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BE A BETTER MOM

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HOW TO BE A BETTER MOM

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THE VIRTUOUS WOMAN
A RECIPE

STEP #11


Welcome back ...

Today's Virtuous Vitamin is
~DISCRETION~

ability to make responsible decisions


Proverbs 31 ... Verse 19
She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.


ARE YOU A BELOVED MOM AND LOVING MOM
HOW TO BE A BETTER MOM PATH TO PEACE

My dear friend, we've been through ten steps together now, and you've endured a LOT of repetition. You've read the same concepts and principles, just mixed up in different sentences over and over again, and there's a reason for that. You've come to believe that the things the world teaches are acceptable, right, normal, true, standard. You've believed these things for a long time, because they've been instilled in you time and time and time again, so to learn a new thing is going to take a lot of reiteration especially if you want it to become second nature, or a new lifestyle. Any time you make a major life change, it takes a lot of getting used to. Shucks, even if you move the trash can to a different place in your kitchen, you'll find yourself going to the old spot over and over and over again until your mind finally accepts and gets used to the new location. We've got a lot of changes taking place, so I urge you to ...

STICK WITH ME!

The spindle and the distaff are both parts of the spinning wheel. Itís doubtful that many people use a spinning wheel anymore, but when you think of a woman using a spinning wheel, do you picture her in her home or in a factory? Perhaps we could relate this verse to being a homebody. We already talked about being a homemaker or in other words, staying at home, serving the Lord during the hours that society has established as "working hours." Now let's talk about being a homebody. That's right, someone who simply loves to stay at home ... Whenever possible. Home is where the heart is.

Does a virtuous woman choose to go out with the girls, where a plethora of evil and temptation awaits ... Or would she rather be at home with her family, tending to her precious loved ones and enriching her family life? What can the world outside of the home, possibly have, that could get you one step closer to God? I'd like to remind you of two things I've mentioned before: Any time you are not spending time with God, you are spending time with the world ... And ... Spending time with the world can occur within the doors of your own home. Be alert.


BELOVED MOM AND LOVING MOM TRUTH
HOW TO BE A BETTER MOM BIBLICAL FACTS

With all my being, I hope you'll open your heart and think about this from God's eyes. There's no doubt that the world is jam packed with "entertainment" of all kinds and things that look fun and exciting and pleasing to the senses. Because you have been taught that the entertainment of the world is righteous, it probably makes you want to roll your eyes and spit a great big old PTHHHHH at me for suggesting that most activities away from home are dangerous territory for your soul. Everybody goes out and parties. Everyone has a night out with the girls. Everybody this and everyone that ... But just because everyone else is doing something, does that make it right? Everyone thinks it's okay, because society accepts it. But what does God think?

Matthew 22:14
Many are called, but few are chosen.

Know why few people are chosen?

Because few CHOOSE Him!

Remember hearing this a million times when you were growing up ... "Just because everybody else jumps off a cliff, does that mean that you should jump too?"

IS THAT YOUR IDEA OF FUN?

Let me give you just one little scenario of what most women in today's world think is acceptable and ... Fun.


BEING A BELOVED MOM AND LOVING MOM
HOW TO BE A BETTER MOM FOR GOD

After work a married woman meets with two of her girlfriends for an adult beverage at a restaurant/bar. She adapts her work attire, a "business suit" with skirt 8 inches above the knee and 2 sizes too tight, by losing the jacket, which covered a silky spaghetti strap chemise underneath, with coordinating bra straps fashionably (?) showing. She wears a cross necklace as though it somehow justifies the promiscuous style she chooses. As she enters the establishment where she is to meet her two friends, she carefully takes inventory of the customers and squeezes through the crowded waiting area, which means brushing past at least 3 or 4 people and saying "excuse me" with a flirtatious smile, before joining her party. Once seated, the girls each share gossip about the people at their particular place of employment and she orders a drink and an appetizer with a wink to the waiter. Conversation continues with the telling of the newest dirty jokes that each heard over the week, laughing much too loudly, then personal and confidential topics (secrets which belong between soul mates only) are openly discussed, commented and advised upon by all three. Occasional glances to various men throughout the "happy hour" are exchanged (some even married and with their families), without shame or even the slightest feeling of wrongdoing. She suddenly becomes very aware of her wedding band, and so she won't lose any prospective attention, she sits on her left hand. The hour comes to a close and when she reaches her car, she puts her jacket back on before going home.

How very indiscreet ... From Jesus' point of view ... But harmless and innocent from today's woman's eyes. This is just normal behavior to most women. Now let's turn the tables and pretend that instead of this being a woman in the story, pretend it's your soul-mate. OUCH! The story suddenly takes on an ugliness that you probably didn't recognize a moment ago doesn't it?

