BIBLICAL MARRIAGES STUDY
BIBLE REFERENCES TO MARRIAGE RESEARCH
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BIBLICAL MARRIAGES BIBLE VERSES
BIBLE REFERENCES TO MARRIAGE HOPE
I hope you have chosen to take the steps within this program one
day at a time.
We
have just learned, on the previous page, that before we try to
deal with and resolve issues within our marriage, that we
should first determine IF our Marriage was meant to be and
blessed by God.
We
also learned that even if the relationship was built on a
bad foundation for whatever reason, that with repenting,
prayer and love ...
Your
marriage CAN overcome.
When
we discover problems within our relationships and marriages
...
We
become contestants in the ...
BLAME GAME
The
first question that comes to mind is:
Who's
To Blame?
That's the big question, is it not?
But,
lemme ask ya something ...
Is
it always so ... Black and White?
Are
there no gray areas?
Absolutely ...
And if TRUTH be told ... It is within these gray areas that
we seem to be most blinded.
Check
this out:
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Land of the Grey
There's a young Mother with three children
Got a stable income and a faithful husband, too.
She's searchin' for her life's meanin',
So she says to her shrink, "I'm leavin' home soon!"
Just decided that she couldn't take it anymore,
Didn't look back, she just snuck out the back door-
Chorus:
What is wrong with this picture?
We applaud this behavior
Admire how she breaks away-
Oh, it's so clearly cloudy, in the land of the grey.
There's a young Senator,
Gifted politician,
So consumed by pursuing his career.
Use to care about what the people wanted,
But now he's learned how to say what they wanna
hear.
A million lies and scandals bear his name,
But you'll never see him hide his face in shame-
Chorus:
What is wrong with this picture?
We applaud this behavior
He's a hero if he makes mistakes-
Oh, it's so clearly cloudy in the land of the grey.
What's wrong? What's right? Absolute confusion.
What's black? What's white? Everything looks hazy.
Such scenarios bring me to only one conclusion-
Maybe we've all gone crazy.
Three little kids are prayin' Mama comes home,
And a little town feels violated and betrayed.
Meanwhile, two very unhappy people
Try to excuse the messes that they've made.
But you'll never hear it stated quite that way,
We can't handle it here in the land of the grey.
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BIBLICAL MARRIAGES COUNSELING
BIBLE REFERENCES TO MARRIAGE LESSON
Most of the
time, the person at blame is obvious and it is usually due
to selfish and prideful choices.
The end can
be
quite hurtful and heartbreaking for those involved with this person and the
soul who made the poor choices usually spends their time
making excuses, for said bad choices, as to be able to hide
the guilt and/or shame.
There
are what APPEARS to be, obvious situations where we believe
that know the answer to "who's to blame" ...
Such as the
examples below:
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A husband has fits of anger and hits the wife at
times. He has even oft times hit the children and
never
apologizes after. She begins to fear for her life
and her children's lives. No one knows about his
anger because she doesn't want to hurt his
reputation as a 'good man' or the family image or
cause him to become even more violent.
But, one can only take so much ...
She leaves. |
Who's to blame
that the marriage failed?
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A man walks in on his wife cheating on him.
He asks her what he did wrong and she says "I just
wanted something different" ...
Obvious
adultery.
He leaves. |
Who's to blame
that the marriage fell apart?
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A couple starts to struggle with communication
and begins arguing all the time. One tries to talk
it out or maybe have the other one go to counseling
to try to help their marriage.
The other refuses and chooses to allow it to
escalate beyond repair.
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Who's to blame
when the marriage dies?
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A wife says that she has fallen out of love with the
husband. She doesn't want to be married anymore. He
keeps trying to keep them together, but she refuses
to stay together with him. |
Who's to
blame?
Yeah ... Pretty
obvious.
Or is it?
BIBLICAL MARRIAGES CONCERNS
BIBLE REFERENCES TO MARRIAGE WARNING
Again ... It is not always black and white.
