect for their spouse. Many
end up divorcing, but many just endure for the rest of their lives,
continuing in the mutual torture, when marriage is supposed to be
mutually satisfying. I should repeat however, many of these couples
are really not soul-mates to begin with, and were too hasty to marry
before they found out the Truth of the matter ... Some things were
just never meant to be, but we humans like to think we know
what we're doing without making absolutely certain with God
For these reasons (and others), people get in the habit of being
sarcastic, mean, and bitter in their everyday lives with their
selected mate. If there was once any affection between the two, it
vanishes, sometimes quickly and sometimes over time, and the mutual
disrespect is observed by friends, and family, especially the
children who adopt the same characteristics (believing that it's
normal) and the cycle just keeps on going.
Being a Good Wife Bible Note: Jesus never wants His bride to lose
affection for Him ... Ever!
If you find yourself in this predicament, you may secretly have
thought that you have trouble being a virtuous woman ... Because your
man is ... Less than virtuous. He isn't a take control kinda guy.
He's weak and spineless. He has no ambition, he's not easily
motivated, he's lazy, he's inconsiderate, he's this and that and
there's hardly a good quality you can think of about him. And why
should you be such a jewel for such a slob, eh? Here comes that Being
a Good Wife Bible Caution part I was telling you about. Have you been
chanting: I'm the king of the castle, and you're the dirty rascal!
... To your husband? (Not out loud of course, but in the back of your
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Have you created a monster? If you weren't such a persistent little
cuss, would he have acquired the kind of masculinity that you wish he
now had? Not necessarily, but maybe. If not out of necessity, out of
naturalness. If he had laid down the law right from the get go, would
you have embraced the feminine role and allowed him to be the leader
and king of the castle? Truthfully ... Most women would have fought
it, because of what has been instilled in them. Would you have cut
him down if he tried to be the ruler of the roost, because of the
principles you were taught in your upbringing?
(Just a little side note ... I feared that the word "cuss" may have
been a bit abrasive for some, so I looked it up in my Webster's for
y'all. Of course the word is a homograph ... One of two or more words
spelled alike but differing in meaning. The first meaning of course
is: curse or swear. The second meaning, which I had always assumed
meant brat, or the like, is not, but appropriately enough is: Fellow!
So, being an avid fan of clean humor, I feel justified in addressing
women who want to dominate their men with the epithet "persistent
There are lots and lots of questions to ask yourself. There are two
sides to every story. The question is, can you be woman enough to
admit it, repent, and work hard to help a man that quite possibly you
contributed to turning into a wimp, to become the man you want him to
be? The man of your dreams may be being held captive ... By you!
Again, please remember this Being a Good Wife Bible Disclaimer: If
any of this does not apply to you, chances are, you know someone to
whom it does and perhaps someday you can help another sister in
Christ with your objective understanding of their situation. Now,
granted, there are some instances where the Lord has brought people
together with a plan to save a weak soul, and it may involve a lot of
strength on the woman's part, but it's probably a pretty good bet
that if the strength that was intended to save, has turned into
dominance instead of edifying and uplifting your soul-mate to where
he eventually acquires the strength needed to be dominant, then
you're no longer on a rescue mission from God, you're on the road to
The bottom line is, neither of you are doing any good as a servant of
the Lord if you're living under such duress. You must decide if this
is truly your soul-mate sent from God and that your marriage is holy
in His eyes or if you're both just growing old graciously (?) because
of obligation or fear or some other distorted reason. Ask the
Holy Spirit for guidance.
If you decide that you are indeed soul-mates, it's time to fix your
relationship. Somebody has to make the first move. You must step down
before he can step up. Absolutely no person should ever be used as a
ladder, so that someone else can feel taller. A castle does not have
two kings. Granted, this may not be the exact scenario, but in
general, this fits most of the "matrimonially challenged" marriages
you will find. Infidelity and other passion crimes (if you'll excuse
the expression) are usually off shoots of this general problem which
is the root.
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You may give yourself reasons that seem very valid for your actions.
You may believe that if you didn't "wear the pants" in the family,
you would be financially kaput. No matter what excuses you come up
with ... Something isn't working. If you haven't figured out the
Truth of the role of the man and the role of the woman by now, we
will be working on it more throughout the program, so don't lose
If you have already gone through a divorce because of circumstances
similar to what we're talking about, remember that sometimes the Lord
takes things away that get between us and Him, so before you start
getting down on yourself for divorcing, if you've already taken that
route, you may want to reflect on that. Another thing to consider is
that God's timing isn't always our timing. What do I mean by that? If
you have divorced, sometimes a purpose will come along in your life
very quickly to bring you closer to the Lord and glorifying Him, but
some people need to learn other lessons before an obvious reason
appears for what has happened. Be patient. Press on. Don't give up.
And sometimes, difficult as it may be to face, we do things that are
not in God's plan. We are wrong. We do wrong things. Does that mean
that we are worthless? Does that mean we are unforgivable? Does that
mean our future is doomed? Does that mean that we cannot take our
wrongs and ask God to make them work for good? Ask! Your loved ones,
especially of the female gender will lift an eyebrow at you and
express that they think you're crazy to let a man rule you like the
Bible teaches. Don't be bullied into taking the world's view. There
are Christians that do and will support you in your choices.
46 While He yet talked to the people, behold, His mother
and His brethren stood without, desiring to speak with Him.
47 Then one said unto Him, Behold, thy mother and thy
brethren stand without, desiring to speak with thee.
48 But He answered and said unto him that told Him, Who is my mother? and who are my brethren?
49 And He stretched forth His hand toward His disciples,
and said, Behold my mother and my brethren!
50 For whosoever shall do the will of my Father which is
in Heaven, the same is my brother, and sister, and mother.
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Being a Good Wife Bible Fears
You must understand that they have not seen the light that you have.
Remember, Jesus' own family doubted His identity, and that's why He
And they were offended in Him. But Jesus said unto them, A Prophet is
not without honour, save in his own country, and in his own house.
So, you could change the direction of the "tradition" of your family,
the way your sons and daughters view the proper role of man and
woman, and put an end to generations of unrighteousness, but beware,
because it was you that discovered it, and those who are close to you
can't believe that little ol' you could possibly discover anything so
profound, they will most probably choose to oppose you. Don't be
surprised. Being a Good Wife Bible Path to Peace ... Oh dear friend,
have I mentioned the peacefulness in your soul that you will embrace
when you start this new way of life and God's Grace and blessings
shower down on you because you have chosen righteousness over
selfishness? Better get an umbrella!
Wouldn't it be nice to purposely do something "good" for your
soul-mate, every chance you can get? Don't keep a tally of who owes
who for good deeds done, and don't let laziness hinder you from it.
Even if you've been together for 50 years, you can leave a nice
little note or bring breakfast in bed or cook a special candlelight
dinner or pack a little picnic or write a love poem or leave
chocolate kisses in a briefcase or a lunchbox. There are countless
ways to be good to one another. It's contagious you know.
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If you don't have an earthly husband, I bet Jesus would love it if
you did any of those kind of things for or with Him, too. A picnic,
even a cup of coffee, just you and the Holy Spirit together ... Let
the love flow!
Just a thought.
And as always, reflect on God's Grace,
every day of your life.
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There is a force out there that is attempting to overtake us all; it is Satan. There is another force that is protecting us from him; it is the Holy Spirit. It is a battle for souls. This battle is called Spiritual Warfare, and like it or not, you are right in the middle of it.
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