It's as if today people forget that they're married ... Or just plain don't care! Many people behave this way in the very presence of their mate. Guess what ... Jesus is right there watching, no matter who is present or absent.

It may still seem normal to you, or no big deal, because it is so commonplace, but one day, when you become sensitive to God's will for you as a woman ... For ALL women ... You will realize just how heart wrenching it is to your Father. (Oh yeah, and did I mention, you're a prospective Bride for His Son?!)


BELOVED MOM AND LOVING MOM PROMISE
HOW TO BE A BETTER MOM JOURNEY

Remember, this is just a scenario of a "happy hour". You also know very well what goes on during the girl's night out, etc. You know yourself that you've even seen women at the grocery store behave in such a manner that it makes one ashamed to be a woman. The world has taught them such. Pray for them.

James 4:4
... know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.

Remember, satan is the prince of this world and his intention is to win your soul away from God. The test is to see if you will be persuaded by his trickery like Eve was.

Genesis 3:13
And the LORD God said unto the woman, What is this that thou hast done? And the woman said, The serpent beguiled me, and I did eat.


BELOVED MOM AND LOVING MOM VOW
HOW TO BE A BETTER MOM FOR THE KIDS

I know, I know ... You can't help but think that I'm just a little too cynical about the world and it's effect on people. You might think I need to take a chill pill or to "get with the times," ... be a "Today's woman," but the times, and being a today's woman are exactly what scares me for this generation.

You know, it starts at a very young age, too. I've just given you a scenario involving an adult woman, but what about girls in their teens or pre-teen years. What do you think they're doing at slumber parties in this decade? Are they going on scavenger hunts to find a paper clip and a bobby pin and a 1982 penny, and playing scrabble, and croquet, and eating pizza and popcorn ... Or are they playing Truth or Dare, and inviting boys over to play Spin the Bottle, and sneaking out to get a tattoo or a piercing, or alcoholic beverages or worse?

And where is their supervision?

They had to get these new ideas from somewhere ... Where do you think they came from?
(Answer: The world.) When little girls are three, four, five years old, they don't think about those kind of things. You go ahead and ponder on it for a while. Okaaaaaaay, I'll help you ponder on it.

VIRTUE IS NATURAL

Think back to when you were a little girl again. I'm talking about as far back as you can possibly remember, like when you were a toddler, up until the time when you were introduced to the world, regularly. Normally this is when a child goes to day care, pre-school, or kindergarten.

If you take a look at your innocent age, you probably had a little dolly that you loved and cared for so meticulously ... In fact, you were probably a better mother to that doll than most mothers are to their own living, breathing, children. You probably nurtured that little baby doll with love and tenderness that couldn't be matched by Mother Theresa. You didn't leave that baby out of your sight for a moment. All you thought about, was how to best take care of your baby, your pretend house, and all that went with it. You had virtue like nobody's business. In fact, if anyone did anything that compromised the virtue of your little world that you were protecting, you better believe, it was going to be challenged by your ferocious toddler righteousness, by golly, and that right quick!

WHERE IS SHE?

Where did ALL those little virtuous women go? I'll tell you where ... Impressed by the world and the things of the world, enamored and enchanted via television, school, friends, big sisters, advertising, etc. They certainly weren't influenced by the Bible, that's for sure.


BELOVED MOM AND LOVING MOM PASSAGES
HOW TO BE A BETTER MOM FOR YOU

She's still in there, you know. Your innocence, your virtue, your strong faith, everything. It just needs polished. Here's a little test you can take, and you probably don't even know you do this, but I'll bet you do. The next time you go to the grocery store and you're standing in the checkout line where a new mother is holding her infant, asleep and swaddled in a blanket on her shoulder, notice that as you look at that picture of what you pretended as a child, you'll find yourself swaying back and forth slowly, as if you were holding that baby yourself. Your head will even tilt to one side and you'll lightly sigh or whisper to yourself, "Awwwwww". It's natural, I'm telling you. It is.

So why don't women follow their natural instincts to be virtuous? Because there is an enemy out there, that doesn't sleep. There is a crafty, tricky, persuader who's enticing words are "smoother than oil" (to steal a phrase that king Solomon used when describing un-virtuous women), and your enemy is persistent as a gnat that will NOT give up.

The devil sees every instance as an opportunity to attack. His evil offerings will not appear to be bad, but he'll package them with ribbons and bows, and make them look like a gift instead of a curse. He is dressed in a tuxedo, not a red suit with a forked tail, a pitchfork in his hand and horns on his head.