Sometimes ...
There is a gray area.
Let's look at
several scenarios together and see if we can discern who is
to blame, shall we?
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A
husband who used to be at home a lot, now he is
"working" all the time. The wife is exhausted from
being with the kids and hates being alone all the
time. |
Who's to
blame?
Now ... What if this is the WHOLE picture ...
A family starts to struggle financially with the economy.
The wife does not work, so the husband picks up a second job
to feed the family and even tries to make a little
extra money for the wife to go shopping. She constantly
complains that he is never around and wants HER time to get out
and away from the kids. She feels
lonely because her husband is always working for the family
and she just needs to "get away" ...
Who's to blame that the marriage starts to fall apart?
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A wife gets caught looking at porn. The husband is
devastated. |
Who's fault
the marriage is falling apart?
Now ... What REALLY may have happened ...
What if ... A husband or wife so desperately wants to be intimate
with their spouse. But, he or she keeps avoiding the other
whenever the one tried to get close. They are unable to have
their sexual desires satisfied,
and they have chosen to go elsewhere to fill the void within.
Who's to blame?
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A spouse picks a JOB over the other spouse and moves
away. The marriage problems begin. |
Who's to
blame?
BIBLICAL MARRIAGES TIPS
BIBLE REFERENCES TO MARRIAGE HINTS
... A possible story from start to finish ...
One spouse gets a job promotion that the couple had been
praying about, but it requires moving to a different place. The other spouse doesn't want to move away from their
parents. So, they decide to live in different places, so
both are happy. One gets the job promotion, the other gets
the family that they didn't want to leave.
Who's to blame?
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Your spouse is late. You made a special dinner. But
they are late. They didn't call. They just showed up
late. And you spent all that time on the dinner ... And
now its cold. An argument breaks out.
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Who's to
blame?
Oh ... I forgot to mention ...
The reason
that the spouse is late is
because they were laid off and they were praying in
the car for almost an hour.
Who's to blame?
Does that change your answer?
Sometimes we don't know all sides of the story. Yet, we choose
to over react anyway.
We must not allow PRIDE to continue to break up our current
marriage or future marriage.
We
all have Free Will.
WE get
to CHOOSE how we are going to handle and respond to that
which occurs in our lives.
Remember that you get to CHOOSE
the path of pride or Love and understanding. You get to
CHOOSE whether you allow the plot of the enemy to succeed.
So, how do we
overcome this pride that we have, by not admitting it might
just be OUR fault instead of placing the blame on the other
person?
Love ...
No matter what.
The enemy of our soul can NOT prevail against the body of
Christ from without.
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Matthew 16:18
And I say also unto thee, That thou art Peter, and
upon this rock I will build my Church; and the gates
of hell shall not prevail against it. |
He must gain access from within.
So, he tries to enter as to destroy Love from within by using
our family, friends, whispers and our own fears and doubts
of our marriage by raising questions within our heart:
BIBLICAL MARRIAGES QUESTIONS
BIBLE REFERENCES TO MARRIAGE ANSWERS
Let's look at
a few of the questions that may be weighing on your mind and heart:
Why am I
not married yet? Isn't everyone supposed to get married? Here is something Paul said ...
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1 Corinthians 7:7-9
For I would that all men were even as I myself. But
every man hath his proper gift of God, one after
this manner, and another after that. I say therefore
to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if
they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain,
let them marry: for it is better to marry than to
burn. |
He is
suggesting that we stay unmarried, IF we are able...
Here is his explanation:
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1 Corinthians 7:33-35
But he that is married careth for the things that
are of the world, how he may please his wife. There
is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The
unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord,
that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but
she that is married careth for the things of the
world, how she may please her husband. And this I
speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a
snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and
that ye may attend upon the Lord without
distraction. |
So., it APPEARS
that Paul is suggesting that everyone remain unmarried as he
chose to do.
UNLESS ...
They are unable to control their passions.
Here
is another question ...
What
if my first spouse died? Am I allowed to remarry?
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Romans 7:2-3
For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the
law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the
husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her
husband. So then if, while her husband liveth, she
be married to another man, she shall be called an
adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free
from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though
she be married to another man. |
BIBLICAL MARRIAGES MORE QUESTIONS
BIBLE REFERENCES TO MARRIAGE ADDITIONAL ANSWERS
When a
spouse dies, the law of marriage no longer applies.
Here is another question ...
What if my husband or wife is unsaved? Am I supposed to
divorce them because I'm a Christian and they aren't?
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1 Corinthians 7:12-16
But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any
brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased
to dwell with him, let him not put her away. And the woman which hath an husband that believeth
not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not
leave him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the
wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband:
else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A
brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but
God hath called us to peace. For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt
save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou
shalt save thy wife? |
Paul says, No.
Do NOT leave them for that reason.
Be a
witness of JESUS to them.
If they choose to leave, Paul says ... Let them leave.
The
rules and regulations of Marriage should not be what holds
the marriage together ...
Commitment and unconditional Love should be the glue.
Commitment to Christ and to each other despite difficulties
that may arise.
Here is another question ...
I had bad experiences in my
other marriage(s), how do I restore trust in love?
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Proverbs 3:5-6
Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not
on your own understanding; in all your ways
acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths
straight. |
We should not allow our past experiences to dictate our
future. We should trust in the Lord.
Here is another
question ...
My parents got divorced and I'm so scared it will happen to
my marriage.
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Isaiah 41:10
So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be
dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold
you with my righteous right hand. |
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John 14:27
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do
not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your
hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. |
BIBLICAL MARRIAGES SHARE WISDOM
AWESOME BIBLE REFERENCES TO MARRIAGE
We should not allow the past experiences of others or old
wives' tales of children's lives following the parent's
footsteps to deceive us as to dictate our future.
Again ... We
should trust in the Lord.
Here is another question ...
I'm a Christian and I'm
dating and/or married to a Non-Christian ... Is this
acceptable?
Many Christians who like to
judge others, absolutely adore using the following Scripture
to condemn those who are involved with a Non-Christian.
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2 Corinthians 6:14
Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers:
for what fellowship hath righteousness with
unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with
darkness? |
Here
is a study which may make the TRUTH clearer for you.
So,
if you are being bombarded by questions and doubts of your
marriage by friends, family and even the whispers in your
own
mind ... Consider what JESUS said, before you hear and
adhere to those who would judge your marriage ...
Remember that
ONLY GOD knows the matters of the heart.
The TRUTH my friend is, that ONLY the Lord knows the TRUTH of
your situation.
BIBLICAL MARRIAGES SUMMARY
BIBLE REFERENCES TO MARRIAGE CONCLUSION
Obviously, He wants what is best for you, so
you must find out from HIM what it is that you are to do.
Religious leaders, Friends, Family, Paul and I can share our
opinions, but ONLY GOD can discern the TRUTH of this
particular matter and guide you down the right path. Ask HIM
to reveal the TRUTH to you. Ask Him to show you HIS Will.
Ask in Jesus' name ... Pray without ceasing. TRUST in HIM.
If you have already divorced, do not sit around and judge
yourself or let others judge ya ... That is God's job and He
believes in Mercy, Forgiveness and Grace.
What can your
worry and doubt do but cause problems for you?
Let go and
let God.
If you
have fallen into the traps of the enemy, do not allow pride
to keep you there.
We have ALL been there.
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When
you feel you must be blind
Always falling on your behind
Don't let pity be your vice
Guilt and pride are nothing nice
Get yourself up on your feet
Ask for mercy, not defeat
We don't like it when we fall
But God forgives us, scabs and all |
What things are we holding on to that are negatively
affecting our current marriage or future marriage? What do we need to deal with so our current/future marriage
can GROW?
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BIBLICAL MARRIAGES STUDY ON BIBLE REFERENCES TO MARRIAGE
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