2 Corinthians 11:14
And no marvel; for satan himself is transformed into an angel of light.

He will try to make you think he and his ideas are romantic, fun, intelligent, captivating, honorable even. Be alert. Be careful how you walk. Use discretion. Walk in the guidance of the Holy Spirit. Do not be deceived. He will use whatever means he can to lure you into his deceit: television shows, commercials, movies, books, magazines, billboards, food packaging, newspapers, mail, clothing, dreams, music, thoughts, even Christian holiday gimmicks such as Santa Claus and the Easter bunny. You name it, his purpose is to win your soul away from God, ANY way he can.


BELOVED MOM AND LOVING MOM SCRIPTURE
HOW TO BE A BETTER MOM FOR ALL

How can something as seemingly harmless as Santa Claus and the Easter bunny be the work of the devil? Well, you teach your children that these things, which they can see, are real, then later in life, they find out that they're not. What questions do you suppose arise in their subconscious minds about God and the Holy Spirit, who they can't see, but ARE really real?

Ephesians 6:11-18
Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness; And your feet shod with the preparation of the Gospel of peace; Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the Word of God: Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all Saints ...

1 Peter 5:8
Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour ...


BELOVED MOM AND LOVING MOM VERSES
HOW TO BE A BETTER MOM TODAY

Did you get the gist of all that? Our trials and tribulations more often than not, are not with people, but evil. You must protect yourself from the deceit and power of evil and watch out for your fellow Saints, too.

Here comes another one of those old sayings again:

ďA womanís place is in the home,Ē is falsely thought of today as a chauvinistic attitude, however, when looked at from the Lordís point of view, it is a very loving and protective admonition. God knows what the world holds outside the safety of the virtuous womanís home. In this generation, no matter how harmless the world may seem, it is abounding with ungodliness. The opinions of others does not touch the virtuous woman. She knows TRUTH.

Titus 2:3-5
The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the Word of God be not blasphemed.

There you have it ... The Bible says for the older women to teach the younger women to be "keepers at home". That doesn't ONLY mean be a good house keeper either, it means keep your self at home.


BELOVED MOM AND LOVING MOM AS GOD ASKED
HOW TO BE A BETTER MOM ADVENTURE

When the challenge of composing the Virtuous Woman program first came about, gathering supporting scripture for all of the virtues that king Lemuel's mom presented as admirable characteristics in a woman was very gratifying because if you've ever done your own Bible research on a topic, and not just read something that someone else has done all the researching on, you are rewarded with an extraordinary satisfaction when you discover that scripture consistently
confirms itself over and over and over again. But after writing the Virtuous Woman - The Recipe, even though scripture continually repeats and verifies and corroborates and validates and substantiates and proves these verses to be TRUTH, there are women who will cross their arms over their chest, scrunch up their chin, stomp their foot and dispute it vehemently because they just can't beliEVE it applies to them.

Suggesting that a woman keep herself at home in today's world is such a controversial subject, and since it seems to cause the hair on everyone's neck to stand up in defense of the world's opinion against the Bible's Word, and since I'm not a Bible scholar and just merely a servant of God, trying to assist in protecting the souls of His sheep, I thought it best to present to you various perspectives of what it means to be "keepers at home" from several different renowned sages of scripture throughout this program, like this little jewel from the Apostle John:

1 John 2:15
Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.

Buying a spinning wheel suddenly seems like a marvelous idea.


BELOVED MOM AND LOVING SUMMARY
HOW TO BE A BETTER CONCLUSION

Maybe you've had moments in your life when you haven't exactly been discreet. Maybe you've had days or years or decades of indiscretion. All you have to do is repent, ask God's forgiveness, and you're as innocent as a newborn baby again in your Father's eyes. His gift of Grace is so incomparable.

Ephesians 2:1-9
And you hath He quickened, who were dead in trespasses and sins; Wherein in time past ye walked according to the course of this world, according to the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that now worketh in the children of disobedience: Among whom also we all had our conversation in times past in the lusts of our flesh, fulfilling the desires of the flesh and of the mind; and were by nature the children of wrath, even as others. But God, who is rich in Mercy, for His great Love wherewith He loved us, Even when we were dead in sins, hath quickened us together with Christ, (by Grace ye are saved;) And hath raised us up together, and made us sit together in Heavenly places in Christ Jesus: That in the ages to come He might shew the exceeding riches of His Grace in His kindness toward us through Christ Jesus. For by Grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.

As always, reflect on God's Grace, which He makes available to us every day of our lives.

His mercy endures forever!


STEP #11

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DISCRETION

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